Mwina izi ndi chifukwa choti palibe ntchito yotereyi, yomwe ili ndi pamwamba ngati ili. Ngati, inde, simunatchulidwe ndi utsogoleri kapena malo a kazembe wa Mulungu padziko lapansi. Chachiwiri, chowonjezera, ozizira, a Purezidenti, ndi papa ndi amodzi. Koma si maloto ambiri okhalira Purezidenti. Ambiri akufuna kukhala ndi buluu m'manja mwawo ku zomwe zimawononga mlengalenga. Komabe, buluu wogwira bwino ntchito siophweka, ndibwino - mothandizidwa ndi Mulungu, ndipo moyenera, ndi kusefa kwa munthu, wochimwa wa gululo. Chosavuta - kudumphadumpha kumbuyo kwa yolkogruda ptaha kapena ngati kagawidwe? Ukundimvetsa.
Munthu akafunitsitsa kukula
Monga lamulo, Mroma - kuti, kugonana - ndi cholinga chopititsa patsogolo ntchitoyi ... amuna. Inde, azimayi okongola, simungathe kufufuta maso anu, ndi amuna. Ndiye kuti, chinthu chozunzidwa pakugonana kuchokera kwa olamulira, mwachidziwikire, timakonda kwambiri, azimayi, koma ndi cholinga cha - nthawi zonse amuna. Ali ndi mfuti komanso zazing'ono - zoperewera. Milandu, ndiyenera kunena, ndizosiyana - zizindikiro za chisamaliro, monga lamulo, ndizothandiza, chifukwa Mabwana oterowo sakanatha kuyamikirana ndi kusakhazikika komanso motsutsana. Komabe, chidwi ndi choncho, zipolopolo zoyeserera. Kupitilira apo, osaka kwamuyaya pa oimira okongola a mtundu wa anthu nthawi zambiri amapita kuukira kwambiri - zitha kunenedwa kwa zojambulajambula. Oyang'anira akazi, monga akatswiri amisala, pali chinthu chimodzi, koma azimayi ali osatetezeka kwambiri: azimayi opambana nawonso alinso azimayi. Ndipo, monga lamulo, kusasangalala m'moyo wanu. Chifukwa chake, gawo loyamba la makwerero akuyenera kumvetsetsa kuti vuto la abwana ndi lotani, ndipo pitani pa zojambulajambula, zomwe, ndizomveka, sizingakhalepo kwamuyaya. Kukonzekera kwapadera kwapakati pa amuna (ndipo sikofunikira kuvala thalauza m'malo mwa siketi kuti mudziwe malamulo omenyeratu) kutsatira kuukira. Chimenechi chimakhala chowala komanso mwachangu, mwayi waukulu wopambana. Nthawi zambiri kuukira kumachitika pazithunzi komanso tchuthi chomwe chimagwiritsidwa ntchito kwambiri mowa. Ndipo imadutsa, monga lamulo, m'malo mwa womutsutsa. Ndipo, ogwiritsa ntchito amuna amagwira ntchito nthawi zambiri amapanga nkhonya. Amaganiza kuti m'mawa mudzutsa pamwamba pa zabwino komanso ntchito. Ndipo zenizeni iwo ali pamasitepe oyamba. Chifukwa abwana onyenga, akutsegula zowoneka bwino ", choyamba zimaganiza kuti wokondedwa pa Madzulo ena wowunikira ... Wogwira ntchito ndipo akufuna kugwiritsa ntchito zokulirapo mpaka Cholinga chokongoletsedwa. Kodi anzeru a iwo akuchita chiyani? Muime kaye. Malinga ndi mahule aku France (ndipo amadziwa zambiri zomwe zili bwino komanso zoyera kwa munthu), sikofunikira kwa nthawi yoyamba, ndipo chachiwiri: "Akakubwera kwa kachiwiri, zikhala kwamuyaya. " Ndiye kuti, zokhudzana ndi ntchito yeniyeni kuti mupititse patsogolo makwerero amayamba pomwe mayiyo amagwera m'maso mwa oyang'anira. Izi, mutha kunena, malo omwe anali atakutidwapo, pomwe star yoyamba ya masitepe imapangitsa kuti chitukuko chizikhala chitukuko - pang'onopang'ono, koma moyenera, koma moyenera, koma moyenera, koma nthawi yomweyo ndikupita kumeneko mwachangu, koma nthawi zina ndi zolakwika. Zolakwika, monga mukumvetsetsa, ndikangana. Mikangano, okonda masewera okonda ntchito nthawi iliyonse amakhala okwera pamalo okweraPanthawi imeneyi, kutengera kutengera mapikisano pamasitepewo kungawapeze pamayendedwe osauka. Mwachitsanzo, amuna nthawi zambiri amaiwalika kuti sangathe kutuluka pamalo okwera pomwe akuyenda - zitseko zimatsekedwa zokha. Izi zikutanthauza kumasulira mu chilankhulo cha ntchito yomwe ingathe kusokoneza pofunikira koyamba, kokha podina batani la Kuyimba Kwadzidzidzi. Nthawi yomweyo, kuletsa kwa buku la ntchito nthawi zonse kumatha ndi kuchotsedwa kwa wopemphayo kuti agwire ntchito yantchito. Koma ngakhale kuwerengetsa kugonana kosavuta kumayenda bwino, palibe lingaliro lokhudza chilengedwe chake, inde ndi poyizoni onse a chikondi ndi kupambana kwa akatswiri. Ndipo muukwati wokonda "kuchokera kwa ogwira ntchito" pa onse akhoza kukhala onyoza: Mtengo wa zovuta za kutsika, amafuna kuti kukula kwake kapena ayi, zomwe zimachitika chifukwa cha zotsatira zobiriwira - mkazi abwana amaphimbidwa ndikudya. Komabe, abambo ayenera kuyesa kukula kwa ntchito ndi kugonana. Kupatula apo, ali osatetezeka kwambiri kuposa akazi, kupatula, amakhala ndi mwayi wotumiza wamkulu woponyera ndikuwongolera pampando wake.
