Banja lotchuka kwambiri ku Russia zenizeni - mpongozi ndi apongozi ake. Ndipo ngati mikangano yotsutsana ndi yamisala, ndiye kuti m'moyo uno nthawi zambiri sunasesa kuseka: Nthawi zina mikangano ndi kusamvana kumabweretsa chisokonezo cha banja. Ndipo ngati banjali likhala ndi apongozi awo-apongozi omwewo, ubalewo ukukulirapo. Ndiye kodi mungatani kuti musapange chisankho pakati pa amayi anu omwe ndi amuna anu?
Chifukwa chiyani apongozi amisala
Chifukwa mayi, mwana aliyense ali m'badwo uliwonse amakhalabe cholengedwa, mogwirizana ndi makolo, amafunika kusamalira ndi kuwathandiza popanga chisankho. Amayi okha ndi omwe ali ndi kumvetsetsa kokwanira komwe mwana wawo wamkazi wakhala munthu wamkulu yemwe amakhoza kusankha munthu ndikupanga ubale ndi iye popanda kulowererapo. Kodi ndi zonena ziti zomwe zingachitike pafupi ndi apongozi aamuna?
Mkazi amakhulupirira kuti mwa mwana wamkazi wa mwana wake wamkazi, aliyense ameneyo, kapena winayo amatha kutengera lingaliro ili pamenepa kapena chinthu chimenecho, kotero kulowererapo ndikofunikira. Muzochitika ngati izi, munthu ayenera kutsimikizira apongozi apongozi, kuti mwana wawo wamkazi asankha, podalira munthu wodalirika. Komabe, nthawi zina, "zowotcha" zanu sizingakhudze mkazi wofunikira.
Amayi awo akuyenera kukayikira mwamphamvu za mtundulawu, popeza mwini wakeyo adzaona kuti ali ndi udindo m'maso mwa mwana wake. Zimakhala zovuta kuti avomereze kuti mwana wamkazi wamkulu akuwona wothandizira komanso wamulangizi pamaso pa munthu wina.
Nthawi zina sangakhale ngati mwayi. Kenako amayamba kutsutsa chilichonse chomwe munthu angachite. Mzimayi amakhulupirira kuti yekha ndi amene angasankhe mwana wawo wamkazi aliyense, koma zomwe apeza sizabwino kulikonse. Mwana wamkazi akuyamba kukwiya, fotokozerani amayi ake kuti asakukondweretse, adakumananso ndi anthu okwera mtengo kwambiri.
Mayi akhoza kubfuula mwana wake wamkazi. Ngati mabowo akuluakulu akuluakulu m'moyo wa amayi, amayamba kuwononga moyo wake ndi abale ake ndipo amayamba, kumene, ndi pafupi kwambiri.
Amayi ambiri ndizovuta kuvomereza kuti mwana wamkazi wakwera kale
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Chifukwa Chiyani Myuda Minano
Nthawi zambiri, chifukwa chomwe chimakhalira ndi apongozi. Munthu aliyense ali ndi malingaliro ake ndi malingaliro pazochitika zina komanso pamene malingaliro ake ndi osiyana kwambiri ndi malingaliro enawo, kwa ife - apo - apongozi awo, mikangano ndiyosatheka. Kodi Amuna Ndi Otani?
Mwamuna akadakhala ndi vuto laubwana, tinene, mayiyo amakhala akupanikizika nthawi zonse, kusunthidwa kwake konse kwa mayiyo, komwe amaganiza molakwika, kusamutsa fanizo la mayi ndi amayi.
Kufuna kulamulira. Zachidziwikire, m'miyoyo ya amuna popanda icho, koma chifukwa cha moyo wabanja, kusinthasintha ndikofunikira. Pamene apongozi apongozi awo, apongozi ake ndi ofunikira komanso anthu ovuta, ndipo nawonso amakhala m'gawo limodzi, posachedwa adzayamba kugawira gawo ili.
Kunyoza apongozi ake. Cholinga cha kusamvana kumatha kukhala chidani patokha, pamene munthu pa zifukwa zosiyanasiyana amayamba kudana ndi mayi ake, ndipo amazitsegulira poyera.
Nthawi zina "chikondi" amayi ndi mwamuna amathera patsiku laukwati
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Mkaziyo akasokoneza
Nthawi zina onse maphwando amatha kukhala mwamtendere mpaka mkazi atalowererapo. Zovuta kwambiri - pamene mkazi wakhala moyo wambiri ndi amayi ake ndipo samatha kupanga zisankho pa zake, popeza nthawi zambiri ankakhala munthu wopatsa ulemu. Tsopano, pokhala mkazi wokwatiwa, amakhala wopanda thandizo ndipo momveka bwino kumakondweretsa amayi, ngakhale kuli kofunikira kwa mwamuna wake. Zotsatira zake, banjali limakhala molingana ndi malamulo a apongozi aakazi, ngakhale mwamunayo adakwatirana ndi mkazi wina, amayi ake "amalamulira" mnyumba mwake. Pankhaniyi, mkaziyo amafunikira kufunsa dokotala, koma izi ndizotheka pokhapokha ngati zimazindikira kuti vuto lotereli limakhalapo.
Ngati kusamvana sikuthetsedwa, kumayambitsa banja
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Kusamvetsetsa m'banjamo kumatembenuza nyumbayo kukhala malo okhalamo kosatha, kuphwanya nthawi zonse. M'nyumba yotere sizosasangalatsa kubwerera, anthu onse okhalamo ndi amanjenje, mawu osasamala amatha kukula kwambiri.
Nthawi zina mkazi ayenera kusankha: kukhala ndi mwamuna wake, koma mpaka kuwonongeka kwamuyaya ndi amayi, kapena chisudzulo. Palibe zomwe mungasankhe zomwe zingakhale zoyenera. Ndikofunikira kuti ubalewo ukhale mbali zonse ziwiri ndipo amayesa pang'ono, koma kuti ayanjane nawo wina ndi mnzake.
Ngati zokambirana sizithandiza, ndipo apongozi ake akupita ku gawo lokhalapo, m'tsogolo kwambiri muyenera kutumiza "banja" lachipembedzo, chifukwa akatswiri oyang'anira kwambiri angalimbane nawo mpaka iye kutsogozedwa momvetsa chisoni.