Marianna abavitova ndi wazamisala wazachipatala, wosankhidwa ndi sayansi yamaganizidwe. Ali ndi maphunziro ndi maphunziro omaliza maphunziro ku Samara Instute of General Clussing psychology ndi psychotherarapy. Amakangana kuti mwa ntchito zake zidapangitsa kuti chidwi cha anthu azikhala ndi vuto lalikulu. Mariannav anati: "Pa nthawi yophunzira, zimandidziwikiratu kuti nditapeza maphunziro amisala, ndipo pamapeto pake ndimagwira ntchito: Kwa zaka zambiri ndimagwira ntchito ngati katswiri wazamisala, wochita zachinsinsi , kufunsa a elizani. " Moona mtima amavomereza kuti amasankhidwa kuti ayambe kuchita za psychoayalysis, momwe amakondera kuthetsa mavuto ndikusangalatsa anthu. "
Marianna abavitova
Masiku ano, psychology ikuyamba kutchuka kwambiri. Ngati anthu akale adatsanulira moyo wawo kwa abwenzi, lero ambiri a iwo amamvetsetsa kuti mavutowa ndi abwino kuthana ndi akatswiri. Koma ndiye funso linanso likubwera: Kodi akatswiri osiyanasiyana ndi akatswiri opanga zamankhwala amasankha katswiri bwanji? Kodi pali zizindikiro zosiyanitsa katswiri kuchokera ku charlatan?
Funso ndi kutsanulira mzimu kwa wamisala kapena ayi, kwenikweni ndi mikangano. Mu funso ili, zonse zimatengera zolinga zomwe muli nazo. Ngati cholinga chanu ndi kuyankhula, ndipo chimakhala chosavuta kwa inu, mutha kuyimitsa izi. Koma ngati simukufuna kukhala ochepa nkhuku za moyo, koma mukufuna kusintha, sinthani mawonekedwe anu, lingalirani za kukula kwanu kapena simukufuna kulakwitsa mtsogolomo, ndiye kuti muyenera kupita Kwa bwenzi lanu, koma kwa katswiri wazamisala wodziwa zomwe akunena, ali ndi chidziwitso komanso akatswiri ogwira ntchito bwino. Mothandizidwa ndi katswiri wazamisala, mutha kusintha moyo wanu posachedwa, malingaliro ndi malingaliro anu (awa ndi zinthu zosiyana). Pambuyo pokonza, zochita zanu zidzakhala zosiyana - mupeza zotsatira zenizeni.
Ponena za momwe mungadziwire katswiri pamaso panu kapena ayi, sizivuta. Pali zopinga zingapo zomwe muyenera kuphonya katswiri wazamisala, ndipo ngati idutsa mfundo zofunika izi, zikutanthauza kuti itha kuthana nayo. Chinthu choyamba chomwe ndikufuna kuti ndichotse chidwi chanu, katswiriyu amafunika kusonkhanitsa zidziwitso. Siziyenera kuyang'ana kwambiri kufalitsa magazini a masoka: Tsopano nthawi yotere potsegula buku lililonse lidzakhumudwitsidwa pa nkhani ya akatswiri. Koma ndani analemba izi? Mwinanso wolemba ma Copy, Eya, ngati woganiza bwino. Tsoka ilo, nkhanizi nthawi zambiri zimalamulidwa kapena kusindikiza. Chifukwa chake, njira yabwino kwambiri yokhalamo a abwenzi ndi odziwa zomwe mumakhulupirira, ndipo omwe akufuna kumvera njira zabwino kwambiri. Chifukwa ndikofunikira osati zofalitsa m'mabuku osati malo a Instagram ndi upangiri, koma zomwe zimasintha pa moyo wanu pambuyo pake; mtengo wovomerezeka; Lotonthoza polumikizirana komanso zina zambiri. Mfundo yachiwiri ndi kupezeka kwa maphunziro apamwamba. Chifukwa lero pa intaneti, mutha kupeza nkhani yayikulu kwambiri ya m'maganizo, yomwe "lembani" lili ndi mawebusayiti, Piyano, lizinenanso ngati ana, koma mukayamba kutolera