Masiku ano, zinthu zili tsiku loyamba la chibwenzi nthawi zambiri limatha ndi kugonana, linakhala pafupifupi wamba. Kupezeka kwa kugonana "kunatsekedwa" m'maso mwamphamvu pangozi yomwe kulumikizidwa kotereku kungabweretse. Inde, mwanjira ina ndi ulendo, koma zotsatira zake zimakhala kutali ndi chisangalalo, zomwe akatswiri achisengwe amatichenjeza. Lero tasonkhanitsa zikhulupiriro zazikulu momwe azimayi ambiri amagwirizana mwadzidzidzi.
Zabodza # 1. "Ngati akudwala, zitheka."
Matenda ogonana okha omwe amagonana okha ndi othamanga amawoneka kunja, nthawi zina simungaganize kuti "bouquet" yomwe mnzake wosankha angakupatseni. Koma munthu wosowa amapita kuphwando la phwando ndikuwonetsa kuti msungwana wake. Ngakhale amuna owoneka bwino kwambiri omwe amakhala kutali ndi umunthu wanu akhoza kukhala onyamula matenda owopsa. Simuyenera kudalira mawu owona mtima a munthu yemwe amanyoza mawu osangalatsa usiku wonse, ndikukankhira kuchipinda chaulere - musadzipusitse.
Zabodza # 2. "Kodi si munthu amene ayenera kuda nkhawa?"
Pafupifupi mayi aliyense ali ndi chidaliro kuti munthu aliyense wopereka zogonana, amafunikira kondomu ndi iye. Koma izi ndi bizinesi: bambo, akukhulupirira kuti mayiyu amamwa mapiritsi "mapiritsi." Zotsatira zake, onse awiri amakhala osakonzekera kukhala okha, komanso kukana kulankhulana kawirikawiri amene angavomereze. Chifukwa cha kulumikizana mosadziteteza - koponi kwa omwe akupanga. Ngati munthu akukana kuyendetsa mankhwala pogwiritsa ntchito njira yolera njira yolerera ndipo amalimbikira kwambiri kwambiri, kusiya "ulendo" wotere, chifukwa thanzi lanu ndilofunika kwambiri kuposa kungothawa.
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Zabodza # 3. "Nthawi yomweyo zidzakhala zomveka ngati ndingachite ndi"
Apanso sitingavomereze. Ngakhale nthawi imodzi mukatha kupewa matenda opatsirana kapena osakhala ndi pakati, palibe amene adzapereka chitsimikizo kuti kugonana kotsatira sikungapereke "pachabe." Nthawi zina kugonana ndi munthu wina wokhazikika kumabwera, kukakamiza theka lachiwiri kuti ayambe zosangalatsa kumbali yonseyi ndi chidaliro chonse kuti maulendo amenewo sadzadziwika. Zotsatira zake, imapezeka ndi "chidwi cha ulendowu" ndi wokondedwa wake wokhazikika, ndipo onse sangaganize za izi. Palibenso chifukwa chodziwitsa chiopsezo ichi kwa inu ndi wokondedwa wanu, chifukwa chake ngakhale simuli okwatirana, kugonana mwachisawawa kuyenera kukhala kotetezeka.