Owerenga atcheru ndi omasulira amatoma a maloto aphunzira kale maloto awo komanso kudutsa. Kusanthula kwa Ungian, kutanthauzira pa freud kapena gastalt mankhwala osakambira zomwe mumaloto. Zomera zolota zimatha kukukakamizani kuti musinthe, koma pali malo ena ogona, omwe sitinayankhule. Sizikugwirizana mwachindunji ndi zomwe zili m'maloto, koma zingakhale zoyenera kumuuza za iye.
Zakhala zikudziwika kuti kugona ndi vuto lapadera lomwe sigoli, sizodabwitsa kuti pali njira yophunzirira zilankhulo zakunja m'maloto. Timawaona kuti osaganiza, koma kumbukirani zithunzizo, chifukwa izi, Hemispore yoyenera ndi yodalirika, ndipo izi ndizotheka chifukwa chakuti pogona chifukwa cha kufesa kwathu. Sitingolankhula tokha kuti "ndizosatheka", chifukwa malotowo ndi mkhalidwe womwe ungazindikire kuti palibe malo a moyo watsiku ndi tsiku chifukwa cha malingaliro achitsulo.
Chifukwa chake, titha kugwiritsa ntchito maloto a munthu wina kuti am'bweretse zomwe samvera pakutentha kapena mikangano.
Chowonadi ndi chakuti udindo wa ufulu wake ndi mbiri yakale. Sikosavuta kugawana ndi ufuluwu. Anthu amatanganidwa ndi malingaliro ena omwe amatha kwambiri, kungotsimikizira malingaliro awo. Kumbukirani nkhani yogwira ntchito yandale kapena malangizo a mbadwo wakale kuti maphunziro a ana, kapena maupangiri okhazikika. Mbali iliyonse ndiyofunikira mwa iwo, zonse zimatsukidwa kuzinthu zazing'ono kwambiri, ndizosatheka kukhala ndi udindo wawo. Kukakamira ndi mkhalidwe wa chikhulupiriro chakhungu kuti china chake ndi chinthu chimodzi, sipayenera kukhala wina.
Kuzindikira kumakumana nafe: chikondi chatha matenda ndi chikhulupiriro kuti "popanda munthu uyu, sindimatalikirana ndi mtendere," kapena kutengera chikonga komanso mowa. Palibe mtengo wamatchuthi osamwa. Yesani kupereka kuti mulankhule - zipinda zotsogola kwambiri za moyo wathanzi zimakuponyerani ndipo amafuna mowa. Ndi zomwe mungayankhule za kusuta. Kudziyesa bwino, atenga nawo mipando, nthawi, kuwerengera nambala ya ndudu ndi kuthekera kopambana kuti muchepetse. Izi ndi zina zambiri! Koma izi si zonse: zogwira ntchito, masewera paphedwa, timadya zakudya zopitilira, kudya kwa ana, matenda ndi chithandizo chamankhwala ...
Mu mtundu uwu, malingaliro athu ali ngati atakwera mumtsinjewo. Sitiwona chilichonse chomwe chidzatiphunzitsa kuchokera ku maphunziro achindunji ndi ochepa. M'mayiko oterewa, zimakhala zovuta kuti tipeze pafupi kwambiri (kapena im - kwa ife) ndikuwonetsa zomwe akumana nazo, zosowa zawo ndi malingaliro awo ndi malingaliro awo, pokhapokha athetse kuti ayambe kukumbulira.
Mwa njira, matendawa nawonso amatanganidwa. Monga lamulo, matendawa amakula chifukwa chovuta, kugwedezeka m'maganizo. Koma anthu sazichirikira, koma zotsatira zake zomwe tidazitenga mtembo. Mwanjira ina, kukakamizidwa kumawonekera m'mankhwala ndi chithandizo, mmalo mothetsa vuto loyamba.
Kenako tulo tumizani. Pogona tulo tofa nato, timapuma, kuwongolera komanso kufooka. Ndife okhoza kuzindikira dziko lapansi popanda kutetezedwa kovuta. Chifukwa mutha kulankhula ndi okondedwa anu akagona. Khalani pansi pafupi ndipo lankhulani kuti simungathe kuwafotokozera m'mbuyo.
Nawa zitsanzo:
- Ana amamwa mowa amatha kulankhula ndi kholo pazomwe zikuchitika nawo, pamene akuvutika ndikukumana ndi zomwe zikuchitika, chifukwa zonse zimakhala kunja, zonse zimakhala kunja kwa malire a kuzindikira;
"Amayi amatha kulankhula mwana wodwala kuti matendawa adzadutsa, adzachira." Zomwe akudwala kuti apulumuke nkhawa zina zomwe sanalimbane ndi njira ina. Mwachitsanzo, idadwala, samapita kumunda, ndipo nkhawa ndiyakuti amakumana ndi mayi ake ndi amayi ake, ngati kuti akana. M'malo mwake, sizili choncho, iye amakhwima, amayi amamukonda ndikudziwana naye madzulo;
"Mutha kulankhula ndi mwamuna wanu za nkhawa zomwe mukamatenthetsa mikangano wamba iliyonse imatha chimodzimodzi ndipo sizinathandize mbali zonse ziwiri.
Chofunikira kwambiri pakukambirana kawirikawiri ndikutembenukira kwa munthu kukhala ndi cholinga chodzapeza chifuniro chake, koma kuti apindule naye ndi okondedwa ake.
Yesani, kuyesa!
Ndipo ndikuyembekezera zitsanzo za maloto anu mu imelo [email protected].
Maria DonaCkova, zamatsenga, othandizira am'banja komanso akutsogolera paubwenzi wapakati pa Marika Khazin