Lingaliro la kukhala mwana kunena kuti si magazi, mumazunza ambiri omwe akulera. Chimodzi mwa mantha chachikulu - amamva kuchokera kwa Amayi ndi Abambo, omwe siabadwa, ndipo zimamuvulazidwa chifukwa cha iye. Kodi ndiyenera kubisa zinsinsi za kulera? Ngati tinena zoona, motani?
Ndizosatheka kukhala chete
Kodi nkhani za kulera nthawi zambiri zimakhala zopanda pake? Chifukwa pali njira yoyipa yolakwika. Kuti "" adaponya, ndiye safuna aliyense. " Kuti "ali ndi" banja loipa, motero woipa, waphedwa. " Zimapweteka kwambiri mawu oterewa mawu oterewa. Ndi anthu owopsa bwanji omwe angatsatire!
Nthawi zonse ndimapita patsogolo. Ndipo upangiri wanga waukulu.
Ndabwera kudzawateteza.
Ndabwera kuti ndisunge chinthu chofunikira kwambiri chomwe tili nacho pambuyo pa chikondi - kudalirika kopanda pake.
Ine ndili pano kuti akudziwa kuti kumbuyo kwamphamvu kuli pambuyo pawo.
Ndili pano kuti ndidziwe kuti mumakondedwa komanso mukufuna.
Ndabwera kudzalankhula. Kunena zoona.
Kukambirana kovuta kumeneku kukhoza kumangidwa, kudalira mfundo zotsatirazi zomwe ndidadzichitira ndekha potha kulankhulana ndi ana anga.
Valentina Krasnikova ndi mayi wa ana 17, ndipo ndi phwando liti
1. Tiuzeni za msonkhano wanu, monga momwe zinthu zabwino kwambiri
Chotsani mwana kuti ayang'ane ana olera olera, pafupifupi ana omwe ali ndi zovuta zovuta. Muloleni amve kusangalala ndi chisangalalo chomwe mudakumana naye. Nditadikirira, ndimayang'ana ndikupeza. Ndikofunika kuti iye amve momwe mumamukondera pamenepakatika nthawi yoyamba. Kuti mwana sakana munthu wina, koma, m'malo mwake, iye ndiye amene anakuyembekezerani monse. Tsiku lina nthawi ikadzamva mwana akamamvetsetsa kuti zithunzi zomwe ali mwana, ayi. Kuti dzina lake ndi pompopomponse ena. Funso "Kodi Zinachokera Kuti?" Zidzaonekera pakukambirana molunjika. Pakadali pano ndimamuuza mwana nkhani yake ndi mawu ofatsa kwambiri omwe ndikudziwa. Ndikunena zonga izi: "Mwanawe, kumbukira, ndinakuuzani? Takupezani mukakhala kale, kuchokera kwakukulu, ndipo pokhapokha nditakhala amayi anu! Ndimakukondani kwambiri ndipo osakupatsani aliyense! Ndiwe Mwana Wanga! " Ndimabwereza nkhaniyi nthawi zambiri kuti aliyense, makamaka ana, amamva kukhala gawo la mphindi. Nthawi zambiri amaiwala, motero ndimabwereza nkhani zathu mobwerezabwereza, ndikuyika chikondi changa mwa iwo.
Chitsanzo china cha mbiri yabwino chimauza wophunzira wanga kuti: "Mwana wamkazi wamkulu kuyambira ali wakhanda. Tsopano ali ndi zaka pafupifupi 4. Osafuna kubisa mwamuna wanga. Nthawi zambiri timapita kumadokotala, motero, mafunso a majini ndi pakati pobereka mwana akumva. Tsekani makutu ake komanso osasangalatsa. Wobadwa mchimwene wachichepere. Panali chifukwa chokambirana momwe ana amatengedwa. Zinayamba kufunsa za tummy ndipo zinatero. Kenako ine mwachikondi, mwachikondi, ndi chikondi chinafotokoza kuti kulibe, sikuchokera ku tummy wanga, koma kuchokera ku tummy azauni ena. Ndipo iye anatsegula chinsinsi chake, "koma inenso ndinabala papu, koma timamkonda Iye. Mukudziwa, osati kubala wina kuti akonde! Ndipo abambo anga ine ndimafuna kuti tikhale nanu, mtsikana wodabwitsa kwambiri, timakukondani kwambiri! "Ngakhale izi ndizokwanira, koma ndikudziwa kuti adzafunsanso mobwerezabwereza. Ndife okonzeka mkati. Adalankhula ndi agogo anti Nanga kunena za chiyani ndi momwe munganenere mwana wamkazi'wo ayamba kuwafunsa. "
Chinthu chachikulu ndikudekha mtima komanso motsimikiza. Okonzeka, osafotokozedwa modabwitsa. Pangani nkhani yanu yabwino ya banja lokhudza msonkhano patsogolo ndikubwerezanso kwa ana mobwerezabwereza.
