"Zachidziwikire, amuna anu ali ndi zovuta zake! Akadakhala oyera, sakanakwatira, "Dale Carnegie anati. Ndimakonda kwambiri za Carnegie iyi, chifukwa azimayi omwe sasangalala muukwati nthawi zambiri amaikidwa chifukwa cha munthu ndipo samangowona zolakwa zawo. Koma ngati inu, azimayi okondedwa, kamodzi, osachepera m'maganizo, kusintha ndi theka la maudindo anu, ndikukutsimikizirani, mawu ambiri a amuna anu azikhala omveka bwino.
Nkhaniyi idalonjeza kuti isalembe zodabwitsa. Posachedwa, akazi azimayi abwera kwa ine ku phwando, lomwe lili ndi amuna abwino: kusamalira chikondi, koma ... zidayamba kuchita nawo. Kugonana kumalidziwa, ubalewo ndi wosalala, ndipo alibe khungu, zoumba, chidwi, ndipo apa atembenuka. Wamng'ono kapena ayi, ndi nyumba kapena popanda, ophunzira kapena kugwira ntchito, zilibe kanthu. Chinthu chachikulu ndikuti Iye ndi watsopano! Monga kavalidwe, thumba, nsapato ... Valani mosiyana, akuti, kununkhira ... komanso kugonana ndi banja lililonse. Ndipo ndichani, etc. - mndandandawo ukhoza kupitilizidwa mopanda malire. Mkazi aliyense mwachikondi nthawi zonse amapeza zomwe angasangalale.
Mmodzi mwa kasitomala wanga, akufotokozera mtundu wa wokondedwa wanga, anati mosangalala: "Mulungu wanga, ndizowopsa bwanji! Zonse zimandiyitanira! Amachita chilichonse motsutsana! ". Ndipo nthawi yomweyo ndidamvetsera ndikuzida zomwe mukuyembekezera? Ngati nditero, pathani m'mphepete mwa ubalewo, kodi zidzakhala chiyani ndiye kuti zidziwitso zamphamvu zimachitika liti, mavuto adzachitika, kodi mavutowo adzatha? Koma pothamanga malingaliro anu, sitikuganiza za izi! Zikuwoneka kwa ife kuti tsopano ndinabwera chikondi chenicheni, chomwe chimatanthawuza kuti chidzakhala chamuyaya, ndipo patsogolo ndi chisangalalo ndi chisangalalo. Ndipo pofunafuna izi, timawononga zonse panjira, osaganiza, kunyalanyaza banja, ana, makolo. Ndipo ndiye chiyani?
Sindingakumbukire mlandu umodzi wodabwitsa. Mkazi adabwera kudzalandindirira ine zaka 38. Ndizosangalatsa, zolimba mtima, koma nthawi yomweyo ndi psyche yomwe yatulutsidwa kwathunthu. Poyankha funso lililonse, iye nthawi yomweyo anayamba kulira. Pamapeto pake, chithunzi chotsatira chinakokedwa. Ali ndi mwamuna. Zabwino, zodalirika, zachikondi. Koma kuntchito anakumana ndi bambo wina, achichepere kwa zaka 15. Chikondi chamkuntho chagwa. Makasitomala anga anali okonzeka kuwononga banja ndi kupita kwa okondedwa ake. Koma zinachitika mosayembekezereka. Mnyamata yemwe ali ndi dothi lamanjenje lotayika. Anayamba kunyamula madokotala, kugula mankhwala, kulipirira. Koma madokotala olosera za Conlongs sanaperekedwe. Ili pachisokonezo chonse, mantha ndi kusakhazikika kwa ine ndipo mkaziyu adabwera. Anali wokonzeka kusiya mwamuna wake ndikusandutsa namwino wokhala ndi wachichepere kwa zaka 15, popanda maphunziro, opanda ntchito. Mukuganiza bwanji za kusintha kwa bukuli? Mutha kutero, ndikuganiza kuti chikondi ndikupanga zodabwitsa. Mnyamatayo adachiritsa, adamaliza maphunzirowa ku The Institute, adapeza ntchito ndipo nthawi zonse anali othokoza kwa Mpulumutsi wake ndikumukonda moyo wake wonse ... koma zitha kukhala zosiyana kwathunthu. Tidayang'ana njira zosiyanasiyana, koma chisankhochi chidalirebe kwa kasitomala wanga, ndipo ndimalakalaka kulakwitsa kupha.
M'dziko lathuli, pafupifupi 70% ya mabanja amapezeka pazinthu zoyambira. Koma nthawi yomweyo osati onse okwatirana. Zachidziwikire, ngati mwamunayo ndi wogwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo, wachisoni kapena chidakwa, ndiye kuti funso la chisudzulo silikuyenera ngakhale. Iyenera kukhala yankho lolimba komanso losasangalatsa. Kupanda kutero, moyo wanu udzakhala zochitika zingapo za Usiku zomwe zimapirira momvetsa chisoni. Ndipo malingaliro a okonda akazi za zomwe adzapulumutse okondedwa awo pazowononga zina, molakwika. Mungakhale ndi zizolowezi zomwezi kapena zolimbana ndi zinthu zosatha zowononga mphamvu yanu, unyamata, thanzi. Kodi pali chindapusa chachikulu? Chifukwa chake, lero tikulankhula za chifukwa chomwe akazi amasiya amuna abwino, osafuna kuti banja liziyenda bwino.
