Kulimbikitsidwa ndi akufa, mwina, chimodzi mwazinthu zovuta kwambiri zomwe si munthu m'modzi. Muzisamalira munthu wosavuta, nthawi yofunikira kwambiri pofika ola limodzi, masabata, mwezi. Nthawi zina zaka zimasiyira.
Kutsanzira kuli njira yopitilira, komabe, kuli ofufuza komanso akatswiri amisala omwe amagawa magawo osiyanasiyana a njirayi.
Tsopano ndigonanso azimayi awiri omwe amafotokozera momwe maloto amatithandizira kuthana ndi chisoni.
Gud 1: "Ndawerenga za maloto. Ndinaganiza zolemba. Nthawi zina ndimalota zokumana nazo zomvetsa chisoni ndi maloto aulosi. Mchimwene wake asanamwalire, loto lidalota, ngati kuti ndapita kwa dotolo wamano kuti adye mano anga, ndidzalandira kuti mano anga onse adayamba. Ndidakhazikitsa nkhonya, ndipo m'mpheteyo zidapezeka kuti ndi mano onse kwa m'modzi, kunalibe magazi. Zinayamba kuwopsa. Malingaliro oyamba anali motere: "Ndidzakhala bwanji ndi moyo." Modabwitsa ndi thukuta. Kunali m'mawa. Madzulo adanena kuti m'bale wamwalira. Koma lotolo litangolota, anali ndi moyo! Pano pali mwambi. "
Gona 2: "Moni! Chonde ndiuzeni! Wophunzirayo wamwalira, nthawi zambiri amalota, ndipo amalota ndi mayi wina. "
Ndipo tsopano mwachidule magawo. Ulamuliro pamutuwu nambala ya psycholograth ndi Elizabeth Kübler-Ross, yemwe adalemba bukuli "paimfa ndi kumwalira"
Woyamba ndi kuvomera . Ndife osalolera kukhala ndi moyo wathu nthawi zonse m'moyo wathu - amadzutsa nkhawa kwambiri. Chifukwa chake, pa chiyambi timakhala ndi nkhawa komanso ziletso zina, kusakhulupirira, kuti izi ndi zowona.
Gawo lachiwiri ndi ukali . M'dziko lathuli, pang'onopang'ono timayenererana kuti munthu wapamtima adatsala, timayamba kukwiya. Kwa madotolo, omwe sanatsatire, achibale omwe sanapulumutse, pa tsoka, chilengedwe kapena Mulungu. Kapena zifukwa zina zomwe zimatembenuka pa dzanja lotentha. Timakwiya ndi omwe adatisiya tikumva. Mwa njira, gawo ili la zomwe zinandichitikira nthawi zambiri zimabisidwa, chifukwa "za akufa samalankhula zoipa" ndi zikhulupiriro zina zomwe zimapulumuka kuferedwa kwa okondedwa athu.
Gawo Lachitatu - KULAMBIRA . Tikukambirana ndi ulamuliro, Mulungu, mwachitsanzo. "Akadabwerera, ndiyeno ndikhululukireni zonse" kapena "sindikadachitanso china ngati mubwerera masiku akale ..."
Gawo Lachinayi - kukhumudwa . Tikukumana ndi mitundu yonse: Mkwiyo, ukazi, kusowa thandizo, kutaya mtima, chisoni. Zonse zomwe zimatsata kutseka pafupi.
Gawo Lachisanu - kuphunzira . Timalola zomwe zinachitika ndikuphunzira kukhalabe ndi moyo.
Popanda izi, gawo 5 ndizosatheka. Kuyesera kufulumizitsa ndikuti "Kuyiwala zonse zoyipa" kumabweretsa zomwe zikugwirizana ndi chifukwa cha chisoni chokhala okhazikika.
Adayitanitsa maloto oyamba. Inde, chidziwitso cha maloto ambiri omwe mano otayika m'maloto ndi chakufa kwa abale. Ndi magazi - pafupi, komanso wopanda magazi - osati abale amwazi. Komabe, sindimachita nawo njira imeneyi. Kugona ndi uthenga wa munthu payekha. Sizokayikitsa kuti pali mgwirizano pakati pa zifaniziro zanga zobwereza ndi winawake, moyo ndi imfa. Komabe, nditha kuganiza kuti malotowo ndi okwiya kwambiri komanso odabwitsidwa kuti: "Kodi mungakhale bwanji ndi moyo? Kodi mungakhale bwanji popanda mphamvu zanu? Kodi ndingataye chilichonse chomwe ndinataya? " Mapulogalamu onsewa amayenda ndi nkhani yoyamba ya kukhazikitsidwa kwa nkhani ya zachinyengo.
Maloto achiwiri amakhala ovuta kwambiri. M'malo mwake, akulankhula za zokambirana. Mwinanso, uthenga wofananira ndi uku: "Ngati ali ndi moyo, ngakhale atakhala ndi mkazi wina ndikanatenga."
Maloto amawonetsa maloto athu, zomwe zikukhudzana ndi zochitika ziti zomwe zikuchitika m'miyoyo yawo.
Ndikofunika kunena kuti maloto amapanga ntchito yofunika ndikuthandizira psche yathu iyenera kutayidwa ndi wokondedwa. Phunzirani maloto anu, kuwakonda, lingalirani mosamala.
Thamangitsani kapena sinthani njirayi sikokakwaniritsa. M'malo mwake, ndikofunikira kumaliza nkhaniyi ndi mwambi wakale wachi China: "Osakankhira mtsinjewo, modzilimbitsa."
Ndipo ndi maloto anji a inu? Zitsanzo za maloto anu kutumiza ndi makalata: [email protected].
Maria DonaCkova, zamatsenga, othandizira am'banja komanso akutsogolera paubwenzi wapakati pa Marika Khazin