Kutopa, zopweteka, kumapangitsa kupweteka komanso kukhumudwa, zomwe sizimapereka zopumira, zimachotsa mphamvu zonse, zomwe zimawononga - zimafotokoza za nsanje, aliyense amene amamvapo. Akatswiri azamankhwala amati, mwamphamvu, nsanje ingayerekeze ndi chisoni chachikulu cha kutayika, kusiyana pakati kokha: chisoni chikuchitikabe. Kodi ndinu ansanje? Tikuwona momwe zimakuonerani, kaya ndiyofunika kulimbana ndi mzerewu komanso momwe mungatengere pamwamba.
Zinachitika kuti ndinakulira pakati pa zikhulupiriro zokonzekera kuti: "Utchule nsanje yake!", "Musiyeni ichotse" nsanje - amatanthauza. " Ndipo, zowonadi, wokondedwa m'maganizo mwanga amakopeka ndi nsanje yofunitsitsa komanso yoyipa, ndani sakundipatsa mtundu, chifukwa chokayikira ngati mafilimu? Malingaliro anga achikondi pokhudza momwe ziyenera kukhalira, adatenthetsedwa ndi mabuku: ngwazi za nthawi yayikulu komanso yaying'ono imadzetsa nsanje ya olga yosangalatsa (kumbukirani kukayikira.
Kuyambira ndili mwana, tikuganiza kuti chikondi chenicheni chimakhala ndi nsanje - ndipo, mwa njira, timakhalanso ndi moyo kuyambira ndili mwana. Zowona, akapanga ana, tidzalephera ndipo imatha kuseketsa mawonekedwe a mwana wathu zakukhosi kwa mwana wathu. Zikuwoneka kuti zomverera zazikulu ndizosiyana - koma ndi nsanje palibe m'badwo, ndipo chikhalidwe chake chiri chokha kwa karapuza wazaka chimodzi, komanso kwa wachikondi wamkulu, komanso kwa mwamunayo wamkulu.
Dzina loyenera
Modabwitsa, akatswiri amisala, omwe akhala akuchita nsanje ndikuyitanitsa, sanathe kunena komwe zimachokera, pali ena omwe sanachite nsanje (mwachiwonekere, ndipo sanavomereze), ndipo sanavomereze kuti izi ndi chiyani, pamapeto, izo.
Ofufuza ambiri a mizimu yauzimu amavomereza kuti nsanje ndi njira yovuta, makamaka yokhudzana ndi mantha akuchepetsa chikondi, kuzindikira, udindo. Pamodzi ndi mantha, gawo lalikulu limaseweredwa ndi munthu wina! "), Mkwiyo ndi ludzu.
Ngati titenga chiphunzitsochi, chimawonekeratu: nsanje ndiyo kumverera anthu onse. Komanso, ngakhale zolengedwa zimadziwika bwino ndi zokumana nazo "zabwino" izi. Ndikukumbukira momwe banja lathu lidalamulira, mbale adabweretsa zokongola. Kutuluka kwa wopikisana naye, komwe mabanja onse anapulumutsidwa, anasintha Mosci kuti akhale osazindikira: Nthawi yomweyo anakondana kwambiri, komanso ankhanza, komanso ankhanza. Ndipo ngati "chilombo ndi maso obiriwira" chimakhudza abale athu ang'onoang'ono, ingolingalirani zomwe zimachitikira ndi miyoyo yathu!
Nsanje imafotokozedwa kuti ikuwoneka bwino, yopweteka komanso yowononga
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Chikhulupiriro ndikwachinthu cha nsanje ndi zovuta chifukwa cha kuvulala kwa ubwana, chifukwa chake munthu sanadzipulumutse; Mwachidule, m'malo modzikuza, adatsitsidwa. Munthu wotere nthawi zonse amayembekeza kuti adzasiyidwa kuti adzasiyidwe ndi winawake komanso chinthu chabwino, chifukwa siiyeneranso chikondi kapena kukhulupirika.
Izi zili choncho kotereku: Indedi, malinga ndi ziwerengero zambiri za mayamwazi zidatuluka m'mabanja osankhmula. Koma, patsogolo, ndipo ndani sachokera pamenepo? Makolo oona (ndipo ngati muli makolo, izi si zonyoza, koma kuzindikira zenizeni) sizikugwirizana ndi ana awo kuvulala kwina, komanso koyamba kuti tidzipweteke. Kachiwiri, ngakhale mutakhala bwino ndikudzidalira (mwachitsanzo, kukhala ndi amayi osazindikira ndi abambo kapena nthawi yayitali ndikudzigwiritsa ntchito mosamala) Simungadziwe cognal Mantha, mkwiyo ndi kukayikira.