Mkazi akafuna kukula
Chithunzi: Chochitika.
Nyuzipepala ya mayiyo yogonjetsedwa ndi abwana imawoneka yovuta, siyipereka chitsimikizo kuti ntchito yokwezedwa ntchito ndikukhala ndi mwayi wotha kulembetsa bwino. Kupatula apo, bambo, atakwanitsa kukonda wogwira ntchito, amalandira ufulu woyatsa, kugwiritsa ntchito mwayi pa mbiri yantchito. N 'chifukwa Chiyani Mumadzimangirira Maunyolo a Gidda, Ngati Muli Chilichonse Kusunga Hafu yachiwiri yolamulidwa? Ndipo popanda chifukwa chachikulu cha munthu, monga lamulo, musasinthe kalikonse m'moyo. Ndizosatheka kunena kuti buku lodziwika bwino lotere likutipatsa, akazi, ndi akatswiri a akatswiri. Ndipo ngati izi zikuchitika, kumbukirani: Mutu wa mutu sudzadzikana yekha kukhala wokondwa kukumbutsa amene, mwini wakeyo. Inde, thandizo lodziwika bwino kwa mkazi siikhala nalo nthawi zonse, ngakhale kuti sachita mantha kuti agwere m'maso, koma molingana ndi mfundo "Chifukwa, ndikakupatsirani chilichonse." Chifukwa chake njira yokhayo yosinthira abwana a Wokonda ndi mawu okhudzana ndi chisamaliro. Kutaya nthawi yomweyo komanso muumwini, komanso mwaluso paukadaulo palibe munthu sangathe. Pozindikira kuti wogonjera pakati pa bukulo akhoza kukhala kunja, bambo adzapita kukaisunga m'manja ndi antchito ake nthawi imodzi. Koma nthawi iliyonse yomwe simuyenera kutaya pulogalamuyo patebulopo, imangogwetsa kamodzi kokha, ndipo izi ziyenera kudziwa mtengo wa kusiyana kwa kusiyana. Zidzatheka kugulitsa kuchotsedwa kwake kwa sitampu mu pasipoti kapena ntchito - kuvomereza popanda kuganiza.
Ubwino ndi Wosatha
Ndiye kodi ndizoyenera zolemba zantchito? Kapenanso thanzi labwino kwambiri kukweza pamasitepe kuposa kukwera mwachangu mdindo wokwera? Anthu omwe amadziwa kuti chinthu chachikulu ndi kutalika kwa chikhalire ndi kutalika kwa masitepe. Ngati mabens ndi achidule, ndipo ndi okwera, amuna amatha kulangidwa ndi chinthu chimodzi: okwera pamalopo, koma amazigwiritsa ntchito mosamala, mogwirizana ndi mayendedwe ake otetezeka. M'masitepe ang'onoang'ono ndibwino kukwera omwe - kuphunzitsa minofu ndi mtima. Kuphatikiza apo, ife, akazi, chikondi chotere. Koma kwa akazi, yang'anani onse awiri oyang'anira amuna ndi mabwana pomwe: Kodi sadzatipusitsa, ngakhale atayamikiridwa kwawo? Kodi sukuwayesa? Koma pali masitepe ozizira, opindika pazachilengedwe, kenako mafunso onse amasowa: palibe chokwera. Cholinga (mabelu-ogona) ayenera kutsimikizira njira - kuyesetsa kukweza. Njira yopita kumalo okwezeka iyenera kukhala yayitali komanso yovuta. Chifukwa yekha ndi wokoma, osati chifukwa chake. "Kukwaniritsa Syndrome" - akatswiri azamisala amati ndi kuwuka, kuonera zokhumudwitsa mukalandira zomwe mukufuna. Ndipo matendawa akasakanikirana ndi buku la chikondi, kulawa kumataya koyamba ndi kwachiwiri. Ndipo kuwawidwa uku mu chilankhulo kunamva chimodzimodzi amuna ndi akazi.
