Chiwembu cha zinthu zakale - chodabwitsa chamuyaya chomwe chakhalapo nthawi imodzi ndikubwera kwa Institute of Famle. Chikhalidwe chaluso cha zamatsenga ndikuchulukirachulukira ndi ziwembu za mkwatibwi, ndipo munthu akhoza kunena kuti ntchito zomwe zili pamutuwu sizingamvetsetse ndi owerenga kapena owonera, mosasamala kanthu za nthawi yayitali . Sizitaya kufunika kwake ndi funso losatha za momwe mungachitire izi, zomwe zimapangitsa banja kukhala ndi mavuto.
Pofotokoza, malingaliro ake ndiofala kwambiri, malinga ndi momwe, nthawi zina, chiwerewere chimatha kukhala mtundu wa "Hudzu, zomwe zimathandizananso ndi ubale komanso moyo wabanja wonse, kuti zindikirani ndikuwongolera zolakwa zawo. Koma kodi zilidi?
Tsoka ilo, ngakhale zochitika zosangalatsa komanso zosangalatsa sizingokhala mitanda kwazaka zambiri. Kumiza m'moyo wabanja, okwatirana posachedwa kapena amayamba kusangalala ndi maubale. M'malo mokondana, zachikondi ndi kumpembedzedwa zimabwera kusunthira, kukhumudwitsidwa, kutopa kuchokera ku ntchito za banja. Munthu amene ali ngati wokondedwa wake ndi abale ake, amayamba kuyambitsa mkwiyo. Munthawi ya zovuta za banja, Federason akuwoneka njira yabwino kwambiri yothetsera vutoli.
Kodi kuli koyenera chisangalalo chakanthawi cha banja lowonongeka?
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Kutha kuyambitsa chidwi kumbali ndikupeza chilichonse muubwenzi uno chilichonse chikuchepa kwambiri mu banja, kukankha anthu ambiri kukhumudwitsidwa mu banja, kudzikonda kwa banja. Vutoli limasokonezekanso chifukwa cha zovuta zanyumba. Ngakhale kuti, anthu ambiri, dziko la Russia ndi la chiwembu mwanzeru, mwa anthu amisala, kukhazikitsidwa komwe banja lanu lili ndi mtundu wa "Zoyipa" zokhala ndi mizu ". "Mwendo wabwino umalimbitsa ukwati" - atero kunena zodziwika bwino. Zizindikiro za chiphunzitsochi zindikirani kuti ali ndi vuto lakelo ndipo samvetsetsa kuti chiwerewere chimawononga mwachilengedwe, chomwe sichingalimbikitse kena kake.
Akatswiri a psychology ya Denver University of Denver adaperekanso chodabwitsa cha kusakhulupirika kwa seri: Phunziro lidawonetsa kuti 484 a omwe adayankha 48% adasinthiratu kuti asinthana ndi mtundu wina. Kwa anthu oterowo, Mweta woopsa wasandulika "moyo wa moyo."
Zachidziwikire, pali zochitika zina pomwe munthu amene ali pachibwenzi kale amakwaniritsa chikondi chake chenicheni, chomwe chimachitika. Koma nthawi zambiri, wosefedwa, monga tafotokozera pamwambapa, - kuyesa kuthawa vutoli, kuti athane ndi mavuto opezeka m'banjamo ngati njira yocheperako yomwe siyikufunanso kukonzanso. Msampha ndikuti suva uku ndikuganiza. Inde, ubalewo unapangitsa kuti nthawi yayitali iiwale za chizolowezi chokhudza banja, tawonani momwe akumvera mwatsopano.
Chotsani mavuto omwe ali pachiyanjano sichingakhale njira zochepa kwambiri.
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Komabe, kuthawa koteroko ku zinthuzo nthawi zambiri kumatembenuka ndi kuwonongeka kwa mabanja. Zochitika za Ajuko zimatha, a Dende Mwengo, ndi zovuta kwambiri kuti zitheke kuchokera ku kuwonda komwe. Kusintha, mnzanu wolakwika amalowetsa ubale wokhazikika womwe ulipo. Nthawi zonse pamakhala chiopsezo chonena kuti munthu wowonongayo sangathe kukhululuka, chifukwa chake, wolowa m'malo mwake ayenera kuyankha moona mtima mafunso: "Kodi ndakonzeka kuyika pangozi ukwati wanga ndikutaya wokondedwa wanga? "Kodi pali chilichonse chomwe sichingakakamize chidwi cha mwayi wa mwayi wowononga zonse zomwe zidapangidwa kupitilira chaka chimodzi?". Ndipo ngati maubale omwe alipo sakutanthauza kufunika kochepa, ndiye kuti zingakhale zowona kuti ndizowona mtima, m'malo mopusitsa mnzake kumbuyo kwake. Kupatula apo, posachedwa, chinyengo chidzawululidwe, ndipo chimangoganiza kuti ndi mnzake ndani yemwe aphunzira choonadi chomwe chidzachita.
Ngati wolepheretsa amayamikila ukwati wake ndipo safuna kutaya wokwatirana naye, ndiye kuti ananena kale kuti, ayenera kudziwa kuti mwina banja la banja liziwagonera. Kodi pali zosangalatsa zopanda nzeruzi? Kapena mwina pali winanso, wocheperako, njira yogonjetsera mavuto am'banja? Zachidziwikire, gwiritsani ntchito paubwenzi ndi maubwenzi ndi zovuta, zofunika kuchita komanso chidwi kuchokera kwa onse awiri. Komabe, palimodzi mutha kuthana ndi zambiri, chinthu chachikulu ndikuwonana wina ndi mnzake, kumayankhula bwino za mavuto omwe alipo ndipo koposa zonse, phunzirani kumvetsetsa ndi kumvetsetsana.
Chida chothandiza kwambiri chomwe chimathandiza kuthana ndi zotsutsana zotsutsana ndi mabanja ndicho thandizo la katswiri wazamisala wabanja. Kukopa kwapadera kwa katswiri woyenerera nthawi zambiri kumathandizira okwatirana kuthetsa mavuto omwe adalemba zaka zambiri ndikukhala osangalala komanso ogwirizana m'moyo wabanja.