mwachindunji za iwo, M'malo mwake kuti anthu awa alibe maphunziro ogwira ntchito. Ili ndiye nthawi yoopsa. Ngati anthu alibe maphunziro, zimatanthawuza kuti azidalira zomwe adakumana nazo, kutanthauzani chifukwa cha inu, ndikutsatira pamavuto awo, mantha, zokumana nazo, ndi zina zowonjezera pa Chidziwitso chomwe adalandira ku yunivesite, mchitidwewu adadutsa motsogozedwa ndi mabufelosi, ophunzira, etc.stery amafalikira kuphatikiza ndi dzanja. Mwachilengedwe, maphunziro amisala ndi maziko omwe amatsimikizira kuti munthu amene mudakumana naye sakuvulazani. Nthawi yachitatu - ngati mutafika kwa wamisala, ndipo pambuyo pake mukuwona kuti mukusokonezeka pa vuto lanu, mwadalitsanso, mumalonjeza, mumandikhulupirira. , osayenera kupita kwa katswiri. Mu psychology, ngati tisiyiratu psychoanalysis (malingana ndi iyo mosiyana), pali njira zambiri zothetsera vuto la munthu ndikusavulirani ma tangles onse munthawi yochepa kwambiri. Mankhwala kwa miyezi kapena zaka zimachitika nthawi zambiri mu achire magulu achireNgati mukukumana ndi lingaliro la "katswiri" kuti alandiridwe ka 10 kapena kubwera kwa ma bonusi - magawo awiri aulere, muyenera kumvetsetsa kuti sizokhudza chithandizo chamankhwala. Pankhaniyi, mapulani a "akatswiri a" akatswiri "sakuphatikiza thandizo lanu mwachangu, ntchito yawo, momwe mungathere, kuti muchepetse njirayi. Kuchokera kwanga, ndikuwona zomwe mungapeze katswiri wina yemwe mungamucheze ndi munthu aliyense, ndi wokwera mtengo. Masiku ano kuli akatswiri ambiri azamankhwala, koma si onse a iwo ndi akatswiri anzeru. Izi ndi momwe akatswiri ali ndi akatswiri pamtundu uliwonse, osati m'ma psychology okha.
Ndipo mungamvetsetse kuti muli ndi mavuto omwe muyenera kuthana nawo mwaukadaulo? Kupatula apo, nthawi zambiri zimawoneka kwa ife kuti zomwe zili nafe chilichonse chili m'dongosolo, ndi dziko lokhalo kwa ife osati chisomo choyipa.
Makasitomala amabwera pafupipafupi kwa ine ndipo amanena kuti amapondaponda pomwepo kapena adapereka bwalo ndikubwerera kapena onse awiri ndipo onse ali ngati buku. Zachidziwikire, ndikofunikira kulambira nthawi ya chidule ndi kubwereza m'moyo wanu zosankha zina zoyipa. Yesani, kugwera munthawi inayake, kumbukirani, ndipo ngati china chake ngati china. Nthawi zambiri zimachitika motere: Moyo uliwonse womwe ulipo ndi woipa kuposa kale, ndipo izi zikuwonetsa kuti vuto lomwe muli nalo silithetsa ndipo silithetsedwa. Mfundo yachiwiri - nthawi zambiri mumakhala wokhumudwitsa, zomwe zimakuvutani kutuluka. Kuti mumvetsetse zomwe zikukuchitikirani komanso chifukwa chake ndi zomwe zimachitika. Koma osati nthawi zonse. Munthu aliyense wanzeru akhoza kumangitsa ma unyolo odziyimira pawokha ndikusanthula pomwe zonse zidayamba kutulutsa vuto lake kuchokera ku chikumbumtima, kuti mupange icho ndikuchithetsa. Kwa wazamisala, muyenera kupita mukatha kupirira vutoli, tili nawo panjira yomweyo, ndikusuntha pamtunda wotsekedwa, kapena upangiri wawo, pomwe iwe ndiwe wanzeru, koma Simungathe. Ndikhulupirireni, magawo awiri ochokera kwa katswiri ambiri adzakhala okwanira kuti muike mutu wanu.