Maria Fedorova, katswiri wazamisala wa Institute of Gulu ndi Psychology ndi psychotherarapy : "Zolemba za mabuku zimasiyananso:" Jane eyre ", mwachitsanzo, kumatha kukhala mtundu uwu. Maanja ambiri aukwati amadziwika, omwe pa ubale wawo " ena ndipo sanasokoneze kuyaka kwa ubale wawo. Zinthu zilinso chimodzimodzi ndikamagonana zimangogwiritsidwa ntchito pongopeza zolinga zina ndipo sizitanthauza chidwi, zosangalatsa, zimakumbutsa mkhalidwe wa ziphuphu. Kusiyanako kumangokhala ndalama zokha, komanso gawo lawo. Maubwenzi apamtima chifukwa cha ntchito yake amatanthauza kuti malire a malire anu, zomwe zimaphatikizapo kuphatikizika kwawo, ndipo nthawi zina - chiwonongeko. Zina mwa zoteteza zomwe zidapangidwa kuti zizipulumutsa psyche yathu munkhani yochulukirapo, pali njira yopumira. M'mabukuwa, nthawi zina amafotokozedwa motere: "Ndinkakhala ndi vuto loti thupi langa sililinso kwa ine." M'mikhalidwe pomwe malire a anthu amawopseza zoopsa, malingaliro amalekanitsidwa, thupi limakhala lotalikirana, limatha kuzindikirika ngati "gawo limodzi la ine". Pankhani ya malire osokoneza bongo, zomwe zingachitike ndi zachisoni - kusungulumwa, kudzipatula kwa kulakwa, kuwonongeka komanso kusakhulupirira kuthekera kothekera ku ubale woona. "
Igor Kon, katswiri wogonana, dokotala wa Filosophy, pulofesa, wamkulu wofufuza, dzina lake Acaden, Anthrology ya Russian Academy of Sayansi: "Pa chilichonse m'moyo muyenera kulipira. Tsopano abambo ndi amai amapikisana naye pafupifupi mofananamo, ndipo amangogwiritsa ntchito mkondo wake kuti agonjetse nkhondoyi. Sindikuchitapo kanthu kuti ndiphunzire ngati mungakhale ndi mwayi wopeza ntchito polumikizana ndi "othandiza". Mkazi aliyense azidzithetsera yekha. Koma zotsatilapo zidzakalipabe mtima kwa iye. Idzagwira ntchito zogonana. Komabe, uhule umadzilemekeza komanso wachikondi. Vutoli limakhudza zomwe zili pamwamba pa lamba - malingaliro athu komanso malingaliro athu. Ambiri, pakugona ndi osakondedwa, akuimira iwo amene amakonda. Sizimapulumutsa azimayi kuti asamamve zambiri komanso kuwonongeka kwa moyo wamunthu, ngati ali ndi kanthu. "
Olga Geornikova, General Director of the Conslinnel Buncy "Compart" : "Kugonana kumatha kusewera bwino komanso zabwino pantchito. Zimachitika nthawi zina kukhazikika kwa mikhalidwe, yomwe imathandiza mzimayi kudumphira kudzera mu magawo awiri kapena awiri a masitepe ogwiritsira ntchito. Palinso zinthu zambiri zofananambiri, makamaka pakati pa alembi. Mu sing'anga wapamwamba, azimayi ambiri adawonekeranso kwa zaka khumi zapitazi. Ndizovuta kunena kuti kugonana kwa ntchito yawo. Komabe, mzimayi yemwe wakwaniritsa kugonana ayenera kulingalira bwino kuti zikhala zikuchitika, pamalo atsopano. Kupatula apo, mutha kupatsanso pambuyo pake - koma payenera kugwira ntchito, kudziwonetsa ngati katswiri. Chifukwa chake zonse zidzatengera umunthu wa munthu, kuchokera ku mikhalidwe yake yabizinesi, kuchokera ku malingaliro ndi maphunziro. Ngati mayi akukula mu lingaliro la akatswiri, phunzirani, ndiye kuti ali ndi mwayi wokhala pamalo okwera. Nthawi zoyipa zomwezi pantchito yofananayo ndizosapeweka - malingaliro ophatikizika pantchito amaphwanyidwa, maubale m'gululi akuwoneka, mbiri imazindikira. Vuto la kuchitiridwa zachipongwe ndi mutu wosiyana. Inemwini, zikuwoneka kuti mayiyo amatha kukhala ndi vuto - osalowa mu ubale ndi wamkulu komanso osataya malo antchito. Ndikofunika kuti musapange misa yofananirako konse. Kugonana ndi ntchito kumadalibe ku mitundu yosiyanasiyana. "