Ndili mwana, sitinangokhala ndi mavuto kuti tipeze bwenzi - pa izi zinali zofunika kungofika kwa mwana wina mumsewu ndikufunsa kuti: "Kodi udzakhala bwenzi langa?" Chilichonse, maminiti angapo inu mukupanga masewera atsopano. Kukula, timasintha pang'onopang'ono kulankhulana kwawo, wina wasiya miyoyo yathu, anthu ena amabwera m'malo awo, omwe amathanso kupita posachedwa "kupita kukalowa dzuwa". Koma kodi mungatani, ngati muli ndi zaka 30 ndipo mukumvetsetsa kuti palibe anthu okuzungulirani amene mungamukhulupirire? Masiku ano tinaganiza zokambirana nkhaniyi.
Tikuyang'ana magawo abwenzi
Woyamba, koti ayambe, - Yang'anani mmbuyo ndi "kuyang'ana pozungulira." Ndi mwayi wabwino mudzazindikira kuti munthu m'modzi yemwe mumatha kulankhulana pafupipafupi ngati sanatumizidwe. Ngati, pambali pa ntchitoyi, simukusangalatsidwa ndi chilichonse, yesani kulemba pa zokonda kapena pamalo olimbitsa thupi, komwe adatenga kuyambira chaka chatha - malo oterowo nthawi zambiri amathandiza kuphatikiza anthu ambiri.
Ndipo tsopano mwapeza munthu yemwe ali wokondwa kwa inu, kodi zikuwoneka kuti sizikuwoneka kuti sizingaganizire zotani? Chinthu chachikulu, yesetsani kuti musakakamize kampani yanu - imakonda anthu ochepa. Nkhani yoyamba pa mitu yonse, pang'onopang'ono amapita kumiyendo ya zokonda zomwe amakonda, ndizovuta kunena kuti apa ndiye munthu amene angakusangalatseni kapena zomwe zingakusangalatseni. Mulimonsemo, musakhale chete, koma osakakamiza popanda chifukwa. Chitani izi.
Khalani bwenzi langa ndekha
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Ngati zonse zili bwino, munthuyo ayamba kuchitapo kanthu ndikukambirana mitu kapena nkhani zaposachedwa kwambiri zidzakhala zachilendo. Pakadali pano, mutha kupereka zochitika zolumikizana ndi munthu, mwachitsanzo, kupita kumakanema kapena mu cafe kumapeto kwa sabata. Mabwenzi ochezeka ndi ochezeka.
Yesetsani kuti mupangitse chidwi chanu, ngakhale mutangoyamba kulankhulana ndi munthu ndipo sanakhalepo ndi nthawi yokupemphani. Kodi amatanthauza chiyani "chithunzi chabwino?" Choyamba, yesani kuti musachedwe, musasokoneze, musatsutse. Kachiwiri, mumakondwera ndi moyo wa munthu wina, musanene nthawi zonse za inu ndi mavuto anu, chifukwa tanthauzo laubwenzi limathandizana wina ndi mnzake ndipo mukufuna kuthandiza munthu wapamtima. Kuyiwala za izi, simuyenera kudabwa kuti bwanji mwadzidzidzi munthu anasowa kwinakwake ndipo safuna kulumikizana.
Khalani nthawi zonse wothandizirana. Ndikofunikira apa kukumbukira kuti anthu nthawi zonse amakhala ndi chidwi cholankhula ndi omwe amatha kunena kanthu, kuphunzitsa kapena ndi omwe siotopetsa. Izi zitha kutheka, kukulitsa, ndikudabwa za chatsopano. Onetsetsani kuti mukangokhala munthu wosangalatsa, anthu akukupatsani mwayi.