Chifukwa chake, tinavomera kuti nsanje ndi yabwino kwambiri, motero ndi pakati pa anthu wamba a anthu omwe takumana nawo mwanjira ina. Timachita nsanje nafe, nsanje nafe. Zimachitika ... zokha! Sitingakulepo, sitingathenso kuyesetsa kuvomerezedwa kapena 'kusonkhana "momwe angalalikire malo abwino kuti alangize.
Chifukwa chake, bwenzi langa, cholengedwa chokongola, chopangidwa ndi banja la makolo akale ndipo adaziletsa kuti aletse, adasandulika ndi mania olamulira, ngati mwamuna wake adachedwa kuntchito kapena sanatenge foni. "Simukhulupirira kuti china chake mu ubongo chimakhala - ndipo zonse zimanyamula mseu. Kukwiya, kupweteka, kumva bwino tsopano amandipereka, "mtsikanayo adadandaula.
Chifukwa chake, tiyenera kukangana ndi mantha, kuzunzika ndikuzunza abale athu? Mwamwayi, pali njira zogwiritsira ntchito zomwe zitha kuyang'aniridwa ndikuchepetsa kukula kwa "zowukira" izi. Zowona, ndikofunikira pano kumvetsetsa kuti sangathe kuchita nsanje.
Khulupirirani koma onetsetsani
Chowonadi ndi chakuti asayansi amasiyana pakati pa mitundu inayi ya kumverera. Wokhazikika komanso womveka kwa aliyense - nsanje ndi nthano, yomwe mizu yake siyikukhala ndi mantha oyenera kapena osakonda iwo enieni.
Nsanje ndi:
Mantha. Mwanyumba yonse ya nsanje, mantha ndiko kumverera kwakukulu. Poopa kuti palibe choyipa: ichi ndi chizindikiro kuti athandize mitundu yonse. Koma kumayesedwa nthawi zonse kumakhala kovulaza komanso koopsa. Valani pankhaniyi - mawu athu.
Mkwiyo. Kuopa kumaphatikizidwa ndi malingaliro amphamvu kwambiri - mkwiyo, womwe umalankhula za kusamvana kwa gawo lanu ndi zomwe zikuchitika. Kodi mukufuna kukonda mukakhala (mukuganiza) bwanji) kusintha kwa munthu wina? Mkwiyo umafunika kupereka njira yotuluka - kumenya mapilo kuti akuthandizeni.
Kukwiya. Gorky, akukoka, kusankha mwano - chisakanizo cha chisoni ndi kudzimvera chisoni, malingaliro achilungamo komanso cholakwika cha zomwe zikuchitika. Uwu ndiye zowononga kwambiri za mawonekedwe onse a mtima, alibe "kumbuyo" - wamba.
Bwenzi langa labwino, bata ndi kusula mtima pakati pathu, lomwe layamba kuseka kampani yonse, ndikukhazikitsa dona wake gawo lenileni: Ndinaona kuti kubisika ndi mbiri yakale yomwe tidasonkhana. Nayi, chifukwa chenicheni choti mkwiyo ndi mantha ndi mantha zimatha kukwezedwa mkati.
Komabe, bwanji papita kutali? Mwana wanga yemwe amangozindikira dziko la malingaliro ndi malingaliro, zakhala zikukumana kale ndi nsanje yomwe nsanje imayenera. Amachita modekha zinthu zake zofunika pabwalo losewerera, koma ndizofunika kulumikizana ndi ine mwana wa wina aliyense (Mulungu aletse, ngati ndikulankhula naye?) - Chilichonse, Mwana amayesetsa kupita kwa ine ndi Nkhondo Konzekerani, momwe mantha amaonera: "Amayi tsopano andikonda chifukwa cha munthu wina!" Mu liwu, nsanje imamveka bwino mukayamba kuchita zinthu mwachilengedwe kuchita mantha kuti mayanjano sangasinthidwe kukhala abwino.
Nsanje yamtunduwu imadziwika kwa aliyense, ndipo nthawi zambiri ndi chizindikiro choti maubale. Kodi nchifukwa ninji zinthu zinali zolimbikitsa za nsanje? Mwina mgwirizano wanu ukuyembekezera kuti sizabwino kuposa nthawi zabwino?
