Kodi izi zikutanthauza chiyani - mawonekedwe, chowonadi kapena cholakwika? Onse, onse awiri, ndi wachitatu. Chifaniziro chachikazi chomwe chimawonetsa kuti munthu yemwe ali ndi bungwe lotchedwa "Ababa" azikhala bwino kuposa munthu wokongola, kuwonetsetsa kuti ndife othokoza kwambiri m'moyo wabanja - kudalirika komanso kudalirika. Pafupi ndi iye akhoza kupumula, sizimamveka "kutambasula komanso kufanana." Nthawi zambiri samapanga mapulani opambana, koma mvetsetsani tanthauzo pakati, padziko lapansi. "Phatikizani msomali" kapena kukonza craneyo alinso gawo lawo. Kuphweka komanso kusasinthika, kumachitika, atsikana ambiri amalumikizidwa ndi lingaliro la banja losangalala.
Komabe, ngakhale amuna ambiri ochepa amafanana ndi chithunzi cha stereotypical, koma si onse. Akatswiri azachipembedzo anachenjeza kuti "akugwiritsa ntchito" satellite ya zizindikiro zina kapena malingaliro wamba. Ngati mukufuna "teddy chimbalangondo" kwa olembetsa ena pamoyo wabata, chifukwa chake, mutha kukhumudwitsidwa ndikugula. Makamaka munthu sayenera kutsatira funsoli pankhaniyi. Kupatula apo, chinthu chachikulu m'banja ndi chikondi.