Zikuwoneka kuti "nsalu yachitsulo kwa nthawi yayitali idagwa, ndi limodzi ndi iye, komanso zoletsa zolimbikitsa pa mitu yosavuta ngati imeneyi ngati kugonana. Ndipo apa azimayi ali kale omasuka kwambiri zokhudzana ndi kugonana ndi atsikana osavomerezeka, osadziwika bwino komanso ... ndi amuna patsiku loyamba. Ndipo zikuwoneka kuti sizingakhale zonyansa monga momwe zimakhalira - ndikuganiza, kugonana! Akuchita zonse, ndiye bwanji osalankhula za izi? Koma ndi malingaliro oterewa kuyanjana ndi anzanu omwe amatha kusewera nanu - mudzakondweretsa msampha wokongoletsa bwino, pezani njira yomwe ingakhale yosavuta. Zachidziwikire, ngati ubale wanu ndi bambo wanu wayamba nthawi yayitali, ndipo kuyandikira kwa inu patali, ndiye kuti mutha kuyankhula za kugonana komanso kufunanso. Koma ngati mwangokumana, simunakwanitse kudziwa ndi kuthana wina ndi mnzake, kukhudza mutu wa kugonana kosatheka.
Kuthandizira kukambirana ndi chibwenzi pa tsiku loyamba kapena lachiwiri, mumatha kuti munthu akhoza kuyamba kukuwonani konse momwe mungafunire. Ngakhale atangoyamba kukhazikitsa ubale, iye mwini amayamba kugonana, ndiye kuti amayamba kugonana, pakasuna ndi mwana, kuzimitsa mwana wamkazi wogonjetsedwa. Kodi zokambirana za kugonana "zimatani" mumutu wamphongo, ndi momwe mungachitire ndi zinthu kuti zisakhale zodabwitsa komanso zofunika kwa iye? Ndi zaino ndili, Julia Lansk, Wokonda-Coach No. 1 padziko lapansi kuti azindikire mphotho yaku America, idzauza m'nkhani yamakono.
Julia Lansk
Lankhulani zokhudzana ndi kugonana moyandikira
Malinga ndi amuna ambiri, mkazi wopanda chipongwe ndi Oscillations zokhudzana ndi kugonana amangokonzeka kuyandikana kwambiri ndi iye tsopano ...
Ndiye chifukwa chake mzimayi sayenera kuyambitsa mutu wa kugonana ndi bambo, komanso amathandizira zokambirana zilizonse kumayambiriro kwa chitukuko cha maubale. Kuzindikira kuti mwamunayo "amatenga zokambirana", kuyesera kuti apeze zokambirana zokometsera ", yesani kusamutsa mutuwo kukhala kolowera". Mutu wogonana ndi mwamunayo sayenera kukwezedwa mpaka mutakhala awiri ndipo osapanga ubale wodalirika.
Chimachitika ndi chiyani mukamapita njira ina - mulole munthu alankhule nanu pa kugonana? Mudzalandira maubwenzi omwe azikhala pachiwonetsero cha thupi kapena "ulendo" wa usiku umodzi. Ndipo ndichifukwa chake ...
- Anthu onse ndi agonjetsi;
- Kudikirira sikugwirizana kwenikweni;
- Palibe chilimbikitso chomanga ubale.
Amuna - Wogonjetsa
Mwachilengedwe, popanda kusiyanitsa, amuna akufuna kugonjetsa - ngati si mzinda ndi mayiko okongola. Ndipo kumapeto koyambirira kwa maubale, amationa ngati mchere wamtundu womwe ungatenge ndikuyika izi. Ichi ndichifukwa chake palibe munthu amene akuwoneka kuti ndi mkazi wake wam'tsogolo mwa inu ndi osamalira bwino kwambiri. M'malo mwake, ayamba kulira pa "zokoma", zokhudzana ndi kugonana. Ndipo, atachirikiza amuna omwe amunawo, mkazi yekha, osafuna, amagwera mu maukonde. Ndipo - ndizochepa, chifukwa nthawi zambiri, amuna oyanjana omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito mwachangu mpaka amalandila zotsatira zomwe mukufuna.
Kugonjetsa Mtima wa Munthu, musafulumire - osakambirana zakugonana, kapenanso kukhala ndi luso loyandikana kwambiri ...
