Mavuto ambiri mu maubale athu ndi theka lawo likuchitika chifukwa chosamvetsetsa, zomwe zimatsimikiziridwa ndi kusiyana komwe pakupanga maubale. Mzimayi nthawi zambiri amayembekeza mawonetseredwe omwewo okonda komanso chikondi chomwe chitha kuwonetsera, koma chimayembekezeredwa, munthu sangathe kupereka zomwe akuyembekezeka, koma ali ndi njira zake zosonyezera zakudzimva. Ndiye kodi amuna oona mtima awa ndi osiyana bwanji? Tiyesetsa kudziwa.
Kulumikizana Kwambiri
Chiphunzitso "Mkazi amakonda makutu ake, ndipo maso a munthu" safunikira chitsimikizo. Ngati kumverera kwakukuru sikungatheke kuti mugone nawo popanda kulumikizana, ndiye kuti munthu ndikofunikira kuti mumve bwino. Ndiye chifukwa chake akunena za akazi ngati: "Chifukwa chiyani simukulankhula ndi ine?", "Kodi mukungogonana kwa ine?" Ayi, osati kokha. Koma kumatanthauza kuti munthu ali pathupi kumatanthauza kuti mkazi wamwamuna, motero mnzanuyo sakudalirana - ndikofunikira kwa iye.
Mukuganiza chiyani?
Palibe chinsinsi chomwe chimaganiza kuti amuna ndi akazi ndi osiyana kwambiri, omwenso amagwiranso ntchito kukonda maubale. Mikangano yambiri imachitika chifukwa cha kusamvetsetsa kwa okwatirana. Mwamuna amaganiza za ziwembu zoterezi: Tsimikizani chinthucho, chikuganiza zochitazo, zimayambitsa. Zomwezi ndi zomwe zimafunikira ndi mlenje wabwino, lero mzimayi yemwe akuyenera kugonjetsedwa pamaso pa "migodi". Mkazi, yemwe ndi sangathe kuchita popanda kutengeka, kulumikiza malingaliro ake onse ndi malingaliro ake ophiphiritsa, ndikofunikira kuti munthu angoyang'ane mbali yake. Munthu sangathe kuchita ngati alibe kulungamitsidwa.
Sikuti munthu aliyense ali wokonzeka kufotokoza zakukhosi kwake
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Ndipo akuno makolo?
M'malo mwake, maziko oleredwa ndi a pabanja amatenga gawo lalikulu pankhani yothetsera mavuto. Sikoyenera kuyankhula momwe kukhalira kwa anyamata ndi atsikana, ndiye kuti, kukhala okalamba, tsopano kuli amuna kale, osati anyamata, osayesa kutengera zopinga ziwiri: palibe malingaliro, misozi, mawonekedwe ake azimayi. Chifukwa chake musaganize kuti mnzanuyo ndi wachifundo yemwe alibe chidwi kuti sakunyalanyaza mwina sakugwiritsidwa ntchito pofotokoza zakukhosi.
ndine womasuka
Pakukhala mumzinda waukulu, ufulu umafunikira mwamuna ndi mkazi. Zachidziwikire, sizokhudza kulumikizana, koma za kupumula wina ndi mnzake. Ndikofunika kuti musaze kuti "kuchotsedwa" pakhosi kwa munthu. Ngati akufuna kukumana ndi abwenzi, nthawi zambiri, zinthu zili choncho. Amuna sakhala ndi malingaliro a chuma ngati mnzanuyo adaganiza za mapulani a kumapeto kwa sabata, omwe abwenzi ake akuwonekera, osathamangira kokakola ma rayterics ndikuletsa kutuluka popanda inu. Mulole munthu wanu asinthidwe kuti abwerere kwa inu ndi magulu atsopano.