Zonse zimayamba konse chimodzimodzi - chitsimikizo mu chikondi chamuyaya, ukwati, kubadwa kwa ana, chisangalalo. Ndipo kenako mwadzidzidzi imapezeka kuti theka lanu lachiwiri likusangalala ndi munthu wina, imangotuluka mu chikondi, perekani ana. Ndipo pano tisanapunyere ndikunyengerera funsoli: Kodi Mungatani Kuti Mukhale Ndi Moyo? Nthawi zambiri, azimayi amadzuka asanasankhe choncho, chifukwa chifukwa cha zifukwa zapakhomo (ana ang'onoang'ono (ana ang'onoang'ono m'manja, nyumba, zachuma) nthawi zambiri zimanyengedwa. Koma kusiya kwa mwamuna wolakwika siophweka: palibe malo achilichonse.
Julia, zaka 40:
- Ndimakhala m'tauni yaying'ono. Wokwatiwa zaka 15. Zaka ziwiri zapitazo ndidamva kuti mwamuna wanga anali ndi mbuye wanga wachinyamata. Zonse zidayamba nawo, chifukwa zidapezeka, zaka 5 zapitazo. Kenako tidangobadwa mwana wamkazi wachiwiri. Mwanayo anali kudwala kwambiri, ndipo ine ndi mphamvu zonse komanso nthawi yomwe ndimamupatsa komanso wamkulu. Mwamunayo adabwera kunyumba, monga kuchezera: kumabwera, kusintha zovala ndi kugona, kapena kubwerera kuntchito. Zinachitika, ngakhale chitseko chidzaime ndi masamba. Zachidziwikire, ubalewo unayamba kuwonongeka: Ndidikirira chidwi ndi kusinkhasinkha, ndipo adzagwa, nagwa ndipo agona. Ine, wopanda nzeru, ngakhale sanamvetsetse zomwe amafuna. Chifukwa chake oyera mtima atakhulupirira izi, ngakhale m'mutu sanakwanitse kuti angapereke! Chinthu chomvetsa kwambiri ndikuti ine ndinali zaka zonsezi mmbuyo wake wodalirika ndipo ndidakhala wovuta kwambiri, ndipo ndidapereka kwa ambiri kwa abale anga nthawi zonse ndimakhala ndekha ndi ana, nthawi zonse ndimakhala " Kuntchito ... Nenani kuti ndapulumuka, kuphunzira za chinyengo, chosatheka! Mwamuna, ndikuganiza kuti sindiyenera kuuza chilichonse, koma ndinachitcha ndikunena zonse. Sizinaloleke, zikuwoneka kuti zikuwononga banja lathu. Zaka ziwiri izi zadutsa pamabodza olimba. Sanathe kusankha omwe amakhala. Ndipo ine ndinati: "Kodi chisudzulo chidzakupatsani chiyani? Amoyo momwemonso, kodi ndinu oyipa, kapena chiyani? ".
Ngakhale kuti mavuto athu atenga, ambuye anali ndi pakati. Mwamunayo anathamangitsa nyumba: "Munkafuna chisudzulo - kuti mumuchotsere." Ndinandichenjeza: "Ingoyesani kuchoka kapena kukhala ndi ina! Ana Osasankha, Osawaona Awa! " Ndikudziwa kuti izi sizowopsa zopanda pake - chifukwa cha udindo wake, ndizofunika kwa iye. "Tsatirani, ndinkakonda nthawi yoyamba m'moyo wanga, chisangalalochi chinandigwera (ndipo chinali chiyani pakati pa ife pamenepo?) Ndidzatero, "akutero," khala ndi iye, ndi kubwera kwa inu, kukacheza ana, kupereka ndalama. Mupita tsopano mlongo. " Ngakhale makolo ake ananena kuti sindidzakwatirana kuti ndituluke, ndikuwonetsetsa kuti sakufunika. Ndikumvetsetsa kuti ndikofunikira kukana, koma ndikumuwopa. Ali ndi chidaliro mu mphamvu yake ndipo sinditha kupita kulikonse. Ndipo ndili ndi ana akazi awiri, zaka 5 zokha. Momwe mungakhalire, sindingaganize! Momwe mungakhulupirire izi kwa amuna, anali woposa kwambiri kwa ine, ngati iye akanatero, enawo ndiye chiyani? ..
