Kugonana, monga mawu awa. Timasanthula, kuwerenga, phunzirani. Nthawi iliyonse tikamayesetsa kudziwa china chatsopano. Timayesa kufanana ndi zomwe munthu amayembekeza koma osapeza zomwe tikufunadi. Ndife wamanyazi, tikuopa kukambirana nkhaniyi. Sitingathe kukambirana za izi. Ndipo koposa zonse, timachita manyazi zokhumba zathu. Mantha ndi kuda nkhawa kukhala osamveka, opusa komanso osangokhala opanda moyo. Nthawi ikubwera, ndipo magwiridwe antchito a ife, mafunso osavomerezeka ndi zovuta zamaganizidwe-malingaliro zimangokulitsa ndikubwezeretsedwa m'bokosi lalitali.
Malangizo ambiri, mabuku amiseche amafuna chiyani pa zomwe mukufuna munthu, momwe angamusonyezere, adzaukonda, ndi zina zotere komanso zoyenera kuchita mkazi? Momwe mungayimirire ma greenes onse? Kodi Mungatani Kuti Muzimasulidwa ndi Kugonana Komanso Kudzipatsa Motani, Lolani Zomwe Zimafunira, ndizowopsa?
Zoyambira Za Kuphwanya Zochita Zogonana Mwa Akazi Nthawi zambiri zimadalira zinthu ziwiri zofunika:
Chibwano - Paradigm ya mitu ya ukazi ndi kugonana, kudziwika ndi kugonana. Kodi mtsikanayo adazindikira bwanji? Kodi Zabodza zake zinali? Kodi mayiyo a mayi ake adakulitsidwa? Kodi makolo anali kusonyeza kuti makolo ake anali ndi chifukwa cha mwana wawo wamkazi, kodi anali kuvulaza wina ndi mnzake, kukondana wina ndi mnzake? Ndipo kodi zinali zotheka kufotokozera zakukhosi ndi malingaliro osiyanasiyana a mwana? Komanso mbali yofunika kwambiri ndi momwe makolo amamvera komanso kuona bwino panthawi ya kutha msinkhu. Kodi zinali zomveka kwambiri? Zinthu zonsezi zimapinda limodzi ndikupanga maulendo abwino akazi.
Zochitika zoyambirira - Ichi ndi gawo lofunikira pomwe moyo wina wogonana ukumangidwa. Ndipo ndikofunikira osati njira yamakina, koma yankho lochulukirapo pamwambowu. Uku ndi ulendo wa psyche ya akazi, yomwe imatsekedwa kosatha, pakona yapamwamba ya psyche, yomwe imapanga mitundu yokwanira ndi zovuta zogonana komanso zovuta zogonana. Kapena, m'malo mwake, kumasula mkazi ndikupangitsa kuti mumve ndi kumva zonse zomwe mtsogolozi zidzakhala mbali yofunika kwambiri pamoyo wa amayi.
Zoyenera kuchita ngati zinthu zazikulu zonse sizinali zabwino kuti mzimayi amadzichitira yekha, zokhumba zake ngakhale kupatula nkhani yogonana kuti tisapulumutse zakukhosi?
Amuna amakonda mkazi akamakonda kuyandikira
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Nawa malamulo ochepa omwe angakupatseni kuti munene zabwino kwa azimayi athengo:
1. Chinsinsi chofunikira kwambiri chomwe chimakhala chokopa kwambiri kwa abambo ndikuti mzimayi amakonda kugonana ndipo amasangalala kupereka izi, osakakamiza ndipo yang'anani zinthu zazing'ono zilizonse. Sazengereza kuwonetsa ntchitoyi ndikugwira pabedi. Osati kokha kukondweretsa Kwake, koma Kwake.
2. Mkazi ndi chinthu chachilendo pomwe akumvetsetsa ndikumumva yekhayekha. Ndipo chifukwa cha izi muyenera kumvetsetsa bwino ndikudziwa komwe mumakhala okosangalatsa komanso monga, ndi komwe - ayi. Osangowerengera ukadaulo wachimuna. Ndinunso membala wofanana wa njirayi.
3. Njira yosavuta yodzipangira nokha ndipo kugonana kwanu ndiko kukhazikitsidwa kwa thupi lanu lamaliseche. Ikagona wamaliseche, imani wamaliseche pamaso pa kalilole, kuyenda wopanda khalie, kumapeto, pamwambo wapadera - mukafuna kuwala kwapadera m'maso.
Samalani kwambiri thupi lanu
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4. Yambitsani Kulipira Kwambiri Thupi Lanu: Kusamalira Thupi, zikuluzikulu, malo, massalo, zakudya, zakudya zoyenera. Thupi ndilosazindikira. Ndipo mumtimawo kwa iye, mumapewa kuchokera kumayendedwe ambiri, omwe amawululira moyo kwa zaka zambiri.
5. Siyani kuphunzira ndi kuphunzitsa m'maluso ogonana. Ntchito yayikulu iyenera kusangalatsidwa ndi kugonana, ndipo osatsitsa mutu wanu, pakamwa ndi manja anu kuti aliyense, angomukonzera. Bwezizani nokha ndi zosangalatsa zanu. Uzani wokondedwa wanu kuti ndi yoyenera kwa inu ndi zomwe sindimakonda. Palibe amene akuganiza chilichonse. Phunzirani zochepa kukambirana za zokhumba zanu ndi zosowa zanu. Ndipo chinthu chofunikira kwambiri ndikupanga momwe munthu amagonana, musasinthe chilichonse pamapewa a mnzake.
Uzani wokondedwa wanu kuti ndinu oyenera, koma zomwe sindikonda
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Masewera a akazi pa kugonana nthawi zambiri amachotsa mnzake, kapena kuti azichita bwino kwambiri, kapenanso kukhala ndi vuto lalikulu. Dziperekeni nokha chinthu chogonana - kukhala nokha, osati mtundu wina wa munthu, kenako mudzakhala wosavuta kumasula.