Mikangano ndi gawo limodzi la moyo wathu watsiku ndi tsiku. Ndikosavuta kuganiza kuti ngakhale mu banja losangalatsa kwambiri komanso logwirizana silinachitike mikangano, ngakhale atakhala olondola pankhani zapakhomo. Nthawi yomweyo, mabanja ena amawiritsa "zikhumbo za ku Italy", koma amakhalabe aukwati komanso mabanja oterewa zaka makumi angapo zaka zapitazo, ndipo ngakhale ngakhale mikangano yopanda zolakwa kwambiri yomwe idathetsa banja.
M'malo mwake, mikangano yabanja imakhala ndi zifukwa zake. Nthawi zambiri, ndipamwamba chabe pa ayezi yotsutsana ndi zotsutsana. Ngati mikhalidwe yachikhalidwe, chikhalidwe cha banja lidakhazikitsidwa ndi miyambo yakale, miyambo yachipembedzo, masiku ano mabanja adalengedwa ndi anthu omwe ali ndi maphunziro osiyana kwathunthu, mikhalidwe yamakhalidwe, mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya banja. Ambiri mwa ukwati alipo kale moyo wabanja lakale kapena chizolowezi, chomwe chimapereka chitsimikizo kukhalapo kwa masitampu okhazikitsidwa ndi spirootypes, wachibale yemwe akufuna machitidwe am'banja komanso tsiku ndi tsiku.
Choyamba ndi chachikulu popewa mikangano yabanja ndi kutseguka kwa okwatirana kwa wina ndi mnzake komanso kulemekezana. Kubisika Kakusunga Kachikunja Makhalidwe, zopeka zomwe okwatirana amatembenukira kuyanjana ndi nyumba zonse, osatinso anthu apamtima a anthu.
Vuto linalake likakhala m'banjamo, chinthu chomveka kwambiri chakuti okwatirana angapange kuti azikambirana mwakachetechete, popanda kutengeka mwadzidzidzi, mwamwano ndi kusintha kwa aliyense payekha. Ingoganizirani kuti timathetsa vuto lomwe linabuka kuntchito - mu kampani kapena boma: Omwe anzawo okwanira sadzasweka kuti azikhala mofuula komanso mwano. Malinga ndi njira zomwezi, mavuto ayenera kukambirana m'moyo wa banja lililonse: zachuma. Ataphunzira kulankhulana momasuka ndi mfundo ina, mverani wina ndi mnzake ndi kumvetsetsana wina ndi mnzake, mungapewe kusamvana ambiri ndikupulumutsa banja ku chiwonongeko.
Inde, chinthu chofunikira kwambiri ndicho chidwi cha akazi onse. Ngati palibe chiwonetsero, ndiye kuti kulumikizana kwathunthu, ndikosatheka: Mkazi m'modzi sangathe kudziyerekeza ndi mnzanuyo ndipo mumvenso kuti mnzanu waukwati wawo akumva.
Kutha kudzilimbitsa nokha, kufunitsitsa kusintha umunthu wawo ndi ubale wawo ndi wokwatirana ndi mnzake ndi njira yofunika popewa mikangano. Tsoka ilo, okwatirana amatsatira udindo wopanikizika kwa mkazi wachiwiri kuti asinthe ndikusintha malamulo awo pamasewerawa, koma sagwiritsa ntchito izi kwa iwo. Pakadali pano, machitidwe oterewa ndi "kuyenda pang'onopang'ono" pansi pa maubale amgwirizano muukwati kapena chipani. Ndikofunikira kuti musangoyembekezera kusintha kulikonse kuyambira theka la theka lachiwiri, komanso kusintha kwambiri (kuwulula zoyipa zawo ndikuwafunafuna. Ngati mnzanu mmodzi amatsatira mtundu wadziko lodzikonda komanso kuti azitenga kuti zitheke, ndiye kuti mikangano idzakhala yosapeweka ndipo banja loterolo lizisandulika kukhala chiwombankhanga cha anthu.
Tiyenera kumvetsetsa kuti kukambirana kotseguka kotseguka komanso kufunitsitsa kumvera ndi kulemekeza mnzake ndiye malo akuluakulu a banja losangalala, mikangano yomwe itha kukhalapo, koma silingakhale ndi kuthekera kowononga.