Maphunziro a katswiri wazamisala Julia Pemchuznikov: "Chipangano Chakale chimadzala ndi nkhani za mitala zokhudzana ndi mitala. Kuyambira ndi Sara ndi Agar, azimayi adavutika, kuuza munthu m'modzi. Ndiye kuti, mutha kunena, vutoli ndi lokalamba. Koma sizipweteka pang'ono. Chifukwa chiyani? Mwina chifukwa chakuti nthawi yayitali, chikhalidwe cha anthu akale chidapambana mu nkhondoyi, ndipo azimayi adalandira malo odalirika. Ngakhale zitakhala wodalira mwakuthupi, kudalira m'maganizo, momwe zimakhalira ndi zamakhalidwe, zomwe zimamukonda.
Kamodzi mu gawo lomwe tafotokozazi, mayiyo amazunzidwa ndi mafunso "Chifukwa", "chifukwa cha munthu", monga momwe munthu amakhalira ndi momwe angakhalire bwino. Ndipo kuchokera pakuwona kwa chitonthozo, mwakuthupi komanso m'maganizo, nthawi zambiri zimasankha nyumba yakale komanso yodziwika bwino, ngati mkazi yekhayo, mkazi yekha amene akumufafaniza. Malders amatha kukhala opindulitsa kwambiri, chifukwa kwenikweni amadalira, alibe zokhumudwitsa. Ngakhale sizikhala nthawi zonse.
Amuna nthawi zambiri amakhala omasuka. Komanso, chitonthozo ndi kwa iwo komanso malo achizolowezi cha dziwe m'bafa, ndikukhala chete m'nyumba, ndi chidwi ndi munthu wanu, komanso kumverera kwa wofananira ndi kugonjera. Mkazi wina amakhala wovuta kuphatikiza chilichonse kapena kukudziwa kusintha kwa zosowa. Akazi nthawi zambiri amasankha madera ofunika kwambiri paubwenzi (mwachitsanzo, "mayi wodalirika" kapena "mayi wabwino"), Kupatula izi, ana amafunikira ndalama zothera, ndipo amakhalabe ndi chitukuko chawo. Banja lalitali kwambiri limagwirizana kwambiri.
Koma apa wokondedwa wanu adadzipeza ndekha ntchito yanthawi yayitali kumbali yake, kenako ndikulengeza kutuluka kuchokera ku polojekiti kapena kuphatikiza. Yesani kusankha ngati mwakonzeka kupitiliza. Ndipo mafunso ena onse ndiwabwino kuthetsa ndi wamisala. "
"Ali ndi Mwamuna Wanga"
Palinso nkhani zina pamene anthu samangowononga makona atatu achikondi, koma osafuna. Amawoneka kuti akuwona momwe angakhalire otsika.
Maria, wazaka 30:
- Msisinjo wanga ali ndi mabanja awiri. Kwa zaka zambiri. Kwa zaka zochepa zoyambirira, mkazi sadziwa za chilichonse. Zonse zikawululidwa, anali ndi zotchinga. Anapita kwinakwake, kenako kubwerera kwawo. Ndipo pafupi zaka 2-3. Pakadali pano, panali ana awiri kale kuchokera kwa akazi aliwonse. Pamapeto pake, adakhala ndi mkazi wake. Koma ambuye ake adakonzanso nyumba yanyumba yake. Ndipo nthawi zambiri zimachitika. Amapereka mabanja awiri okwanira. Kuphatikiza apo, onse ali palimodzi pa tsiku lobadwa komanso tchuthi chabanja. Ana abwenzi anzake ndi mnzake, akazi awo amalankhulanso bwino. Amayi ake poyamba anali owopsa. Anasokonezanso mtima zakumbuyo kwa Mwana. Koma tsopano - palibe. Komanso, zikuwoneka kuti zidachitika moyo wawo. Ndili ndi namwino, aliyense amakonda. Akuti: "Nanga bwanji atani ngati amuna wamba akusowa aliyense?
