Kulakalaka kwambiri kukhala wangwiro nthawi zonse kumakhala kokha, kufunitsitsa kuthokoza, kudalira pamaso pa anthu ena - zonsezi zikukumana ndi munthu wowunikira. " Kodi Choipa Ndi Chiyani Kuthana ndi Zinthu Zonse Ndi Bang? Kodi ndizovulaza kuposa zabwino koposa? Ndipo nchifukwa ninji omwe amadzipeza ali ndi vuto la zovuta zambiri, omwe amangodziwa bwino nkhawa komanso nkhawa?
Zabwino kwambiri matenda ndi amodzi mwazinthu zodziwika kwambiri zomwe zimatchulapo koma popanda ngakhale omwe sakudziwa konse zama psychology ya anthu. Nthawi yomweyo, izi zimamveka ngati chinthu chosakhala chachikulu, chopangidwa, monga boma lomwe silimaopseza moyo. Maganizo oterewa pamavuto amisala nthawi zambiri amadziwika kuti maluso azamisala: kawirikawiri yemwe amavomereza yekha kuti ali ndi nkhawa (chifukwa choti amadziwika kuti ndi anthu othamanga kwambiri komanso anja). Zonena za "ophunzira abwino", omwe amakwaniritsidwa popanda mwayi wolandira thandizo. Tinayesetsa kumvetsetsa komwe kuli chikhumbo chopambana nthawi zonse "kukhala oyamba", komanso kutuluka mu boma ndi kutayika kochepa.
- Malinga ndi akatswiri azamisala, kuchokera ku zovuta za Exotor Amayi amavutika kawiri kawiri kuposa abambo. Imalumikizidwa ndi malingaliro owopsa a "abwino" abwino "ndi" zoyenera ".
- Mantha - Nayi ma satelayiti akulu amoyo poyamba, kenako wophunzira wabwino kwambiri. Mantha amachititsa zotsatira zoyipa, mpaka m'matumba ndi okakamira
Zovuta.
- Agdedonia - Mawuwa amatanthauza kulephera kusangalala ndi chilichonse - ndipo akudziwa bwino anthu omwe ali ndi vuto labwino kwambiri. Nthawi zonse amakhala ndi moyo, amakhala pansi pa mawu akuti: "Simungathe - musasangalale ndi kuyeseza.
Funso la Ana
Kodi mapazi anu amakula kuti kuchokera kwa katswiri? Ndizotheka kumvetsetsa izi kuchokera ku dzina lomwe: nthawi zambiri timadziwana ndi matendawa m'masukulu, nthawi yomwe kuyerekezera kumayambira kulikonse. Sikuti sizachizindikiro chimodzi chokha. Ali ndi zaka 7, munthu amabwera m'gawo logwira ntchito komanso amakumana ndi zovuta panja. Ndipo tsopano si mwana wamkazi wokondedwa komanso mtsikana wosangalatsa, komanso wophunzira wopanda mpumulo, oyandikana nawo, mnzake wa kusukulu yokwiyitsa.
Nthawi imeneyi imachitika ana onse, koma chifukwa chake wina amamusiya matalala, ndipo wina amapanga katundu wazovuta komanso kukayikira? Chinthu chonse m'banjamo m'banja ndi zomwe zimachitika kwa achikulire ofunika pakusintha m'miyoyo ya mwana. Ngati atenga mwana wamkazi ndi wosadziwika, womwe umavuta kwa aphunzitsi ndi aphunzitsi, koma makolo amamuuza kuti azikondana ndi kulemekezedwa, mosasamala kanthu za kumuyamika sadzamugwira. M'tsogolomu, munthu sadzadandaula malingaliro a anthu amzake.
Kholo, lomwe limatengera kuyerekezera kwa aliyense, wofunikira komanso wodutsa podutsa, amapereka chikhumbo chofuna kukonda mwana wake
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Koma ngati "mwalowa mwa anthu" ndipo sanakonde wina, ndipo zitatha izi, makolo anu adawonetsa malingaliro awo onse, chifukwa akhumudwa ndikukhumudwa ndikukhumudwitsa wina - alembe. Kalanga ine, khadi yabwino kwambiri imafalikira kuchokera kwa wamkulu kupita kwa achinyamata. Kholo, lomwe limatengera kuyeserera kwa aliyense, wofunikira kwambiri komanso wakale, kumapangitsa kuti akufuna kuti akonde mwana wake (zachidziwikire mosadziwa). Ndipo motero munthu wina akuwona kuti ndikofunikira kukhala "abwino" (ngakhale "abwino"), osavuta kwa kholo, mwina simukuwona chikondi chilichonse.
