Kumbukirani, muubwana tonse timakonda kulandira mphatso - kudikirira tsiku lobadwa kapena tchuthi china chilichonse chomwe chili ndi vuto labwino kwambiri. Ndipo msungwana wamng'ono ali ndi vuto chifukwa cha moyo wa makolo ndi abwenzi, kukhala atakula ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa kuti si mphatso zonse, zomwe zimakwera mtengo, zimatipatsa monga choncho. Koma sizoyeneranso kuyang'ana kukayikira aliyense - anthu ambiri amachotsedwa ntchito, akuwona chisangalalo m'maso mwa wolandila mphete kapena tikiti yayitali kwambiri. Masiku ano tinaganiza zolankhula za mphatso kuchokera kwa amuna, chifukwa chake iwo nthawi zambiri amawapatsa ndi momwe angawatengere, kuti asamvere mbali zonse ziwiri.
Kodi izi zikuchitika bwanji?
M'malo mwake, si munthu yekhayo amene akumvetsetsa kuti mphatsozo zimatha kukopa chidwi cha anthu omwe si amuna kapena akazi anzawo: pafupifupi nyama zonse m'njira imodzi kapena ina kuti mupatse mnzanu, kuwerengera mobwerezabwereza. Chifukwa chake simuyenera kudabwitsidwa kuti munthu, ngakhale ngati simuli wabwino kwambiri kwa inu, azindikira zokonda zanu kuti mupereke mphatso zomwe sizingakusiyiretu. Munthuyo amangokwaniritsa pulogalamu yachilengedwe.
Mphatso yochokera kwa mwamuna sikuti amangonena zogonana
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Bwanji tikuopa kutenga mphatso
Mavuto athu onse ndi mantha amachokera ubwana. Thandizo lathu lalikulu limakumbukira zakale. Tiyerekeze kuti mukufunadi kuyendera zokopa paki, komwe makolo adayankha: "Chabwino, mudzalemba moyenera, pitani" ndipo ndizo zonse zotere. Mumayamba kuzindikira malingaliro omwe amapangidwa kuti akupatseni chidwi ndi njira yopezera china chake. Makamaka, njira iyi imagwira ntchito kutsutsana ndi amuna. Mukuyamba kukayikira ngakhale munthu amene mumakonda kukukokerani kukagona, apo ayi chifukwa chiyani amakupatsirani malaya a ubweya?
Zoyenera kuchita?
Tsopano tikulankhula za amuna omwe inu muli muubwenzi wokhazikika kapena wocheperako. Masiku ano, amuna nthawi zina amagwira ntchito zingapo, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti samvera chidwi kwambiri kwa amayi awo kuposa momwe iye anafunira. Amatha kuyamba kuwombolera maola awo omwe ali patsogolo panu mu mawonekedwe a sentensi "perekani ndalama kuti mupite kukagula." Amayi ambiri amayamba kukwiya: "Mukufuna kundigulira!" Ayi, safuna. Amuna, makamaka otanganidwa kwambiri, savutikira komwe angapite pachinthu chomwe mungakonde monga - sangakhale ndi nthawi. Pokupatsani ndalama, amapepesa chifukwa chosowa pafupi. Osadzuka mu mawonekedwe ndikuwonetsa ukali.
Koma kwa amuna omwe simunazolowere sadziwa chilichonse, kaya ndiofunika, kuvomereza mphatso yomwe simungakwanitse, siyofunika. Mudzapatsa munthu chiyembekezo chopanda tanthauzo, ngakhale kuti musule maloto ake ndi chikhulupiriro chake mu theka lachikazi la anthu. Khalani oona mtima pamaso pake ndipo inunso.