Ngati mwakumana ndi nsanje yam'mimba, ndikofunikira kuchita zinthu ziwiri: khalani ndi nkhawa (lirani, gawanika ndi okondedwa anu), ngakhale ngati chikhumbo choyenera kuyankhulana ndi mnzake amakudyani kuchokera mkati. Kodi nthawi idzakupatseni mwayi wowerenga nanu, khazikani mtima ndikuchepetsa: Kodi pali chifukwa choopera ndi chisangalalo? Zidachitika kale?
Koma, mwina, funso lalikulu lomwe lidzadzifunsa yekha kuti Jeep aliyense, motere: Kodi nkofunika kukambirana za malingaliro awo ndi chinthu cha nsanje? Malangizo athu ndiwosasinthika: choyenera! Gwiritsani Ntchito "I-Mauthenga", musadzutse, musaukire, lankhulani za zomwe mwakumana nazo komanso zomwe zidawatsogolera. "Osadziwika, komanso kukayikira pachiwopsezo chachikulu kwambiri komanso chiopseze," sindimadziwa nkhawa kwambiri, ndipo ndinali ndi nkhawa kwambiri chifukwa cha inemwini, mumuuze za inemwini.
Ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa kuti ndi nsanje yoyeserera sikufunikira kumenya. Ndipo inde, mawonetseredwe akuthwa amatha kuyenda ndi chikondi chenicheni. Koma ngati mwadzidzidzi mnzanuyo sachita nsanje, salankhula zonse za kusafuna kwake! Pali, pali ena mwa anthu obisika awa - anthu omwe ali olimba kwambiri pamapazi awo, kudzikonda okha ndi anthu ena omwe adatha kusiya mantha awo chifukwa cha ubale wawo. Ndiwosowa kwambiri, ndipo nthawi zambiri kusapezeka kwa inu chifukwa chobwerera mochedwa kapena kuyenda pafupipafupi ndi mnzake wapamtima amadziletsa nsanje yachilendo.
Koma pali nthawi zina pamene milireyi yokhayo ikuchulukirachulukira komanso nthawi zambiri, ndipo tsopano nkhawa, zokayikira, mkwiyo ndi nthawi zonse ndimakhala munthawi zonse ndimakhala ndikufuna kuyimba kapena kulemba amuna anu, pezani zomwe akuchita, kuti akhudze chidwi chake, kuti athe kuyendetsa mayendedwe ake ndi kulumikizana. Khalani mumtundu wotere ndi wovuta kwambiri - ndipo ndi choncho? Nthawi zambiri munthu yemwe amadziwa bwino za nsanje (ndipo izi zimatchedwanso), zimayika mtanda pazosangalatsa komanso zomwe zimapangitsa chidwi ndi zomwe amakayikira, akwiya kapena kukayika Chikondi chake.
Malingaliro omwe amafunikira kudzudzulidwa. Nthawi yomweyo vutoli silingathetse vutoli, chifukwa nsanje yakhungu ndi gawo lowoneka la madzi oundana a mavuto amisala, chifukwa chake chimakhala mantha cha kusungulumwa ndi zowawa za kukanidwa. Onse awiriwa - zokumana nazo zomwe timakumana nazo muubwana, mobwerezabwereza "onani" machitidwe a psychotherarapist angawathandize.
Apa ndikufuna kukumbukira za "mbali yakhudzidwa" ndikulankhula za omwe ali ndi mnzake wansanje. Ndinachezeranso mbali iyi ya mipiringidzo: Ndinkachita mantha ndi kukayikira ndi madandaulo, dzina lake, ndinawona mawu anga obisika ndi "mayendedwe" awo "opanda pake". Kalanga ine, palibe chifukwa chotsogolera theka lachiwiri kwa katswiri: Popanda chilakolako chokhacho, palibe chomwe chidzachokera kwa nsanje. Koma simuyenera kupita kwa iye, kuletsa kulumikizana kwanu ndi kuyenda. Ndinayesetsa kutero, koma zinadziwika kuti: Chowonadi ndi chakuti zomwe zimayambitsa nsanje sizikhala mu machitidwe anga, koma m'maganizo mwake. Zina mwazoyenera kuti ndimakhala ndi zabwino, otha-othelwo on the othelwo adapeza zifukwa zozikika komanso kusakhutira.
Mtundu wachitatu wa nsanje yoyang'anizana: Kukayikira za mnzake kumadalira zomwe ... mumasintha! Chilichonse ndi chophweka: kuzindikira kuti izi ndizotheka kumbali imodzi, mumatsimikiza kuti pakhoza kukhala nkhani zofananira "pagombe lolakwika".