Amuna onse - agonjetsi
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Kudikirira sichowona
Nthawi zambiri zokambirana ndi munthu zokhudzana ndi kugonana sizingatanthauze zomwe akuyembekezera. Pakugwirizana kwenikweni, nthawi zambiri pamakhala zovuta. Osati pa nthawi, kuwala kopepuka, mawu osayenera, osasunthika ... Zonsezi zitha kukhala chifukwa chodziwira kuti munthu 'azikhala ndi dzuwa.
Sipakanakhala choncho ngati onse awiri anali okonzeka kugonana. Mwamuna ndi mkazi akamafulumira kuti "atenge malo oyandikira," ndipo wina ndi mnzake azikhala pafupi, ubale wawo woyamba kukhala wolimba mtima. Zikatero, okwatirana amamva bwino wina ndi mnzake, chifukwa mgwirizano wawo wadzazidwa kale ndi kumvetsetsana.
Kusowa kwa chidwi kuti mupange maubale
Zokambirana zoyambirira zokhudzana ndi kugonana ndipo, makamaka, kuyanjana mwapakati kumalandidwa chifukwa cha zomwe munthu amalimbikitsa. Zikuwoneka kuti adalandira kale zosangalatsa kwambiri kuchokera ku "kudziwa bwino", motero sikutanthauza "kutsegulira".
Zovuta za Amayi - onetsani amuna m'dziko lanu, ndikuloreni kuti mudzidziwe bwino pa aluntha, osati mawu achiwerewere. Izi sizifunikira msonkhano umodzi ndikulankhula ndi miyoyo, pomwe adzazindikira kuti - ndiye, yemweyo, mkazi yekhayo amene ndimamufuna ...
Kumbukirani: Lankhulani za kugonana ndi imodzi mwazinthu zomwe sizingagwirizane ngati mukufuna kukhala pachibwenzi. Mafunso okhudza kukula kwa chifuwa, omwe amakonda kugonana, kuyanjana komana zenizeni ndi zofanana ndi zomwezo ziyenera kupewedwa, makamaka ngati mwatsala pang'ono kukwaniritsidwa ndipo simunakwanitse kudziwana. Kodi mungatani ngati mafunso amenewa? Lankhulani, manyazi, chepetsa maso anu kapena ingosinthani mutuwo, ndikumupatsa kuti amvetsetse: simunakonzekere zokambirana koma izi.
Ndizosangalatsa komanso kuchita manyazi zomwe zimakonda kwambiri kugonana. Nthawi yomweyo, samanyengerera "mkazi, osapangitsa kuti zikhale zotsika m'maso mwa munthu. Yesetsani kuti musawonetse kusatsutsika, kukwiya ndi kuthamangitsa mtundu wanu: "Sindili wotere." Chifukwa chake, mumawopseza kuwopseza munthu, kukonzanso chidwi chake. Kuchita kolondola pakuyesa kwa munthu kuti ayankhule zogonana kudzakupangitsani chidwi ndi inu ndi kufunitsitsa kukugonjetsani. Chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe mungachite pochita zoyenera ndi njira ya "kusintha" kwa wolemba.
Njira "Sinthani"
Tanthauzo la ukadaulo ndikusinthana ndi mwamunayo ndi mutu wa kugonana ku wina - njira zina. Ntchito yanu ndikuwongolera malingaliro ake pa kama wina, ndikupangitsani kuganiza za mnzakeyo, potero mosamala ndikukuchotsani m'maso mwatsopano. Mwachitsanzo, yesani kuyimitsa mutu wosaneneka kuti: "Inde, mukufunitsitsa kukangana, anchi ku Sigmund Freud. Koma ndili pafupi ku Jung. Ndiuzeni, kodi mudawerenga ntchito za wafilosofi uyu? "
Mutha kuzengereza kwambiri mutu wa zokambirana. Pafunso la nkhani yogonana: "Inde, nkhaniyi ndi yosangalatsa kwa ine, ndipo ndimatha kulankhula za iye mokondwa. Izi ndi za izi zomwe ndimalankhula ndi amuna omwe amadziwa bwino, ndipo osati kale kuposa tsiku lachisanu ndi chitatu. Kodi mutha kudikira? "
Chifukwa chake kuyankhulana kwakuda kudzapangitsa kuti amve zambiri mwa bambo, pambuyo pake atafuna kukugonjetsani, ndipo, ndidikirira njira zisanu ndi zitatu.