Ili ndiye funso losatha.
Analipo, alipo ndipo apitiliza kukhalapo kwake. Ndikuganiza kuti sanadutse pafupifupi mkazi wosakwatiwa. Ngakhale mayiyo atakhala mkazi wake, ndiye kuti palibe amene sangawopseze kuoneka ngati ambuye. Ndipo pali iwo omwe, m'malo mwake, ntchito ya mkazi wake sagwirizana. Zinthu zambiri, zoletsa zambiri, ndibwino kuti mukhale ndi ufulu wodziyimira pawokha.
Ndiye ndani akupindula kwambiri? Kodi tsogolo la ndani?
Tiyeni tiyesetse kuzindikira.
Akazi. Ingopanda kunena kuti sanalota ukwati mu kavalidwe koyera, chiganizo chachikondi cha dzanja ndi mtima, limodzi. Ngakhale ngati tsopano ndinu okayikira komanso pragmatic, ndi zithunzi za anzanu omwe amakwatirana zimatipweteketsa kumva chisoni komanso kunyoza, ndiye kuti mumayimira ukwati wanu.
Tiyeni tichoke mwambowo, chifukwa imabisidwa kwambiri kuposa kuyankhula kovomerezeka kwa ofesi ya registry. Ichi ndi mwambo, kusintha ku dziko latsopano, kumadziona kuti ndi mnzanu.
Mkazi yemwe amakhala mkazi wake amadziwa kuti ubale uwu ndi chiyembekezo. Kuphatikiza apo, ubalewo umaphatikizapo kusintha konse m'moyo wake: chisamaliro ndi kudzipereka kwa munthu wina ndi ana awo ogawana, zomwe zimayambitsa chidwi, khalani ndi okondedwa awo pamitundu yambiri. Nthawi yomweyo, akudziwa kuti pokhudzana naye pali zinthu zina. Tsopano ndi chinthu cha chisamaliro ndikuteteza mnzake. Ndipo ngati nzodalirika, amatha kupuma. Ndipo kufunikira kwa mnzanu wodalirika ndi imodzi mwazinthu zofunika kwambiri. Ichi ndi doko lokhazikika, thandizo lenileni lomwe lingadalire nthawi zonse za moyo.
Koma mgwirizano uliwonse, mgwirizano pakati pa anthu (kuphatikiza maukwati) ndi opanda ungwiro. Zolakwika ndizosapeweka. Chifukwa chake, ubalewo ukakhazikika, ndipo simukufuna kugwira ntchito yayikulu yotchedwa "banja", mavuto anga abwera.
Udindo wawo ndi wofunikira kwambiri. Amuna amakwaniritsa zokhumba zawo ndi iwo, apatseni chidwi, chikondi ndi chisamaliro kuti mkazi sangathe kutenga. Amasenda ubalewo ndi azimayi okonda pafupi kwambiri kuposa akazi awo. Ndinkakonda kumva nkhani za amayi kotero kuti kulumikizana kwawo ndi amuna okwatirana sikukumbutsidwa kuti ndife achikondi, komanso miyoyo yapamwamba.
Izi siziri mwangozi, chifukwa amuna akuyesera kuti athe kulipirira malingaliro osazindikira, maloto, zolakalaka, kuyikapo ndalama muubwenzi awa, pomwe alipo.
Kuphatikiza apo, zovuta zonse za amuna zimalowa mu "mawonekedwe abwino": wokongola, wokongoletsedwa bwino, wowolowa manja, makamaka - patapita nthawi, osasanjika ntchito, mwachitsanzo.
Zakhala zikuwonekeratu kuti akaziwo amachitiranso zigawo zina za chikhalidwe ndi machitidwe awo: akakhala pamavuto, odwala, otopa kapena otopa. Mukamakangana, mumakhala osakwanira ngati ana, amadzipangira chiwembu ndikunyalanyaza zosowa za okondedwa awo.
Okonda anali ndi mwayi wolankhulana ndi bambo nthawi zonse. Komabe, mtengo wa ubale wachikondi umakhazikika. Uwu ndiye kudalirika koopsa kwambiri komwe mkazi amalandira. Akazi satha kupumula komanso kumukhulupirira munthu. Mukudziwa za moyo akudziwa kuti sasankha iye, ndi winayo. Ndipo ayenera kuyang'ana njira yobwerera. Ndipo ngakhale pakakhala osangalala, mtsogolo mwake adzafunika kuyang'ana njira zopulumuka popanda munthuyu. Ndipo mfundo sizili mu zinthu zakuthupi. Kuzama kwa moyo, mmene ambuye akudziwa kuti sadzakhala naye ndi chikondi chonse ndi chiyanjano pakati pawo.
Mwa njira, malinga ndi ziwerengero, 5 peresenti yokha ya mabanja achikondi amapanga mabanja atsopano. Ena onse ndi gawo loyambirira kapena mochedwa.
Ndipo chinthucho ndichakuti maubale achikondi ndi ubale womwe umamangidwa pamalo osalimba. Monga lamulo, zimawonekera pamene okwatirana akukumana ndi mavuto. Ndipo kuti apulumuke ndikudzipulumutsa, awiriwa amapeza njira yosazindikira - kuti mudalire munthu wachitatu. Mwachitsanzo, mayi akadali pachibwenzi ndi mwana wake, mwana wakhanda, munthu amachititsa kuti akungoyang'ana kumbali. Opitilira 70% ya maakaunti osintha ndi omwe ali ndi chaka choyamba komanso chaka choyamba cha moyo wa mwana m'banjamo. Mkaziyo "amasulidwa" kwa amuna awo, kufunika kwa makona atatu amakona amakula kwambiri.
Pabanja mankhwala, ntchito yomanga makona a chikondi yachikondi imatchedwa "Statebi" - thandizo lina mu banja kuti lisakhale mosadziwa komanso osati moona mtima, koma pulumula pamavuto.
Udindo wina womwe sitinkawaona ndi mkazi wamba. China chake chimodzi ndi chachiwiri komanso chachiwiri. Kumbali ina, zimadziwika kuti ndi mnzake wokondedwa, ndipo mbali inayo, sizikhala mkazi wake. Nthawi zambiri azimayi omwe ali pantchitoyi amati udindo ndi sitampu sizisintha kaya. Koma bwanji osaziyika?
Chomwe ndikuti azimayi awa apitirizebe kukhala ndi chidaliro chofananira chokhudza iwo omwe mkazi wake sayenera kuti mwamunayo sasankha 100 peresenti ndikungoyembekezera njira yabwinoko. Sichiritsidwa kuti ali nayenso mpaka nthawi yabwino. Monga akunena, munthu ngati tramu - atatha mphindi 15 wotsatira adzabwera. Mulimonsemo, ukwati waboma umapangitsa kuti azithandizana nawo, mosamala kapena ayi, amasintha mtunda ndikupitilira wina ndi mnzake pamalo otetezeka.
Mulimonse momwe muliri, chinthu chokhacho chomwe chimalimbikitsa kuyitanitsa ndi malingaliro odzizindikira nokha komanso zomwe mumagawa. Ndipo ngati china chake sichikugwirizana ndi inu, sinthani! Kwa inu, palibe amene adzachite.
Maria DonaCkova, zamatsenga, othandizira am'banja komanso akutsogolera paubwenzi wapakati pa Marika Khazin