Kufunitsitsa kusangalatsa Abambo ndi amayi amatha kutchedwa zachilengedwe, koma sizomwe sizili choncho. Achibale achibadwa pakati pa achikulire ndi achichepere ndi chikondi ndi kubereka, kalikonse komwe kumachitika, makamaka mu dziko la "chakunja lakunja. Mwana wokhazikika m'maganizo amadziwa kuti izi, zimakhalapo, ndikofunikira kupeza machitidwe apadera. Koma mwana yemwe anali ndi kachilombo bwino kwambiri, amafunikira chikondi (molondola, mawonetseredwe ake) ndi okonzeka kuzimva.
Kuti akwaniritse Awo, ana ali ndi njira ziwiri - njira ya "zabwino" ndi "zoyipa". "Zabwino" zidzalandira kudalira kwa neurotic padongosolo la chilengedwe ndipo lidzayesa kukhala labwino kwa aliyense. "Zoipa" zimachitanso chimodzimodzi, kuyesera kukopa chidwi cha chikhalidwe cha Hooligan ndi zosokoneza zoopsa. Zovala za maubwenzi zidatsekedwa: Mu wachikulire wocheperako, zilakolako zochulukirapo zagona kale nthawi zonse kuti ziyamikidwe ndi kuvomerezedwa. Mwa ana a munthuyu, kenako nkuluzikulu, ndipo kwa zidzukulu zazikulu, "zabwino" zovuta zomwe zimawonetsedwa ndi mwayi zana.
Diary
Chifukwa chake, tidazindikira mizu ya zovuta. Funso likubwera: Kodi ndiyenera kuvutika ndi boma? Kodi choyipa ndi chiyani chomwe chingafune?
Tiyeni tiyambe ndikuti ungwiro ndi lingaliro lamphamvu kwambiri. Palibe chowopsa komanso chovulaza pa psyche poyesa kukwaniritsa thabwa lalikulu, kuzindikira tanthauzo la inu. Pankhaniyi, muwona cholinga ndipo muyesetsa kuzikwaniritsa. Ndemanga zonse za anthu omwe akuwona kuti akukhala, akhoza kutenga kapena ayi. Kuyesedwa kwachitatu kwa inu ndi chidziwitso chokhacho chosaganizira, ndipo nthawi zina mawu opanda kanthu. Maganizo a munthu yemwe alibe gawo la "Pakatikati" sichingakukhudzeni.
Koma kodi chitukuko cha munthu amene amayesa bwanji kukondweretsa aliyense komanso aliyense, akuopa kukhala "oyipa" pamaso pa munthu wina ndipo akufuna kuphonya ungwiro osati kuwunika kwake? Anthu oterewa sakonda kunenera "ayi", pofuna kukhumudwitsa wamkulu, mzanga, mnzake, kholo. Amamvetsera kwambiri momwe amawonekera m'maso mwazomwe amakhala, amange chithunzi chawo chabwino.
Vuto ndiloti "malingaliro" amasangalatsa ena okha, koma osati "Wophunzira Wakale". Sadziwa kumvetsetsa, sadziwa ndipo akuopa zofuna zake, zovuta zimasankha zochita. Kafukufuku wasonyeza: Pakati pa "ophunzira abwino" "kuli atsogoleri ochepa. Izi ndizomveka: kuti zikhale zofunikira kutsogolera, ndikofunikira kuti "zimveke bwino" zimapangitsa kuti zikhalebe ", nthawi zina sizimada nkhawa za ndani ndipo nthawi ingaganizire za inu. "Zabwino" zosagwirizana ndi lingaliro lakuti wina padziko lapansi sangakhutire nawo. Ndiye chifukwa chake m'malo mwake amatenga mawonekedwe a wojambula wodalirika, wamphamvu komanso wopanda mavuto.
Nthawi zambiri, "ophunzira abwino" amakhala ndi mavuto ndi kugonana. Ndipo pano zifukwa zikhale pansi. Moyo wapamtima ndi gawo lomwe sililola zotumphukira komanso masks. Kuti mumvetse bwino zogonana, ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa zokhumba zanu ndi kuthekera kolankhula za iwo (ngakhale ngati mukunena kuti "Ayi"), popanda kuopa palibe amene angakhumudwitse munthu kukhumudwitsa.
Chifukwa chake, miyoyo ya omwe amagwiritsa ntchito zaka zawo zabwino pofunafuna "milungu" yochokera kwa ena, kuchokera mbali yokhayo zingaoneke ngati labwino. M'malo mwake, tsiku lililonse la anthu omwe amadalira anthu ndi ntchito yolimba: Osasiya kapena kupuma. Mutha kukhalapo munjira iyi, koma kwakanthawi kochepa: posachedwa kapena pambuyo pake padzakhala zovuta zama psysosanoma, maganizidwe, Mania.
