Msonkhano, woyamba kuwona, chikondi, kupsompsonana koyamba, kugonana, ukwati, koma okwatirana ambiri ali ndi ubale wokhala ndi zodabwitsa ngati izi. Chifukwa chake funso limabuka: Chifukwa chiyani kubera kwa mkaziyo kunayamba kukhala kofunika m'dera lathu.
Kuchokera pazochita zanga, nditha kunena kuti zifukwa zomwe zasinthira zitha kukhala zosiyana ndipo izi ndizofunikira kwambiri:
imodzi. Simunavomereze . Mgwirizano wanu ndi mgwirizano kuti ukhale awiri, abale. Ndikofunikira apa mbali zonse ziwiri zimamvetsetsa kuti ndizovomerezeka kwa inu, ndi zosavomerezeka. Mwachitsanzo, mnzanu wakhala pachibwenzi chowonekera, ndiye kuti, pamagulu omwe mayi wina amagonana ndi mkazi wina sanali wachinyengo, koma anali wovomerezeka. Ndipo mumakhala ndi moyo kapena kuganiza kuti mukhale paubwenzi wachikhalidwe, komwe wokondedwa ali wokha. Paubwenzi watsopano, aliyense wa inu amamvetsetsa kusakhulupirika kwanu. Pankhaniyi, muyenera kuzindikira kuti simumagwirizana mwatsatanetsatane zomwe mungachite, ndipo zomwe simungathe, ndinu okonzeka bwanji. Ngati panganoli silinapangidwe momveka bwino, ndiye kuti palibe amene angaimbidwe ndi chilichonse, koma kuti simunavomereze.
2. Mumasewera masewera osiyanasiyana. Mukuganiza kuti muli ndi ubale womwe muli banja ndi zina zotero, ndipo munthu wanu "wasowa": akuwoneka kuti akukhala nanu, koma nthawi yomweyo kusaka. Kodi zingakhale bwanji ngakhale kuti mwakwatirana kuti muli ndi chikalata chaukwati. Ndizomvetsa chisoni kwambiri chifukwa aliyense wa inu amakhala mu zenizeni, ndipo kotero kuti izi zikuphatikiza, mufunika luso lalikulu kuti simungakhale nacho, akadakhala wopanda vutoli. Pankhaniyi, kapena muyenera kuvomereza kuti zili choncho, ndikukhalabe, kapena malizitsani ubalewo, kapena muziyesetsa kukwaniritsa mwamphamvu zomwe mungathandize munthu payekha, ndikuchita Mosachedwa popanda kuchitapo kanthu, ndikupanga malo omwe kusintha kwake kudzachitika.
3. Alibe Mwana . Banja la Monogamous ndi General Liva ndi ntchitoyi, munthu wosayerekezeka wosakhwima, iyi ndi ntchito ya akuluakulu. Ngati mwamuna wanu sanakhwima mu kukhwima mwauzimu, azikhala ngati wachinyamata, amakhala wopanda nzeru, amakhala ndi zaka zingati kwa iye. Zilibe ntchito kuti mumukhumudwitse ndikumufunsa - iye ndi wocheperako. Ndizomvetsa chisoni kuti mudalinso chimodzimodzi ndipo simunawone kuti mnzanuyo sanakhwima mokwanira polojekiti monga banja losangalala. Mutha kumaliza maubale awa kapena mudzipange nokha ngati akazi kuti m'malo mwanu wakupsa ukadzachitika mwachangu momwe tingathere. Koma ili ndi ntchito yayikulu yomwe imatha ndi zotsatira zosadziwika: Kucha, amatha kumvetsetsa kuti simuli mkazi wake, komanso ngati muyenera kuyikapo. Kumbali inayi, mumapambana munkhani iliyonse, chifukwa kumakulitsani ndi kukonza bwino, mumakwaniritsa ntchito yanu yofunika kwambiri ndipo mukadali ndi munthu wabwinoko - kapena wina, kapena wina.
4. Chifukwa chachikulu ndi Saloledwa muukwati samalandira mphamvu zazikazi. Pankhaniyi, amapita kukawatenga kwina. Nthawi zambiri, azimayi amakhulupirira kuti mwamunayo ayenera. M'malo mwake, palibe amene angatero. Mwamuna mwina alibe kugonana. Mwina imavutika ndi chikondi, chikondi, kusilira. Mwinanso mtundu wa malo a nyumba si gawo lomwe mukufuna. Mwinanso ndinu okondweretsedwa ndi ana. Monga gawo la lembalo, sitingafufuze zomwe amasowa, koma mawonekedwe a mayi wina akuti chitukuko m'magulu anu kwasiya monga munthu, ndipo ubwenzi wanu ulinso Osakula. Sitingathe kuchita naye kanthu, koma mutha kuyambitsa chitukuko chanu, mutha kusintha luso lanu, ndipo sindimalankhula za kugonana kokha, koma pamalingaliro onse achikondi. Mutha kukulitsa mikhalidwe yanu yaakazi, azimayi anu akuimba, mwinanso, mwina ali ndi chidwi chobwereranso, zidzakhala zosangalatsa kukhala nanu, kapena munthu wina adzaonekera.