Mawu otchuka "amathandizanso kugwira ntchito zamakamizidwe? Kodi wamisala angadzithandizire yekha, ngati ali ndi zovuta zina: mwachitsanzo, kudzidalira, ndi maubale, ndi anthu, ndi amuna, etc.?
Tiyeni tiyambe ndi kuti katswiri wazamankhwala ndi munthu yemwe poyamba (ngakhale asanakhale katswiri wawo wochita masewerawa) adasankha zovuta zake: adakonza moyo wake kotero kuti adanenanso kuti ali ndi mwayi kunena za iye kuti sanachite bwino. Mwacibadwa, moyo wake umapangidwa pazinthu zachilengedwe zakuthupi ndi zakunja, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti pakhale mgwirizano, chisangalalo, kudzidalira, kudzidalira koyenera, kuthekera kochita Muzilankhulana ndi anthu, osefa iwo, afotokoze malingaliro awo, osalankhulanso "Ayi". Dzikumereni nokha, dziwani bwino komanso kuwunika moyenera - iyi ndi makina apamwamba kwambiri omwe palibe chilichonse chimayamba. Kuzindikira koyenera kwa ife eni ndiye pachimake - likulu la chilengedwe chathu chaching'ono, komwe m'mitundu yathu ikupita kwa okondedwa, makolo, anzathu. Ayenera kukhala ndi chidwi, ndipo ayenera kukhala ndi chidwi, chifukwa izi Munthu amadziwa kwambiri, amamva chisoni komanso amamvetsetsa. Katswiri wazamankhwala amadziwa kusanthula munthu. Kuphatikiza apo, iye ndi womvera wobisika yemwe amazindikira kuti mumaona kuti ndiwe woyenera kunena. Ichi ndi chachikulu kuphatikiza kulumikizana. Chifukwa chake, ndikufuna kubwerera kwa munthu wotere. Izi zikugwiransonso ntchito pamoyo wathu - anthu otere nthawi zonse amawoneka okongola nthawi zonse kwa anyamata kapena atsikana. Psychologist uyu ndi omwe onse ali mu dongosolo ndipo zonse ndiotsatira.
Nthawi zambiri anthu amawonjezera mavuto ndi anyamata kapena atsikana
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Ndi vuto liti kwa inu nthawi zambiri kumasangalatsa oyimira bwino? Ndi amuna?
Malo otsogola azimayi amakhala ndi mavuto omwe ndi anyamata kapena atsikana. Kuperewera pa mgwirizano - ndiye kuti tikufuna mavuto mwa mkaziyo, ubale ndi amuna anu, ndi ana, makolo, anzanu. Ndipo, zachidziwikire, maubale ndi inu chifukwa mizu ya mavutowa iyenera kuyang'ana mkati mwawo. Poyamba malo okhudzana ndi amayi ndi ntchito kapena bizinesi - kwa oimira theka la anthu, iyi ndi vuto. Ndipo pokhapokha ubale ndi ana ndi makolo amapita. Ngakhale sikuti tonsefe timakhala mgulu lina, abambo ndi amai ndi zolengedwa zosiyanasiyana.
Momwe mungamvetsetse kuti kuchezera kwa katswiri wazamisala wathandiza? Kodi pali njira zina zothandizira kuchiza?
