Munthu wopanda ulemu ndi munthu wosamvera chisoni chifukwa cha wokondedwa wake, sangathe kulingalira zina mwa malingaliro a pakati pa anzanu komanso nthawi zambiri amakhala osayanjanitsidwa kuti ndi ndani. Mwamuna uyu akumva kuti ali ndi chidwi chochita zomwe akufuna popanda kuda nkhawa ndi momwe izi zimakhudzira anthu omwe akumanga nawo.
Kusamalira momwe enawo ndiofunikira
Izi zimatchulidwa muubwenzi wapakati, koma nthawi zambiri zimabisidwa m'moyo. Munthu wanzeru amadziwa kuti ulemu ndi kudera nkhawa ena kumadzipeza. Komabe, kumbuyo kwa zitseko zotsekedwa, pakalibe zotsatira "zenizeni", munthuyu nthawi zambiri amawonetsa kusowa kwa chisoni ndikupewa kusakondweretsa. Kusintha pakati pa kuwonetsa kwa munthu ndi mikhalidwe yake yeniyeni kumakhala kwakukulu. Ngati mwadziimba mlandu, osamvetsetsa chifukwa chomwe mumakonda ndi nokha, komanso nanu, werengani zinthu izi.
Onyenga aluso
Tsoka ilo, kusagwirizana kwenikweni ndikosavuta kusabisa ubale wapakati, chifukwa kumadziwonetsa kudzera m'mawu - gawo lomwe aliyense amatha kuponyedwa mwaluso. Pogwiritsa ntchito zopatuka, kuchepetsa ndi kulungamitsidwa, munthu wopanda ulemu msanga amakana malingaliro a wokondedwa wawo ndikudzilungamitsa. Amapewa kusasangalala kwa maudindo.
Zizindikiro za munthu wodalirika zimaphatikizapo:
1. Kutha kuwona malingaliro a munthu wokondedwa, ngakhale atasiyana ndi iye.
2. Kutha kudzisanthula komanso kutenga nawo mbali pamakangano.
3. Yesani kulapa kuchokera pansi pa mtima.
4. Amazindikira ndi mtima wonse.
5. Itha kukhala pachiwopsezo, kuzindikira ndikukambirana zakukhosi.
6. Timapepesa modzipereka chifukwa cholakwitsa.
Monga moto ndi madzi
Anthu omwe amakhalidwe amakhalidwe abwino amatha kuthetsa mkangano chifukwa amatha kumawaonanso, amadzilingalira komanso kutenga nawo mbali pamikangano. Kuphatikiza apo, popeza amakhala achifundo achifundo, nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi chidwi ndi ena. Pambuyo pochita zolakwa kapena cholakwika, nthawi zambiri amamvera chisoni, kupepesa ndipo akuyesera kukonza kusiyana. Kumbali inayo, gawo lopanda tanthauzo limangoganizira zakukhosi kwawo ndipo sangathe kutsatira malingaliro ena. Kuthetsa mikangano kumakhala kosatheka chifukwa chotsimikizira kwa munthu pakuti amakhala wolondola nthawi zonse.
Osakhala osokoneza
Chilichonse sichoncho
Munthu wodalirika ndi munthu yemwe amatha kuthandiza ubale wathanzi komanso wapamtima ndi anthu ena omwe amatsatira zomwezo. Kuganiza mogwirizana, kuvomerezedwa mogwirizana ndi zina ndi kuzindikira zina ndi kuzindikira kwa mlandu kumakhudzana ndi kuthekera kofunikira komwe kumalola kuti munthu asamalire ndikumvetsetsa ena. Izi sizitanthauza kuti munthu wanzeru wamtima sadzakhala wokonda kudzikonda kapena samalakwitsa, koma amangochita zinthu zadyera, kuyesera kulungamitsa ululu womwe umawapangitsa. Kuwongolera zolakwika muubwenzi kumathandizira kuyanjana, chisangalalo ndi kudalirika - musaphonye mphindi izi.