Bungwe lalikulu: Ngati ndinu pathological, kuphatikiza kapena kuphatikizidwanso, kudziwa mavuto anga, ndikofunikira kulumikizana ndi katswiri wazamisala kapena psychotherarapist
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Mtundu wachinayi ndi kansanje kake kameneka, kukayikira kolakwika ndi banja, ndipo makolo anasinthana wina ndi mnzake popanda kubisala chikondi chochokera kwa ana. Kukula, ana oterowo sadziwa kuti pali zochitika zosiyanasiyana, ndipo alibe nsanje, koma osati kwambiri: zomverera zotere sizimabweretsa ululu waukulu, m'malo mwake akuwoneka ngati kuyamwa kwakumbuyo.
Manja!
Bungwe lalikulu: Ngati ndinu pathological, kuphatikiza kapena kuphatikizidwanso, kudziwa mavuto anga, ndikofunikira kulumikizana ndi katswiri wazamisala kapena psychotefirapist. Koma kodi pali njira yodzithandizira yokha, yotsatira yomwe mungakhale yosavuta kumva mantha ndi mkwiyo? Kumene!
Monga momwe ziliri, gawo loyamba lapangidwa: Munazindikira kupezeka kwa vutoli ndikuzindikira kuti mukufuna kuchotsa. Monga lamulo, umunthu wake ndikuti sukudziwa kufunika kwanu ngati umunthu wapadera ndipo amakakamizidwa kuti mupeze ubale ndi munthu wina. Mwacibadwa, ndi izi, mumamva kuwawa nthawi zonse: zikuwoneka kuti kwa inu zomwe zimapangitsa kuti kunjaku kuziwopseza paubwenzi, ndipo simudzakhala nawo umphumphu mwa inu.
Zimatanthawuza gawo lachiwiri: Muyenera kukhalanso ndi mtengo wake, zomwe sizitengera kukhalapo kapena kusowa kwa wokondedwa wanu, kukhulupirika kwake kapena kusakhulupirika kwake. Ndipo pofuna kudzidalira, muyenera kusintha zinthu zonse zamphamvu kwambiri zomwe mumagwiritsa ntchito poyendetsa, kufufuza, kukayikira, ndi zokumana nazo. Zonsezi zimaphwanyidwa.
Nthawi zonse ndikadziona kuti ndikuganiza za "chochita", ndidaganizira nkhani yofunika yomwe safuna maulendo. Kuyeretsa, kutsuka, kukonza zinthu - patatha mwezi umodzi wotere, sindinangophunzira momwe ndingagwiritsire ntchito makabati limodzi ndi mashelufu onse munyumba.
Njira zothandizira kugonana kwa makolo akugonana zimawerengedwa zidole zopotoka, zojambula, zotsatsa. Ngati kuukira kwa nsanje kukupezani kuntchito ndipo simungathe kubwerera ku zenizeni zomwe zimafuna lipoti, yendani, kugwedeza manja ake, kupanga mini, konzekerani kuyendayenda kuzungulira ofesi.
Khwerero 3: Pangani zokongoletsera zanu ndi zomwe simungachite zansanje. Ndikofunikira kwa inu kuzindikira kuti "pali moyo wokhala ndi moyo" wopanda wosankhidwa, ndipo ndiwokongola komanso wosangalatsa! Kumvetsetsa kumeneku sikutanthauza kuti mungafunike kugawa. M'malo mwake: okwatirana omwe amasunga zofuna zawo amateteza malire awo, ndipo ali ndi malo otchuka, ubalewo umagwirizana kwambiri, wozama komanso wosakhazikika, osati nsanje ya okwatirana.
Pomaliza, malingaliro anu olakwika akhale! Nsanje imakhala ndi nkhawa kwambiri, imapangitsa zinthu zonse zomwe zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zofunikira osati kuchokera m'malingaliro, komanso kuchokera mthupi. Mu mphindi zolimba kwambiri, mumavina, kuvina, kudumpha, kukwera pamayendedwe, fungula, kumenya pilo - kulola kuti zigawezo zithe. Malinga ndi lamulo la mphamvu yakusunga mphamvu, kumverera kopumula ndi mphamvu "kudzabwera" kwa malo omasulidwa.
Pamene Balzac adati, kukayikira kwandewu kwa wokondedwa wake, koma mwa Iye. Ndikofunikira kudziwa mantha anu, mphamvu zanu ndi zinthu. Kudziwa nokha ndi njira yosangalatsa kwambiri kuposa nsanje yodya nsanje mkatikati.