2. Tsegulani makolo ochuluka
Pakapita nthawi, mwana afunsani za makolo ake obadwira. Zachidziwikire, mudzapeza kuti zimavuta kukhala ndi chidwi ndi anthu awa komanso chifukwa chake palibe amene kenako. Mwana akagunda m'banjamo m'zaka zazomwezo, amakumbukira bwino zonse. Nthawi zambiri amayenera kuyankhula, kuchotsa ululu ndi mantha mkati. Chinthu chachikulu sikuti amamusokoneza kuti asanene. Pakadali pano, amafunikira thandizo lanu, kuphatikizapo kutsimikizira kuti iyi si vuto lake kuti moyo wachitika. Ndikofunikira kuti ndifotokozere mwana aliyense - chibadwa chilichonse kulibe, izi ndi mawu onse. Aliyense ali ndi chisankho! Tinapezana wina ndi mnzake, tonse pamodzi, chifukwa chake popanda inu choyipa chidzachitike, ngakhale pali chilichonse chomwe chinali "kale." Mwana akakula, adzafunabe kudziwa, yerekezerani, tengani yankho lanu. Koma ngati muli ndi chilichonse, ngati mutakhulupirirana ngati mumafuna, sizikhala ndi tanthauzo mu ubale wanu ndi iye.
"Ndikofunikira kuti ndifotokozere mwana aliyense - kulibe chiwonongeko."
3. Iliyonse - yapadera
Ngakhale mwana akaphunzira za kulera kuchokera kwa inu, nthawi zambiri chidziwitso ichi chimasokonekera chifukwa chodzidalira. Ndikofunikira kwambiri kutsimikizira nthawi zonse chisamaliro cha thewa kuti abweretsa china chapadera m'banja. Ndi iye, makolo ndi banja lonse anali wolemera, wosangalatsa komanso wanzeru. Chilichonse ndichofunikira kuti mumvetsetse chomwe chiri chapadera, bwanji ndimakonda komanso zomwe mukusowa - m'banja lanu. Ndiwe nkhani zambiri zoseketsa, Andryasha amakoka bwino, Natasha amatha kutonthoza onse! Ndikofunika kudziwa mwana aliyense waluso yemwe ali nawo. Ndipo ndikofunikira kumva chitsimikiziro kuchokera kwa makolo awa. Mobwerezabwereza.
Chinsinsi chokhazikitsidwa kapena kukhazikitsidwa pagulu sizingatheke.
Chovuta kwambiri titha kuvomereza nthawi yomwe mwana angadziwe chowonadi osati chikaikiro chocheperako mu moyo wake womwe makolo amamumvera. Ndipo kenako mwanayo ndi kugwedezeka komweko ndi kugwedezeka, ndipo makolowo ndi chipongwe champhamvu komanso kusakhulupirira moyo wake. Kusungulumwa ndi kuzindikira zonama. Mafunso Chifukwa chiyani sunakhale chete ngati palibe choyipa pakukhazikitsidwa?
Okondedwa ndi makolo, khalani okonzeka kuti zomwe zimachitika munkhaniyi zitha kukhala zosatheka. Koma, mosakaikira, chowonadi, chomwe mawu abwino kwambiri komanso ofatsa ochokera ku mtima wa amayi amayi, zidzakhala zosavuta kupezeka kuposa chinyengo chayandikira, ndikukutsimikizirani. Ndipo mukakhala munthu wachikulire, mwana wanu adzati: "Amayi ndi abambo, zikomo chifukwa chokhala oona mtima. Zikomo chifukwa cha zomwe mudandichitira. Ndimakukondani!"