Nkhani zomwezi zimadzaza ndi zachikazi Mafomu apaintaneti. Nayi imodzi mwa izo: "Kuti wina ali ndi mwamuna wa mwamunayo, ndidalankhula kalekale. Chifukwa chiyani sindinapite? Kodi sindimadzidalira ndikandilola kundiuza? Kodi nchifukwa ninji ine nthawi zambiri ndimalola banja lotere? Onsewa ndi mafunso ena, ndikhulupirireni, ndadzilimbitsa kuposa kamodzi. Sindinathe. Ndimamukonda nawonso ndikuthamangira kwa banja lathu. Ndipo sankafuna kuchoka. Anatinso kuti anali wofunika kwambiri ndi ine, ulemu ndi chikondi ... monga bwenzi ndi wokondedwa mu mzimu wa munthu. Ndipo amamukonda monga mkazi, ndipo iye sangathe kumusiya. Takhala pabanja zaka 14. Kuchokera kumbali ya okwatirana. Mwana amakula. M'nyumba Yolemera ... Moona mtima, ndimaganiza kuti adzamenya komanso kudekha. Ndipo adalipiritsa kwambiri kotero kuti sakanakhoza kumutcha), sindingathe kumutcha), chitsiru chaching'ono, chomwe chikuyang'ana phindu lazinthu, sichitha kuvutika naye, kapena amvetsetsa zonse Masewera awa amandipha ...
Sitinalumbire naye, sanapeze ubale. Chaka chino, ndinaphunzira kukhala ndi malingaliro kuti ali ndi wina. Bwanji? Ili ndi nkhani yosiyana ... Koma tsopano ndikuzindikira kuti adzakhala ndi mwana kuchokera kwa mwamuna wanga ... Moona mtima sindimadziwa momwe ndingakhalire. Ndipo palibe amene amalangiza chilichonse, ndikofunikira kusankha zochita pawokha. Yembekezani mpaka mwamunayo apangidwe kapena kusiya kumapeto? Kapena chitani masitepe ena? Mwana wake akabadwa kuchokera kwa mkazi wake wokondedwa, ngakhale atakhala kuti angalankhule bwanji, zikhala zonse - ndi moyo, ndi thupi. Adzayambitsa moyo watsopano, ndipo mfundo yonse idzakhala m'banja latsopano.
Maphunziro a katswiri wazamisala Julia Pemchuznikov: "Mkazi akafuna kudziwa izi, nthawi zambiri amawoneka ngati nsomba (albeit golide), kumenya mbedza kapena kusokonezedwa pa netiweki. Ena amangodumphira kunja ndi "kudzanyamuka mabalazo", koma nthawi zambiri zinthu zimavutitsa kwa nthawi yayitali, ndipo zowawa zimatsalira. Izi ndichifukwa choti timangoyang'ana kwambiri munthu ngati pakati pa zinthuzo. Pamene kasitomala m'modzi wandiuza kuti: "Aliyense akanapereka, kungodziwa zomwe anali kumutu m'mutu mwake." Ndikuopa kuti amadabwa kwambiri ndipo, mwina kukhumudwitsidwa. Mkazi amalowa mu banja lililonse, ndipo makamaka mphamvu zotere, kwambiri. Kuyang'ana zifukwa zonse ndi zosankha, ndi mafotokozedwe ... ndi zonse za iye. Ndikaona mayendedwe oterewa, akuganiza, ndikufufuza, ndikuyesera kulingalira momwe zingakhalire ngati mayiyu wayamba mphamvu zambiri pa iye yekha, chitukuko chake. Mosakayikira: sikuti chifukwa ndimaphunzirapo kanthu kuchokera ku moyo womwe "wapatsa chilichonse", "Kodi aliyense" ndipo adakondwera nayo, tsopano ndikofunikira kuphunzira china. "
"Ndinkadziwa zomwe ndapita"
Komabe, taganizirani kuti azimayi omwe amachita izi amachita bwino kuposa abambo. Kupatula apo, amakhala mkazi wachiwiriyu popanda kusindikizidwa.
