Maganizo amakono a psychology ya mabanja ndi chidziwitso chosangalatsa kwambiri. Zaka zana zina zapitazo, Psychology anali kuphunzira ndi kuchitidwa bwino ndi kuchitikira kwa iye, ndipo tsopano ukwati wawukulu wadutsa ndikufufuza momwe malo obadwira amakhudzira. Ndipo timakhala mwa iwo ndipo tisamvetsetse momwe timasamalirira mosadziwa za banja lathu.
Mwachitsanzo, gehena wathu wamakono, wodziwika kuti ndi njira imodzi yamilandera, ananena kuti ana sanali obadwa chifukwa cha zifukwa zosiyanasiyana mosabisa. Pali kukumbukira kwawo, malingaliro omwe amakhudzana nawo, zinsinsi ndi zoletsa. Mwamphamvu, amapezeka m'banjamo, makamaka pamene akuyesetsa kuiwala za iwo osaganiza. Itha kutanthauza lingaliro ili, ngati shamanosm kapena zopanda pake. Koma musanatseke tsamba ili, werengani maloto a maloto athu. Mwina adzakutsegulirani zinthu zachidwi:
"Ndawerenga nkhani yokhudza kuchotsa dzulo komanso momwe zimakhudzira ana obadwa. Ndinaganiza za momwe abale anga ndi alongo anga osandikhudzira. Ndipo ndimalota kugona m'mawa, ngati kuti ndife anthu asanu - ine ndi anthu ena asanu, omwe sindikuwadziwa, koma ndikudziwa zomwe ali, ndizomwe zimachitika mu ocheperako a Seran. . Ndipo ine ndikungochita kumene ndi zomwe ndikudziwa yemwe ndi momwe ndinamupha, koma sanatenge nawo mlandu. Ndipo ndili pano, monga umboni wotsutsana wa izi, ndikubisala pobisalira mtembo wake. Pazifukwa zina, amagona m'bokosi loyera lalitali, monga pansi pa nsapato, ndi bokosi la thupi lopapatiza la thupi, motero limatsegulira nthawi zonse. Tiyenera kuchotsa mtembowo, koma sitikudziwa momwe tingachitire izi. Ndimadandaula kuti ine ndekha, chifukwa ndi ine kunyumba. Ndipo imayamba kununkha, kuwola, komanso yowopsa. Ndipo ine ndikumvetsetsa m'maloto omwe, mwanjira yabwino, ndikofunikira kuchita zonse monga momwe ziyenera kuchitira: kuyika maliro, ndi zina. kotero kuti palibe amene akudziwa. Kwa ife, tili ndi pangano lomwe timachotsa mtembowo ndipo anthu onsewa 6 ayenera kufa, kuphatikiza ine, kotero kuti palibe amene awononga chilichonse. Ndipo ine ndikumvetsa kuti sindikuwoneka kuti ndikuchita nazo, koma ngati zonse zakonzedweratu ndipo zidzafa chifukwa cha izi. "
Kugona kumawonekera! Mtsikanayo akudziwa za kuphedwa, ngakhale sanamupatse iye. Tikulankhula za mimba yopangidwa ndi amayi ake. Amadziwanso kuti si mwana yekhayo m'banjamo, koma zisanu ndi chimodzi. M'gulu lino, amayesa kubisa kupha. Zonsezi "kubisa" mnyumba yake, chifukwa kumakhala kukumbukira kwa iwo, kumaganiza, kumatanthauzanso funso la abale ndi alongo osabadwa. Ndipo ndi yekhayo amene amakumbukira izi yekha, Popeza mwana wamkazi wobadwa yekha. Ndi amene akudziwa kuti bokosilo m'maloto ndi ochepa kwambiri kuti chinsinsi ichi chinsinsi ichi (chikumutsegulira).
Njira yatsatanetsatane ya psychoneral psychology ikusonyeza kuti sikuti aliyense m'banjamo amadziwa, komanso chifukwa chokonda okondedwa awo, akuyesera kukonza zokhumba zawo, akuyesera kukonza zokhumba zawo. Chifukwa chake, malotowo amafuna kugawanitsa tsoka la abale ndi alongo ake ndipo amadziwa zomwe ayenera kufa kuti zinsinsi zisungidwe. Ndiye kuti, akufuna kulumikizana ndi banja lake, lomwe amakumbukira, ngakhale atapanda kudziwa. Kukhumba kumeneku kumatha kuonekera munthawi ya chidwi cha chidwi, kupanda chidwi, kusafuna moyo kukhala moyo wawo, kungodzitsitsa ndi ntchito zawo, kulephera kumanga ubale wokhwima, ngakhale matenda.
Maloto athu ayenera kuphunzira momwe angadzilekanitse ku tsoka la ana omwe sanabadwe. Kuti achite izi, ayenera kumuuza ngati Spell: "Palibe cholakwa changa m'tsogolo. Ndili ndi moyo wanga. Sindingakhale ndi moyo wina. "
Ndipo, mwina, iyi ndi njira yabwino kwambiri osati kwa iye yekha. Ndipo kugona ndi gawo lodzilekanitsa m'banjamo.
Maria DonaCkova, zamatsenga, othandizira am'banja komanso akutsogolera paubwenzi wapakati pa Marika Khazin