Chilichonse ndi chophweka mokwanira: Ngati mungatuluke mu katswiri wazamisala, ndipo zidakusangalatsani, zikutanthauza kuti mwathandiza kuchezeredwa kwa katswiri wazamisala. Ichi ndi chizindikiro chabwino. Ngati mukufuna kubwera kwa iye kachiwiri - Ichi ndiye njira yachiwiri yothandizira kupambana kwa mankhwala. Munthu wamakono adakonza zoti akufuna mpumulo wa momwe alili, komanso kumvetsetsa. Mukasiya katswiri wazamisala woyipa, mutha kumva kusamvetsetsa, mutha kumva kuti akusokonezeka. Mwambiri, chithandizo chamankhwala chitha kuonedwa bwino kwambiri moyo wanu ukayamba kusintha: mwachilengedwe, osati lokha, koma chifukwa cha inu ndi zomwe mumamvetsetsa.
Mukuyankhulana wina, munanena kuti mumakonda Nlp psychoanalysis. Tiuzeni chifukwa chiyani? Tsopano malingaliro anu sasintha?
Inde, ndimakonda kugwira ntchito ndi luso la neurolynutes. Ndilinganitse NLP ndi ntchito ya laser: Pamene munthu abwera, mwachitsanzo, ndi chotupa, ndi gawo limodzi, timazimasulira chotupa ichi. Amasiya kukhala okhutira komanso achimwemwe. Chowonadi ndi chakuti kukonzanso kumachitika mkati mwa gawo limodzi - munthu amabwera amodzi, ndipo amachoka mosiyana: ndi maso oyaka ndi zotsatira. Ndimacheza nthawi ino ya kusandulika, chifukwa munthu amachotsa chikwama chonse, chomwe amakokera ndi iye ndipo omwe amakokera pansi, sanalole kuti mupite ndikupuma mpweya. Munthu amamva kupumula komanso kuchuluka kwa mphamvu. Zachidziwikire, njirayi ndiyoyenera kuthetsa mavuto onse, koma ndizothandiza kwambiri kwa mafunso ena. Psychoanalysis, ndili ndi luso lopapatiza la psychoanalyst, pakati pa zinthu zina, njirayi siyingatchedwa mankhwala mwachangu. Mwanjira imeneyi palibe cholakwika - aliyense, ndipo munthuyo ali ndi ufulu wosankha njira yochichitira zambiri. Zonse zimatengera zotsatira zomwe mukufuna kukwaniritsa: mwachangu, zapamwamba komanso zowoneka, ndiye nlp ndibwino kwa inu.
Ngati mungasunthe pa intaneti kapena kuyang'ana tsamba lililonse mu psychology, ndiye kuti mitu yofunika kwambiri masiku ano ndi maubwenzi apadera masiku ano ndi maubwenzi owopsa, omwe amakhudzidwa, mavuto m'moyo wamunthu. Nthawi zambiri, m'nkhanizi, olembawo amafotokoza za ubwana ndipo amati maziko a mavuto onse ayenera kuyang'ana pamenepo. Kodi zilidi? Kodi mungagwiritse ntchito bwanji zovuta za ana ndi mantha? Kodi ndizotheka kuthana nawo nokha?
