Masiku ano, m'badwo wamba wa mayi wokonzekera mwana woyamba ali ndi zaka 30. Ngakhale kumayambiriro kwa zaka za zana la zana, kunachitikanso modabwitsa - monga lamulo, pofika zaka 30, mayiyo anali kale mwana m'modzi. Komabe, zinthu zamakono zimalamulira mikhalidwe yawo yomwe azimayi amayenera kusintha, ndipo nthawi zambiri mayi amachedwetsa tsiku lotsatira. Amayi ambiri, malingaliro ambiri oterowo ali pachiwopsezo cha kukhumudwa ndi ana, kujambula m'madzi ndi sukulu. Osafulumira kukhumudwitsa, malinga ndi akatswiri, mkati mwa akatswiri pambuyo 30 Pali zabwino zake zomwe tidaganiza zosonkhana m'nkhani yathu.
Mnzanuyo ndi kholo lodalirika kwambiri.
Ngati abambo aang'ono sazindikira nthawi zonse udindo wawo, ndiye kuti amuna okhwima amayenera kukhala ndi udindo wa abambo ake omwewo ndi mtima wonse - kuyambiranso mpaka mwana uja atakhala ndi mkaziyo, ndipo chifukwa chake kulumikizana kwake ndi Mwana wake ndi amayi ake amakhala mosavuta, pomwe abambo achinyamatawa sankapereka nthawi yayitali ya m'badwo wawo wonse, pomwe onse sanali ndi nthawi yoti "atuluke", motero munthu amayamba kuyang'ana a Chifukwa chokanika kunyumba kapena kuchedwa kuntchito, chifukwa chisamaliro cha mwana ndi mayeso abwino kwambiri kwa bambo. Zachidziwikire, zaka sizikhala chinthu chofunikira kwambiri, komabe, ziwerengero za zosatsutsika sizili bwino kwambiri, makamaka abambo - anthu a anthu 30.
Mudzafika kumodzi ndi udindo wa amayi
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Mukukonzekera kukhala ndi pakati
Ndizosowa kwambiri kukumana ndi mayi yemwe, atakwanitsa zaka 30, adayamba kukhala mayi. Ku m'badwo uno, mzimayi akumvetsa zomwe akufuna, omwe amafunikira amuna 30 okha, omwe amakhala pamapazi "mu pulani yodziyimira pawokha ndipo imatha kudziyimira payekha ndipo imatha kuyang'ana momwe amakonzera Pereka yemwe angapite naye m'njira yovutayi komanso momwe angatsimikizire kuti ndi mwana wake, ngati mwana sakuchita ndi bambo wa mwana.
Ndinu okonzekera kubadwa kwa mwana
Monga tidanenera, mkaziyo "akukula" mu mapulani ochezera pafupi ndi 30, ndipo nthawi yomweyo amakhala bata pa mzimu ndi chidaliro chamkati. Amayi achichepere nthawi zambiri amakonzekera kutuluka kwa mwana chifukwa cha unyamata wa thupi, womwe unali ndi nthawi yopeza matenda owonjezera, koma malingaliro am'mimba a mkaziyo ali ndi zaka khumi zokha. Chifukwa chake, simungathe kuthana ndi amayi amanjenje kwa 30 - kuli kale kale kutenga vuto, koma mwina imodzi mwazigawo zofunika kwambiri m'moyo wake.