Zachidziwikire, kugonana kumatha kuthetsa mavuto ambiri mu awiri, Komanso, ndikovuta kutumiza ubale wabwino ndi mnzanu ngati mbali ya kugonana ikuvutika. Ndipo ngati pofika pachibwenzi kapena kugonana kunja kwa ubale wathuko kumathabe kudabwitsidwa ndikusangalatsa, kenako nthawi zambiri mumakhala limodzi, ndipo simubweretsanso chisangalalo monga kale. Nthawi zambiri kugonana kosagwirizana kumayamba kusangalatsa, kenako mutha kuyamba kukada njirayi. Ndiye nchiyani chomwe chingapangitsenso malingaliro omwewa, zikuwoneka kuti ndi nthawi yachilengedwe kwambiri mu awiri? Tinaganiza zopezera.
Kuyika zofunkha
Monga lamulo, kukhala muubwenzi wautali, timalephera kupeza kufunika kodzidabwitsa komanso anzathu, pasadakhale kudziwa kuti kugonana kudzakhala kotani, ndipo n'zotani kwa iye. Kuphatikiza apo, moyo umayika chizindikiro pamtundu wathupi: Kusamutsa ndale komwe mudasamukira kumbuyo kapena zitsamba za ana zomwe mwatolera banja lonse m'mbuyomu, zitha kukhala zazing'ono, koma nthawi yayitali kwambiri pakasangalatsa ndi kupumula. Makonzelo asanagonepo gawo lalikulu, makamaka kwa mkazi, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti kuti athe kugonana omwe mumayembekezera, muzimvera nthawi yomweyo - mudzazindikira kusiyana kwake.
Kambiranani konse
Palibe chodabwitsa chifukwa choti mumakhudzidwa ndi mavuto apabanja. Komabe, kuganiza za lingaliro lawo sikuyenera kulowa kuchipinda. Monga tanenera, mkazi ayenera kukhala "womasulidwa" ndi kuyang'ana kwambiri kwa munthu wake - pokhapokha mutakhala kuti mudzakhutira ndi kugonana. Kuganizira mtundu watsopano wa Pritching kukhitchini, kugula njira za kalasi kapena kuwunikira kukambirana ndi zofunikira za anthu sikuti kuyenera kukuderani nkhawa nthawi yodalirika ngati imeneyi. Inde, malingaliro athu kwa wokondedwa wawo wasintha ndipo kulumikizana kwakuya kumasinthidwa ndikuwonekera, koma zovuta zogonana siziyenera kukhala akapolo ndi mavuto - siyani mphindi zonse zosasinthika kunja kuchipinda.
Kambiranani mphindi zilizonse zobisika
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Simungavomereze mnzanu
Zimachitikanso ngati kutentha kapena zokonda mu kugonana sizimagwirizana, zomwe nthawi zonse zimabweretsa imodzi mwa zisangalalo zenizeni. Zikuwoneka kwa ife kuti kuzindikira ndikuti njira yolowera kugonana sikumakondweretsa, kuvutitsa nkhawa ndipo zimasokoneza kwambiri "bedi moyo." Komabe, ndimakhala chete pamavuto ndipo imakhala kanthawi yomwe imasandulika kugonana ngongole kapena kuzunzidwa kwenikweni. Ndikofunika kukumbukira kuti kugonana sikungabweretse chilichonse pokhapokha ngati chikhutiro muyenera kudziwa ngati sikosangalatsa, vutoli lili pafupi ndi izi. Kodi pali malingaliro olakwika - chifukwa choganizira, ndipo ngati mwakwanitsa kukambirana ndi wokondedwa wanu, mwina muyenera kulabadira mphindi zomwe sizoyenera kwa inu?