Mbali yogonanayo imakhudza kwambiri njira zonse zomwe zimachitika m'miyoyo yathu. Monga lamulo, atayamba kugonana nthawi yogonana, ndipo timabereka mphamvu zambiri m'masiku athu, zomwe nthawi zambiri zimaphedwa, zomwe zimagwira ntchito pamalo okhazikitsa mgwirizano pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi. Komabe, m'malo osiyanasiyana m'miyoyo yathu, zochitika zitha kuchitika zomwe zimakhudza mtundu wa kugonana. Mwachilengedwe, kusintha kotereku kumagwirizana ndi phychiology yathu sikungakhudze psyche. Kudziletsa kumakhala kofunika kwambiri - mwaufulu kapena kukakamizidwa. Pali nkhani yabwino: Palibe amene wamwalira kuyambira kalekale, komabe mphindi yamalingaliro ikhoza kusokoneza moyo, chifukwa chikhumbo cha kugonana chomwe chikuvutitsani chimayambitsa mavuto ndipo pang'onopang'ono chimayamba kusokonezeka.
Ndi zaka zingati lero zomwe zimawonedwa ngati kuchuluka kwa kulowa mu kugonana?
Malinga ndi maphunziro a akatswiri azachikhalidwe aku America, zaka khumi zapitazi zidabweretsa achinyamata ambiri, zomwe zimayamba moyo zaka zosachepera 20 mpaka 21 Odziwa komanso abwenzi amakhala ndi nthawi yokwatirana / kukwatiwa kachiwiri, ndipo wodwalayo akuyang'anabe theka labwino, lomwe ali wofunitsitsa kupereka "chinthu chofunikira kwambiri".
Akatswiri ali ndi chidaliro - ziribe kanthu kuti munthu wodziletsa sakuwoneka kuti, kusowa kwa wogonana kwanthawi yayitali kumatha kugwedeza ngakhale psche yamphamvu kwambiri, chifukwa chachikulu kwambiri chilengedwe. Kuphatikiza apo, mu chikhalidwe chamakono, pambuyo pake kulowa m'mbuyomu kukuyamba zachilendo, ngakhale kuti anthu omwe ali m'zaka khumi izi ndi 20% kuposa mibadwo iwiri yapitayo yomwe yayamba kufunafuna ogonana.
Kudziletsa sikuyenera kuchedwa
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Zotsatira zina zakutsogolo za kudzipatula kungakhale kuchepa kwa chidwi chogonana ndi chidwi: Kukhazikitsa koteroko kumafunikira kubzala libido komanso mtsogolo mwa Chisangalalo, ngati munthu akupezekabe panjira yake yomwe mungalimbikitse ubale wolimba. Panthawi imeneyi, wopanda dokotala wogonana, sizotheka nthawi zonse.
Mulimonsemo, ngati kusowa kwa moyo wogonana kumakubweretserani zinthu zoipa, pamakhala zifukwa zolumikizirana ndi katswiri, apo ayi zimakhala zovuta kuti mugwirizane ndi mnzake. Musalole kuti zinthu ngati izi zikapanda kutuluka.