Irina, wazaka 29:
- Ndine mkazi wazaka zitatu. Chaka chapitacho, chinabereka mwana wawo wamkazi. Amakonda mkazi wake komanso ana ake manyazi ndipo sanatuluke m'banjamo. Komabe, kulumikizidwa kwathu sikutanthauza kusweka. Mwanayo yemwe ndinabereka yekha, pomwe nthawi yomweyo anachenjeza. Sizilankhulananso ndi mwana wake wamkazi. Kuchokera kuchipatala sanafike - adatumiza driver, maluwa ndi 1000 ma euro. Sindinakhumudwitsidwe naye - ndimadziwa zomwe zikuchitika. Pofika komanso zazikulu, chilichonse chimandinyamula - chimathandiza, chimapereka malo odyera. Ndipo sindiyenera kuchotsa masokosi ake ndi mathalauza a stroke. Lekani uyu akhale mkazi wolamulira. Koma ali ndi ufulu wambiri, ndipo mwina sangakhale ndi nkhawa kuti amusiyira pachilichonse. Kuchokera kwa ine, ngati mungachoke, ndilibe cholakwika chondiletsa. Ndi momwe ndimakhalira pachiwopsezo chanu.
Zowona, ndikofunikira kudziwa kuti kupeza mkazi wokhala m'mabanja awiri ndikosatheka. Ngakhale ena a iwo ali ndi okonda. Dona wina wolemera amalungamitsa kuchita izi: "Palibe amene mwamuna wake. Koma tili ndi bizinesi wamba komanso ana awiri. Tonsefe timamvetsetsa kuti zimativuta kugawana, ngakhale ndi mbali yaulamuliro. Kodi akuganiza zomwe wina wandichitira? Ndikuganiza kuti inde. Ndikukhulupirira, ndipo salinso yekha. "
Nthawi yomweyo, mfundo zamphongo za nzika za Dwalav zimayenera kusamalira mwapadera: "Ndimakonda awiri. Nditha kukwanitsa ndipo mwakuthupi, komanso mwangozi, komanso mwachuma. Ndipo chifukwa chiyani aliyense amavutika - sindikumvetsa? Sindikuponya mkazi wanga - ali ndi ana awiri omwe akufunika? Zaka zambiri zakhala. Mu mbuye, wamkulu, mzimu suli tiyi. Ndi kwa mwana wa waluso wathu ndipo amagwirizananso komanso ana alamulo. Ndimalota kumanga nyumba yayikulu kuti tikhala limodzi. "
Maphunziro a katswiri wazamisala Julia Pemchuznikov: "Anthu anga okondedwa. Yakwana nthawi yoti ife timvetsetse za chikondi. Osamusokoneza mwachikondi komanso chidwi, kuti musasokonezedwe ndi chisamaliro komanso zosokoneza bongo. Chikondi - chimaphatikizapo kukhazikitsidwa, chitukuko, kudekha ndi chisangalalo. Ndikofunikira kwambiri ndipo pakufunika aliyense komanso dziko lonse. Moyo wabanja ndi chizolowezi chachizolowezi anthu akamakondana, nthawi zambiri amafuna kukhala pafupi, ndipo amapanga banja. Pano ndi chochitikacho. Moyo wolumikizana ndi banja ndi zinthu zosiyana. Banja ndi mtundu, zofunikira wamba, thandizo, chitukuko pagulu. Kodi mwamunayo nthawi zambiri amakonzeka kuzibwereza? Chifukwa chake.
Nanga bwanji ana? Idatsimikizira mobwerezabwereza kuti kufinya nthawi zonse ndi makolo kumakhala kovuta kwambiri kwa mwana kuposa kusudzulana komwe kumakupatsani mwayi wokhazikika pakapita kanthawi. Mwanayo siofunika kuti bambo agona m'chipinda chimodzi ndi amayi, ndipo kotero kuti onse anali achimwemwe komanso ankakonda. Abambo nthawi zambiri amakhala ofunikira (koma osankha) omwe amakhala nawo amakhala nawo mwachangu, kukhala "Lamlungu", osati "nthawi zonse."