Malinga ndi ziwerengero, azimayi omwe ali ndi ntchito yabwino komanso malipiro nthawi zambiri amatumikila chisudzulo. Koma kuti mukhale ndi ntchito yabwino ndi malipiro apamwamba, mkazi wotere sayenera kuvutitsa kumanga ntchito zawo, nthawi zambiri zimawononga banja. Ndipo amuna abwino, pokomera mmawa wawo, kapena kutsatsa anthu onse oyang'anira nyumba ndi kulera ana, kapena kubisala nannies ndi oyang'anira nyumba. Maudindo a mabanja amasungunuka. Mkaziyo amakhala wotakata, kutenga ntchito zonse za chikomyunizimu, ndipo mwamunayo amafotokoza mochedwa udindo ndipo ... Pomaliza pakeno wataya wokondedwa wake. M'maso mwake iye ndi wofooka, woluza ndi Rooka. Koma kodi mkaziyo mwiniwake analenga chitsanzo cha banja ndi manja ake?
Anagwiritsa ntchito kupeza ndalama, kusankha zochita, kukhala tokha. Chifukwa chake, osungulumwa. Chifukwa banja ndi mgwirizano, iyi ndi masewera a timu, ndipo kulibe mabwana ndi oyang'anira. Koma ndizovuta bwanji kunyumba yamisala yopambana kuti mukhale mkazi wachikondi komanso wachikondi. Chifukwa chake zodabwitsanso ena: wokongola, ndi wanzeru, komanso wolemera, ndi m'modzi. Ndipo ndi chiyani chinanso chomwe mukufuna anyamata? Ndipo amunawo ayenera kukhala munthu wabwino. Pinki, odzipereka, odzipereka. Kupatula apo, mumakhala ndi chitsanzo, mutu kapena mfumukazi ya kukongola, omwe, ndi bambo. Koma azimayi pantchito yotsatira zomwe amakhulupirira amataya banja labwino kwambiri. Ndipo tsopano kuntchito mnzake wokongola wawonekera. Kuwoneka koyamba, kumwetulira, kachiwiri monga momwe mtima ukugunda mu unyamata, ndipo kupsompsona kumakumbukiridwa, mutuwo ukuyenda bwino mkati. Ndipo bambo wokalambayo amangoyamba kungoyambitsa matenda. Masokosi, omwazikana mozungulira nyumbayo, kukambirana mokweza pafoni, chizolowezi chosasiya chimbudzi cha mipando - zonse zimapangitsa mkwiyo ndi kusakhutira. Ndipo tikakwiya kwambiri ndi amuna anu, enawo apezanso dzina lathu latsopano. "Sindikuwona momwe amadyera, kutafuna, kupumira makiyi omwe amangoyang'ana nthawi zonse m'galimoto ..." - Ndimva mawu awa paphwando nthawi zonse. Koma kodi muli ndi chitsimikizo kuti, kufalitsa banja lanu ndikusiya amuna anu, kodi mudzapeza chisangalalo chanu? Kupatula apo, zonse zidzakhala chimodzimodzi. Chidwi cha chinthu chokongola chidzafooka pang'onopang'ono, chokanidwa ndi mwamuna wake wokalamba, nthawi zambiri amakhala woipa kwambiri kuposa mwamunayo, amasuntha ku nyumba yanu, mavuto ndi ana adzabuka ... ndiye kuti mkondo unasweka.
Palinso njira ina ngati mayi amapita ku Richer komanso wopambana kuposa mwamuna wakale. Koma sakayikira ngakhale akuyembekezera. Pano ndi kugawidwa kwa maudindo Chilichonse chiri bwino. Ndipo iye amasankha kale zisankho zomwe kukhalira ndi omwe akhale abwenzi, komwe angapite kukapumula - pamaziko osavuta kuti iye ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi mkazi. Kodi mayi wodziyimira pawokha ndi wokonzeka kusintha mawonekedwe anu mwachangu? Simukutsimikiza.
Ndiye kodi nkoyenera zonse chifukwa cha chiyembekezo chobisa komanso zosangalatsa? Kodi ndi amene mudakwatirana, wopanda chiyembekezo? Kupatula apo, nthawi ina mumakhala kumukonda, wolota za banja, amayembekeza chisangalalo. Zasintha bwanji? Osamatsutsa amuna anu onse, vomerezani kuti muone moona mtima, mwachita chiyani, kodi zolakwa zanu ndi ziti? Ndipo yesani kupulumutsa banja lanu. Pakavalo sikuti ndi moyo wanu wokhalitsa, wodekha, wolimba mtima m'mawa, koma ana anu ofunikira kwambiri ndi ana anu omwe angasangalale ndi zomwe amayi awo ndi abambo anali pafupi.
Zoyenera kuchita izi? Malangizo Osavuta:
1. Ganizirani ndi moona mtima kuvomereza kuti mupeza, kuwononga banjali, ndipo kutaya. Tengani pepala ndikulemba zabwino zonse ndi "mikango". Ndikukutsimikizirani zinthu zambiri.
2. Yesani kuyamba nokha pakubwezeretsa ubale ndi amuna anu - yambani kumwetulira kosavuta. Palibe chomwe chingafunikire - kungomwetulira nthawi zambiri, ndipo udzaona kuti mphamvu yakumwetulira.
3. Apatseni amuna anu kuti mumve ngati munthu. Lolani kuti zikhale monga akufuna. Yesani - nthawi zina ofooka kuti mukhale abwino kwambiri.
4. Yesani kuti musakonze theka lanu. Ntchitoyo imakhala yamanjenje komanso yosakhazikika.
5. Tengani chisankho chomaliza pokhapokha zitamvetsetsa kuti ukwati wanu ndi wosatheka kupulumutsa.
Ndikukhulupirira ndi mtima wonse kuti, mwina nkhaniyi ithandizanso kuti banja likhale losungulumwa, ndipo ndikulakalaka azimayi onse kuti asakhale osungulumwa ndikukumbukira kuti: "Banja limenelo, pomwe azimayi akuyaka. Nthawi zonse limakupangirani banja lomwe ali osangalala. "