"Mwamuna sali mwana. Mwamuna ndi munthu wamkulu, wapangidwa kale. Mutha kungonena - ndimakonda kapena ndikafika, kapena kuyang'ana wina, "limatero, malingaliro odziwika a katswiriyu," akutero a katswiri onena za katswiri wina wofunsayo. Udindowu ndi amodzi mwa malingaliro amomwe angapezere chilankhulo chimodzi ndi munthu. Kuti muphunzitsenso kapena khazikitsani malingaliro anu siwosankha bwino kwambiri. Koma ngati mukukhulupirira kuti onse osilira amakhala osakhalitsa ndikufotokozedwa ndi zifukwa zapadera, ndikoyenera ubale wonse. Ndikukuuzani zomwe mukufuna kuchita komanso zomwe muyenera kuziyembekezera kuchokera kwa mnzake.
Lankhulani ndi chikhalidwe chandale
Zokambirana pa mitu yaumwini yozunguliridwa ndi ana, abale, kulumikizana kuwonera kanemayo, monganso kulingalira pambuyo pogonana - motsimikizika si nthawi yabwino kugawana mavuto omwe amadera nkhawa. Kulibwino mupite kumzindawu, mwachitsanzo, kuthengo, komwe mungayende limodzi ndikulankhula ndi miyoyo. Mphepo yatsopano imathandizira kukula kwa serotonin, yomwe idzathandiza kwambiri munthu ndipo nthawi yomweyo idzakhalitsa, kukukakamizani kuti mukhulupirireni. Awiriawiri palibe chizolowezi chokumana nawo, mavuto amapezeka kawirikawiri - Ganizirani kuchuluka kwa nthawi yomwe mumagwiritsa ntchito momasuka.
Mu kulowerera ndale kuti mulankhule mosavuta
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Unikani Diso
Wogwira mnzanuyo angamvetsetse kuti watopa kuntchito kapena kusamalira ana, koma kuthana ndi malingaliro anu kuti musawonjezerenso. Chikhalidwe chaubwenzi chakale chimatilamulira kuti anthu azitha kucheza pakati pa anthu ali m'kugonana - sichoncho. Mutha kupanga kutikita minofu ya wokondedwa kapena kufunsa kuti mupange inu, kukumbatirana ndikupsompsona, kugwedeza mutu - lingalirani zomwe amakonda ndi inu. Mukamaletsa munthu kuti azicheza nanu, akumva wotsimikiza ndi kukhumudwitsidwa, akukhulupirira kuti unamtambasuka kwa iye. Kudera nkhawa wina ndi mnzake panthawi yamavuto, ngati kuli kovuta kuti mulankhule ndi mitu yosangalatsa, imayankhula za zomwe simungachite kuti mukhale ndi chidwi ndi zomwe zingachitike.
Lankhulani za inu osakhudza ena
Pa nthawi ya mikangano, malingaliro aliwonse akupita: Ndikukumbukira zakale, potengera abale, zomwe zimatipatsa nthawi yokwanira, anzawo kusamvana monga abwino. Zonsezi ndi zolakwika pazifukwa ziwiri: Mudzakhala ndi moyo munthu, osati banja lake, ndipo simungathe kudandaula zaka zambiri. Mkwatibwi ambiri amafuna kuti athetse maudindo "ozunzidwa" ndi "Mpulumutsi" Chachiwiri akufuna kupulumutsa okondedwa ake - ku uchidakwa kuchikhalidwe chofananira manja. Ngati simudziona ngati mitundu iwiriyi, zikutanthauza kuti mutha kufotokoza bwino udindo wanu mu mkanganowu, ndikungolankhula zokhazokha, osaimba mlandu. Kuyankhula za inu nokha, mumapereka mwayi wina ndi mwayi wokumverani ndikulankhula nokha, ndikungofotokozera zakukhosi kwanu.
samalani wina ndi mnzake m'njira zosiyanasiyana
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Kuthetsa mavuto
Kubalira kwa okwatirana nawo kumakhudza aliyense wa iwo. Chifukwa chake, munthu akakhala pa platoni kapena kulibe kanthu, mkhalidwe wina wina umakhala wosakhazikika. Chisoni champhamvu ndi, choyipa kwambiri chidzakhala munthu wokondedwa, pamene mudzayamba kukwiya. Nthawi zambiri sitikuvomereza kuti chifukwa chiyani atopa kwambiri kapena aphunzira kusangalala ndi dziko lonse lapansi, kuopa kukumana ndi mnzake. Koma njira yoyamba yothetsera kuthetsa vutoli ndikuvomerezeka komanso kutengera malingaliro olakwika. Mutha kutenga ntchito yopanda mafumu, kukonza kwa nyumbayo, galimoto yosavomerezeka kapena kusapezeka kwatsopano. Osaphunziranso kuti muli okhutira ndi ang'onoang'ono, koma kukhala momwe mungafunire. Kungoti mudzakhala munthu wosangalala, ndipo zomwe zimatsogolera - kusintha mu ubale wanu kapena kugawa - mudzawona pambuyo pake. Ndikotheka kuti mnzanu amalota chimodzimodzi ndi mantha kuvomereza izi kwa inu, choncho.