Kuwerengera komwe kumachitika chifukwa cha kutaya kwathu ndi zomwe zimativuta. Palibe chomwe chimaperekedwa kwa ife movutikira izi, momwe mungasungunuke ndikuchotsa zikatayika zikachitika m'moyo.
Mabala otayika m'masamba osasamba pambuyo pa zaka zambiri, lamulo lopanda malire siliri, ndipo sawachita iwo, koma, singawachititse.
Loto la maloto athu limavumbula njira yonse yomwe ili kutsogolo kwake, zomwe zimachitika mu chikumbumtima chake chokhudzana ndi chisoni chaposachedwa:
"Zaka chimodzi ndi theka amayi anga anamwalira. Zitachitika kuti sindingathe kubwera kudzanena zabwino kwa iye. Sindingathe ngakhale ndikuyika maliro! Alendo awo adamuyika m'manda. Ndipo posachedwapa, pafupifupi mwezi wapitawu, ndinali ndi loto. Monga ngati amayi abwera kwa ine kudzagwira ntchito, amakhala pa benchi ndi mawotchi, monga ndimagwira. Ndimathamangira m'misozi, kukumbatira, khala pansi. Ndikunena kuti: "Amayi, ndikumva bwino popanda iwe! Ndinkafuna kubwera kumaliro, koma sindinaloledwe! "
Amayi amandiyang'ana m'maloto osadandaula kuti: "Kodi mukulankhula ndi maliro a ndani ngati ndikhala ndi moyo? Mumada nkhawa kwambiri ndi inu, Kodi nonse mumachita chilichonse m'moyo? " Ndabwerera kuntchito yanga, ndipo amayi anga m'maloto amatuluka kuchokera pabenchi ndikuti ndiyambe kufunsa anthu onse omwe anali pafupi. Ndidafunsa m'maloto: "Kodi ndidamwalira? Kodi nchifukwa ninji iye wamkazi amandiuza za malirowo? " Ndipo anthu amayankha kuti inde, adanenanso za kufa kwanu. Ndipo chaka ndi theka kale, pamene mwana wanu wamkazi muulendo wakunyumba ndi misozi, safuna kuyanjanitsa ndi zomwe zinachitika. Ndikovuta kwambiri kunyamula phiri ndi kupatukana. Amayi m'matoto amamvetsera modzidzimutsa, ngati kuti sakhulupirira kuti wamwalira. Ndipo nthawi imeneyi ndimadzuka ndikuyamba kulira pilo. "
Kugona kumawonetsa kuti ngwazi zathu zimapangitsa amayi kuphedwa.
Amawoneka kuti amvetsa izi, nthawi yomweyo, mtundu wina wa mbali yake nkovuta kuyanjanitsanso ndi kutaya. Izi zimalepheretsa kumverera kwa kudziimba mlandu chifukwa chosowa maliro, kulephera kunena zabwino ndikuwonetsa kuti wokondedwa wa wokondedwa wawo. Mwa njira, psychotherajapist Elizabeth Elizabeth, Ross, yemwe adalemba ntchito yofunika "pa imfa ndi kuwononga" kusiya "Kusiya ana kunyumba. M'malo moyanjanitsa ndi lingaliro la imfa ya munthu wakubadwa, ayenera kumalimbikitsa, kuyimira kuti sichoncho. Zimachotsa mphamvuyi, amatanthauzira chiyembekezo chabodza kuti munthu wapamtima adzabweza cholakwa choopsa chomwe chachitika. Zikuwoneka maloto pafupifupi mbali iyi ya zongopeka za maloto. Wolemba akuvomereza kuti zochitika zamaliro ndi maliro amatenga ana, amayi oyembekezera, onse ochokera ku matenda a malative, kotero kuti imfa ya pafupi kwambiri ndi zinsinsi, motero kuti enanso amakumana ndi zowawa. Ndikupangira buku ili kuti ndiwerenga bukuli.
M'matoto awa, pali gawo lofunikira lomwe iye sakufuna kulabadira. Amayi mwaloto amamuuza kuti ali ndi moyo. Kodi, kodi mwakumadzulo kwapadziko lapansi, mayi wake ali ndi moyo mu izo. Itha kudalira kukumbukira kwa iye, modzimva, ndi izi zokhudzana, pamalingaliro, zomwe zidachitidwazo zigwirizana, pa kulumikizana kwawo, kusamalira komwe akuchokera. Inde, ndi m'mbuyomu. Komabe, amayi amakhala nafe nthawi zonse. Amayi ndiye chithunzi choyamba komanso chachikulu chomwe mwana amadalira. Ubwenzi ndi amayi ndi wofanana ndi ndalama, chakudya, kugonana, abwenzi. Kuyandikana ndi amayi anga ndi zopambana pamoyo wathu. Timapanga ubale wofunda komanso wodalirika, kudalira molondola pa zokumana nazo komanso kukumbukira za mphindi za Serene m'manja mwa mayi. Maubwenzi ndi iye ndi kukhulupirika kwa merylo m'miyoyo yathu. Kukonda kumasulira kumatanthauza "mayi mkati". Chifukwa chake, Amayi munjira ina sanamwalire. Ndipo nthawi zonse zimakhala ndi yatsopanoyo.
Ndikupangira maloto athu kukumbukira nthawi zina za moyo pafupi ndi amayi, limodzi ndi zachisoni iye adzazindikira ndipo chikondi chomwe amafunikira m'miyoyo ya cancries.
Ndipo ndi maloto anji a inu? Zitsanzo za maloto anu kutumiza ndi makalata: [email protected].
Maria DonaCkova, zamatsenga, othandizira am'banja komanso akutsogolera paubwenzi wapakati pa Marika Khazin