Poona kuchuluka kwa makalata omwe adayamba kufika posachedwapa, ndikuwona kuti kusanthula maloto kunali kothandiza pamoyo watsiku ndi tsiku.
Masiku ano, maloto a m'modzi wa owerenga atithandiza kudziwa zomwe zingachitike kungatipatse chidwi kwambiri ndi mutu woterowo.
Nthawi ina, Sigmund Freud adanena kuti mphamvu za kugonana kwa munthu aliyense ndizoyipa. Komabe, pagulu, nkhaniyi siiletsedwa. Zokhudza kugonana kumayankhula pang'ono, kudutsa mutuwo. Chifukwa chake, ambiri a ife sitidziwa chilichonse chokhudza chibadwa chathu, ali ndi zovuta zambiri zakugonana, zoletsa, ndipo ngakhale ndi wokondedwa wanu sangathe kupuma.
Amayi ambiri siovuta kumva zachinyengo komanso zofunika. Ngakhale kuti zakunja, zodzoladzola, zinthu zokongola komanso zidendene zoonda, polankhulana ndi anthu, mosavuta ndi wamanyazi, kapena kubisala manyazi.
M'maloto, njira zotetezera za psyche yathu imafooka, ndikutilola kumva kuti tigonana komanso zokopa.
Nayi wowerenga maloto omwe adafunsa azindikira zake kuti amuuze za umunthu ndi kugonana:
"Mlanduwo umachitika mu mpingo komwe msonkhano ukubwera. Ndimadzipereka mtsikana muchira china ndipo ndiyenera kuwonetsa momwe angayang'anire kampasi. Koma sindingathe kuchita izi, chifukwa pali malo ochepa ndikutembenuzira chifunga. Ndipo sindikudziwa bwanji. Miyambo ikudutsa, ndili ndi mikanda, yomwe mu nthawi ya riti idamupeza, koma ndimawatenga.
Pambuyo pake ndikukhala mozungulira ndi abwenzi a amuna anga ndikulankhula nawo, pozindikira kuti sayenera kukhala ena. Ndipo tikukambirana. Ndipo ine ndikuwona mwamuna kumbuyo kwagalasi, omwe amapusa ndi winayo, ngati kuti waledzera. Ndipo ndimawauza, poyang'ana pa chithunzichi kuti ndidzakhala ndi anzanga omwe angamvetse kuti ndingakhale kuno. Pakadali pano ndikuwona momwe bwenzi loledzera la amuna anga amamupatsa ndikuponyera mugalasi. Ndipo ndikufuulira kuti: "Ayi!". Ndili wankhawa! Ndipo ndimalankhula kale pakati pa theka: "Ndiyenera kukhala kuti".
Ndipo tsopano timvetsetse mwatsatanetsatane.
Kugona moyenera kumatha kugawikidwa m'magawo awiri: "Tchalitchi ndi miyambo yoyamba" ndi "mitundu ya abwenzi a mwamunayo".
Pali zizindikilo zingapo zogona kotero kuti ndizosavuta kupanga lingaliro: mpingo ndi mwambo wodzipereka. Kugona kumatsimikizira kuti wowerenga wathu ayenera kudzipereka kuti akhale "achikazi". Kuphatikiza apo, ziyenera kuyendayenda pa nkhaniyi (chizindikiro cha kampasi), koma mutuwo uli mu chifunga ndi moyo watsiku ndi tsiku chifukwa cha malo ake. Pambuyo pa mwambo, amadzitenga yekha chizindikiro cha ukazi (mikanda).
Mukamaliza pang'ono, pamenepa, mtsikanayo alola kukhwima, kupeza malangizowo ndi chidaliro chakuti kuli mkazi, ngakhale pali chifunga zambiri ndipo pang'ono pamutuwu wokhwima chibadwa chathu.
Gawo lachiwiri logona momwe mungakhalire mkazi pakati pa amuna. Ngwazi imayamba ndi zomwe zikukambilana ndi amuna, zomwe sizingakhale nawo. Amatchulanso mawu oti malo omwe akuzungulira amamvetsetsa chikhalidwe chake.
Kulankhula ndi anthu, amatha kuwona kuti ndi aukali, wopusa, wosiyana. Ndikofunikira ku fano la mwamuna, chifukwa zochitika zowopsa zikuchitika ndi iye, pambuyo pake heroine akuti ali pamalo ake.
Mwinanso, uthenga waukulu ndichakuti ngwazi imadutsa mapangidwe ake monga mkazi, koma sangagwiritsenso ntchito mphamvu yake ndi kugonana kokha, koma pokhapokha "m'malo mwake", pafupi ndi munthu.
Komanso, kugona kumatha kuganiziridwa moyenera kuti kugonana ndi ukazi ndi, kumanga, mkhalidwe wangwiro, wapadera (chithunzi cha mpingo). Ndipo mbali inayo - mwankhanza, zachilengedwe, mwachilengedwe (zithunzi zamakampani, masewera ndi nkhondo zoledzera).
Mwina malotowo akuvumbula kuti ndalama sizinapezekebe mu mzimu pakati pa zikhulupiriro zolimba.
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Tiwonana posachedwa!
Maria Zemkova, wamisala, wothandizira pabanja komanso kutsogolera kukhazikika kwa kukula kwa malo ogulitsira marika Hazin.