Kukhala mayi m'nthawi yathu ino ndi njira yodziwika. Komanso, pakati, pazifukwa zosiyanasiyana, mayiyo amachedwa kapena sachitika konse, mkazi wamng'ono adzapewa kumvera malingaliro awo ndikunena kuti "china chake chavuta ndi iye". Kukhala mayi ndi wolondola komanso woyenera. Nthawi yomweyo, mayi ndi gawo limodzi lokha la kukwaniritsidwa kwa mkazi. Dziko likusintha, ndipo azimayi ambiri amadziwa kuti amayi ndi akulu, koma osati gawo lotopetsa la moyo, lomwe silitha kulipirira maphwando ake ena. Ngakhale zili choncho, mayiyo amadzipatula kukhala amakaina, ana ake amalipira chiphunzitso ichi. Zitsanzo za misa imeneyo: Zolephera za mayi mu maphunziro, masewera, luso kuyambira m'mawa mpaka usiku, zimaziziritsa m'matumbo, masukulu ndi mabungwe. Onse omwe ali ndi malingaliro abwino odziimba mlandu komanso osalipira omwe amakula amayi omwe alengeza kuti adaleredwa ndi tanthauzo lokha la kupezeka kwake.
Koma posakhalitsa, ana amakula ndikusiya makolo awo, ichi ndichilengedwe. Kenako makolo, ndipo mayi amakumananso ndi vuto lalikulu lotchedwa "Chinyengo cha Chisa Syndrome". Ili ndi gawo lomwe makolo angazindikire kugwa kwamphamvu kwa chizindikiritso chawo chotchedwa "amayi". Ndipo ngati ine sindine mayi, monga momwe mumawerengera zaka zambiri, ndiye ndine ndani nthawiyo? Ngati mkazi adzitsimikizira kuti ali ndi maimidwe, akugonjera moyo wake ndi cholinga china, pomwe chidayamba kupanga, momwe angapangire ndi kutanthauzira moyo tsopano? Funso lamphamvu komanso losangalatsa kwambiri. Za malotowa a ngwazi zathu zamasiku ano:
"Tili ndi mwana wanga wamkazi wamkulu kudziko lina, ndikuyenda basi ndi gulu. Mwadzidzidzi, banja limabwera ku gulu lomwe lili ndi mwana laling'ono, ndikupemphani kuti ndikhale naye. Mwana ndi msinkhu wa mdzukulu wanga, ine ndikumuyang'anira mosangalala. Pomaliza, makolo ake adabwera, adatenga mwana, ndidayamba kuyang'ana gulu langa, mwana wanga, koma sindingapeze aliyense. Ndikumvetsa kuti adapita ku eyapoti, kulembetsa kuboma kuti ndikabwerere kwawo. Ndiyenera kuwapeza, atenge. Ine ndikuyesera kuyimitsa galimoto, koma palibe amene amaima, amangondilanda ine ku Windows ya magalimoto. Ndimathamanga pamsewu waukulu, mwanjira inayake mwasokonezeka kwambiri, ndikumvetsetsa kuti ndachedwa kuthawa vuto laphokoso, ndilibe nthawi. Zimakhala zowopsa, zimakhala zowopsa kwambiri, ndipo palibe amene angandibweretsere kubwerera kwathu. "
Maloto athu amalota amalankhula naye za momwe angadulire mosavuta pantchito ya "Mame." Chisangalalo ichi ndikukhala pafupi ndi pang'ono. Amakonda monga choncho, palibe chifukwa chowonetsera wina ndikuyesera kukhala wabwino. Mwana, makamaka wocheperako - uyu ndi munthu wamng'ono popanda ziyembekezo zambiri kuchokera kwa inu. Chinthu chachikulu chimasiyana ndi chisamaliro. Chifukwa chake, ndizosavuta kufufuta mbali zonse za moyo ndikudzipereka kwathunthu kwa ana. Komabe, lotoli la loto silikukhudza chisangalalo ichi. Zikuwonetsa kuti nthawi ino yakonzedwa. Zomwe muyenera kukhala mayi ndikukhala agogo, monga momwe, ali gawo la moyo. Kuthandiza izi, mutha kutayika ndipo osabwerera kunyumba, ndiye kuti, kwa inu nokha, kwa inu nokha ku zolinga zanu, mapulani, mapulani, ntchito, ntchito. Kugona kumawasilira kuti adzichepetse okha, osati chifukwa cha agogo. Kudzimangira wekha kumatha kunena nokha, ngakhale pamene oyandikana nawo amayang'ana izi ndi chitonzo. Mwachitsanzo, kupita, ana achikulire akafunsa kuti akhale ndi zidzukulu. Mwina mutha kulipira nthawi ndi suede nthawi ndi maloto, omwe adakhazikitsidwa m'bokosi lalitali: kuti athe kuyenda, kukumana ndi anzanu, amatenga njira yabwino kapena yopezera ntchito yatsopano.
Mwa njira, palibe amene ananena kuti zitha katemera kuwonongeka chifukwa choti anawo adakula ndikusiya nyumba ya makolo, amawatcha ana awo ndipo samawatcha. Koma owoneka bwino kwa mayi wokhwima wa ntchito zake, amphamvu amatha kudzisunga, yemwe sayenera kuphwanyidwa chifukwa cha winawake kulibe.
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Maria DonaCkova, zamatsenga, othandizira am'banja komanso akutsogolera paubwenzi wapakati pa Marika Khazin