Ungwiro - Lingalirolo ndilogonjera kwambiri
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Kusamvera tchuthi
Kodi mungatani ngati mwapeza zovuta za chabwino? Timatsogozedwa ndi lamulo lalikulu la chithandizo chilichonse: Timagwira ntchito. Izi zikutanthauza kuti ngati simusowa kusintha, ndipo mukudziwa zovuta zanu kwa nthawi yayitali, simukufunanso kulowererapo, simukufuna kugwira naye ntchito.
Ndizosiyana kwambiri ngati kamvedwe ka "kotero sangakhale ndi moyo" wokupezani, ndipo osasiya, ndipo chifukwa cha "matenda am'mimba, thupi ndi thanzi. Apa, muyenera njira yokhazikika komanso yolimba.
Chinthu choyamba choyambirira, kuchokera pazomwe muyenera kusiya njira kuti muchiritsidwe, ndikuletsa kuyerekeza. Aliyense. Mu adilesi yanu, abale ndi kutseka, osazidziwa. Monga tikudziwira, ophunzira abwino kwambiri ndi ochita masewera owoneka bwino, ndiye tengani mawonekedwe awa. Mwachidziwikire komanso mosamala "Flue Mosamala" zolankhula zanu ndi malingaliro anu, ndikutaya maweruzo onse owerengedwa kuchokera pamenepo. Monga momwe amadziwira, malankhulidwewo ndi enieni pakati pa chikumbumtima ndi zenizeni, choncho mawu oti "abwino", "ochita bwino" ndi otero osamveketsa milomo yanu.
Tikukumbukira kuti anthu omwe ali ndi vuto labwino kwambiri amatamanda, zikutanthauza kuti ndikofunikira kulandira ulemuwu, koma osati kuchokera kwa ena, koma ... Kuchokera kwa inu nokha! Palinso ulamuliro wa chinsinsi: Sankhani zoyamikiridwa zomwe mulibe ziwerengero. Onetsetsani kuti mwawalembera munthawi yovuta kuti muthe kulavulira mu mndandanda wamatsenga.
Gawo lofunikira kwambiri lopita kuchiritso kuchokera ku zovuta zake ndikuyang'ana m'maso mwa mantha anu ndikutenga. Kodi amalimbikitsa chiyani? Inde, "awiri"! M'kulala, "zomwe zidapulumuka" ndi zazing'ono, koma kuti musangalatse - imfa ngati, chifukwa chake, zimapangitsa kuti njirayi iyendetsedwe. Kodi ndinu alendo abwino kwambiri, ndipo homuweki yonse idazolowera kuti mbale zanu ndi zangwiro? Mwachidziwitso amachepetsa mbaleyo, pang'ono, kotero kuti mumangodziwa kuti "china chake chalakwika." Konzekerani kuyankhula pagulu? Valani zolakwika zomwe zavomerezedwa m'mawu ochepa. Mudzaona kuti zolakwika zanu zazing'ono ndizochepa ndipo palibe amene amapereka phindu lililonse lopanda ungwiro ngati inu. Ndikofunika kumverera nthawi iyi: Mukhoza kukhala opanda ungwiro, ndipo thambo silidzagwera pansi, ngati wina wazindikira. Yesezani kukondana ndi zinthu zotere monga momwe mungathere - ndipo mudzazindikira kuti sikofunikira kusewera Mr. kapena Akazi A ARM.
Monga lamulo, anthu omwe ali ndi vuto lalikulu kwambiri, voliyumu yakumbuyo komanso nkhawa. Chifukwa chake muyenera kusankha mayesedwe opumulirako. Ndikofunikira kupatula magulu omwe mungamuuze "ndikuyamba kuvomera kutamandidwa. Chifukwa cha masewera olimbitsa thupi, zojambula zamagulu kapena kuvina, tsoka, musakwanitse. Koma kuchita zopendekera nokha ndi inu, yesani dzanja lanu pa brate, pitani padziwe musanatseke (osasambira kwakanthawi!) - Zosankha zabwino! Onani nkhani yomwe siyingapangitse kufuna kwanu kuti akhale bwino kuposa aliyense.
Pomaliza, palibe amene analetsa psypotherapy, omwe amayenda bwino ndi ma squares mokwanira, kuthana ndi zoyambira zawo ndikuchotsa muzu wa zoyipa. Katswiri angakupatseni mitundu ingapo ya zizolowezi, kuphatikiza gulu. Kugwirizana ndi njira yabwino yodziyang'ana nokha kuchokera kumbali.