Kodi ubale wamavuto mu banja ndi chiyani? Kodi akuonekera chiyani?
Mavuto am'banja m'banjamo ukadzakhala ndi zolinga zomwe zingafunikire zomwe zimawatsogolera kapena mosazindikira, zimayambira koyamba, sizimasamala ndikukwaniritsa zolinga izi, onsewo sagwira ntchito Nthawi zonse pamodzi ndi abale awa sakonzedwanso kudikirira kapena kupereka zolinga zanu ku zolinga za wina. Mwachitsanzo, mkazi wakhala akufuna kwa mwana ndipo sakukonzeka kudikirira mpaka mwamunayo akalandira ndalama panyumba, ngakhale amafunanso kukhala ndi mwana, koma pambuyo pake. Sadikiriranso kuti mwamunayo apezeke, ndipo asankha kubereka mwana. Kapenanso chitsanzo china, mkazi wakhala ndikulakalaka makolo ake atasamukira kwawo ndi mwamuna wake, ndipo mwamuna wake sakonzeka izi, ngakhale salankhula mwachindunji za izi.
Mikhail burchesi
Zipangizo zamagetsi
Kodi ndi zinthu ziti mu Russia yamakono nthawi zambiri imayambitsa mavuto a banja?
Zinthu ndizofanana monga kale. Anthu ali ngati anthu, amangowawononga funso - funso loti pakhale mabanja a banja, zomwe zimayambitsa mavuto a mabanja, makamaka zikafika kwa ana. Zina mwazinthu zofala ndi zokonda ma polygles ndipo, zachidziwikire, ubale wa okwatirana ndi makolo awo omwe.
Maso Achibanja - Kodi Kupanda chiyembekezo ndi mathero pafupi kapena kuli chiyembekezo cha chipulumutso cha "selo la Society"?
Vuto la banja si nthawi yovuta yokha, komanso mwayi wosintha kukhala wabwino. Kwa zaka zoposa 20, kumapeto kwa sabata limodzi ndikupita ku seminar ya masiku atatu, komwe timakhala ndi makasitomala anga omwe amafunafuna njira zingapo zothetsera mavuto osiyanasiyana. Munthawi imeneyi, makasitomala oposa 5,000 sanangopirira mavuto abanja, komanso adapezanso zokumana nazo zolimbana zatsopano za mabanja, zomwe sizinali kulakalaka. Koma chododometsa chimakhala kuti pamlingo wina wa maubwenzi pali zovuta zosiyanasiyana, koma zimathetsedwa.
Kodi ndizosavuta kukhazikitsa ubale wogwirizana m'banja? Kodi izi zimafuna chiyani?
Zogwirizana ndi ubale wa mabanja ndi ntchito ya tsiku ndi tsiku za mabanja onse: Okwatirana, abwenzi. Choyamba, pamavuto aliwonse, muyenera kukambirana za mavutowo, ndipo ngati muli chete, zonse zimakulitsidwa. Inde, zinthu zofunika kuti zithetse mavuto, ndipo ngati sichoncho, ndiye kuti muyenera kuwayang'ana. Ngati pali loko (vuto), ndiye kuti nyumba yachifumu imakhala ndi kiyi (yankho). Popeza palibe maloko opanda makiyi, palibe vuto popanda mayankho.
Kodi amathandizira thandizo, masewera pakugwira ntchito ndi "otsutsa" ovutikira? Ndi njira ziti zomwe zidawonetsa bwino kwambiri?
Maphunziro adawonetsa luso lawo laling'ono pakugwira ntchito ndi mavuto a awiriwo. Ngati okwatirana agwira padera, ndiye izi, m'malo mwake, m'malo mwake, zimayambitsa kuchuluka kwa mavutowo, ndipo nthawi zambiri kumamudwitsa maubale. Ngati mnzanu mmodzi amagwira ntchito yankho, ndipo inayo siyoncho, ndiye imangowerenga momwe zinthu ziliri. Chisankho chimatsogolera ku maamwali, pomwe okwatirana (anzanu) amabwera ku chithandizo, amalankhula moona mtima za malingaliro awo, zomverera, zoletsa, limodzi poyang'ana zinthu, thandizanani. Njira zofulumira komanso zothandiza ndi chithandizo chamankhwala cha awiriawiri, makonzedwe okhazikitsidwa ndi kasitomala, mankhwalawa achiwerewere.
Bwanji chifukwa cha kuwonongeka kwa maubale m'banjamo ndi bwino kulumikizana ndi katswiri wazamisala? Kodi mungafune kwa mabanja kuti "si zonse zili bwino"?
Pakachitika mavuto mbanja, kulankhulana kwanthawi zambiri kumasweka ndipo nthawi zambiri kumatha kubwereza zodabwitsa zamtunduwu komanso zomwe zimangokhala mkati mwake ndizosatheka kuziona ndikutulukamo, ndipo katswiri wazamisala yemwe amamuwona Ubwenzi mu awiri kuchokera kumbali ndikusunga ndale mwachangu amawona maziko avutoli. Pali mawu odziwika bwino akuti: "Diso la munthu wina, ndinawona mtundu, ndipo ndili ndi chipika changa sichizindikira." Pokhala pavuto lomwe sitikuwona chipika chokhacho, chomwe chikuwoneka bwino kwambiri ndi akatswiri odziwa ntchito. Ndipo mabanja omwe ali pamavuto angafune kuyamba kumvetsera wina ndi mnzake, kuyamba kuyambira mphindi 20 patsiku. Mphindi 10 zoyambirira zimangonena wina, ndipo winayo amangomumvera, ndiye kuti zosiyana. Zabwino zonse kwa inu!