Ndizowona, maubale oopsa kuyambira ubwana, komabe, ndi 90% ya mavuto athu onse ndi mabala, chifukwa njerwa zimayikidwa m'badwo wamng'ono. Ndipo ngati maubwenzi apakati amachitidwa mu banja lanu, mutha kunena molimba mtima kuti mudzakumana ndi moyo patsogolo. Zachidziwikire, ndikulimbikitsa aliyense kuti akhale ndi moyo: kumvetsetsa za omwe mumalankhulana, bwanji komanso ndi zomwe mumapeza kuchokera ku ubalewu. Gwiritsani ntchito njira imeneyi ndi moyo ndi anthu, koma mu lingaliro labwino. Zachidziwikire, mutha kulankhulana ndi bwenzi, zomwe zakugwiritsa ntchito kale zaka 20 ngati chovala, koma muyenera kudziwa kuti ubalewu ulibe chilichonse chokhudzana ndi ubwenzi. Pali mitundu ina ya ubale wa poizoni. Mu psychorarapy kumeneko ndi mawu oti "mkazi woledzera" - uyu ndi mayi yemwe amaphatikizidwa ndi uchidakwa ya mwamuna wake. Ngati mkazi ameneyu angachotse chidakwa, adzapeza wina wosiyanitsa. Mwa njira, amatha kupeza ndi munthu wabwinobwino, koma machitidwe ake mosamala amadziwitsa kuti ungakhale woledzeretsa lathunthu. Chifukwa chake, inde, muyenera kuthana nawo ndipo chifukwa chiyani mumalankhulirana - izi zitha kuchitika nokha. Ngati simungamvetsetse nokha, mukusokonezeka, ndikumva kuti mumagwiritsidwa ntchito nthawi zonse, ndiye kuti muyenera kulumikizana ndi katswiri. Koma ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa chinthu chachikulu: mufunika kumvetsetsa anthu omwewo, koma kudzipeza tokha, koma tokha, ndikupeza chifukwa chake zonse zili choncho, osatinso. Ndipo konzekerani moyo wanu pambuyo pochita mankhwala.
Ngati tizindikira kuti mavuto athu amachokera ku ubwana komanso chifukwa makolo athu anali opanda ungwiro. Momwe mungakhalire kholo labwino Ndani sangapweteke chifukwa cha mwana wake. Kodi ndizotheka?
Ndizosatheka kukhala kholo labwino. Ndife anthu, osati oyera mtima. Zabwino ndi maloto osayembekezereka omwe simuyenera kukhala ofanana. Koma ngati mukuganizira kwambiri kuti mukhale ndi ana kapena muli kale, pewani kukulitsa kuyambiranso. Pali njira ziwiri pakuleredwera: Kukhumudwa ndi zomveka, aliyense wa iwo ali mmaonekedwe - si kanthu kena kalikonse kuposa kwambiri. Kuthana ndi Malingaliro: Awa ndi sisisi Yamuyaya, ndipo mwana akamapita kupitilira - ma hoytelic nthawi zina ndi pulogalamu ya Manja, ndiye kuti mukumva kuti ndi olakwa ndi olakwa a Suucy. Njira Yanzeru: Osatinso, mwana amakhala ndi maola 24 tsiku la mug ndi makalasi, osakhala ndi nthawi yaulere, kuwongolera, mawonekedwe angwiro. Mwachilengedwe, zonyamuka zotere sizibweretsa chilichonse chabwino, ndipo mwanayo adzakula kukhala wandale. Pokulera payenera kukhala "golide wagolide". Ana ayenera kukula mchikondi ndi chisamaliro. Nthawi yabwino kwambiri yamaphunziro ndi chitsanzo chanu, ndipo simuyenera kuyiwala za izi. Ngati mukufuna kukhala pafupi ndi kholo loyenera, pezani mwana wanu monga momwe zilili, musafune china chake kuchokera pamenepo, musagwiritse ntchito zovuta zake ndipo sizipangitsa kuti ikhale ndi vuto la maloto anu. Mwanayo ndi munthu wamng'ono yemwe ayenera kulemekezedwa, kumvetsera ndi kumva. Mwana ayenera kumvetsedwa. Ayenera kukhala ndi nthawi yaulere komanso kukhala mwana wachimwemwe. Simuyenera kuchita kuti mutenge 24/7, simudzakula munthu wopambana motere. Ayenera kukhala ndi nthawi yokha kuti adzipangitse, kuti aphunzire momwe angalore, kukulitsa maunyolo omveka, pumulani, kusewera, kumangoganizira. Ndipo zida zing'onozing'ono - kuchokera kwa iwo, ndizosatheka kukana kwathunthu, koma zimachepetsa kugwiritsa ntchito ana awo mu mphamvu yathu.
Kodi munaganiza bwanji za lingaliro lopanga pulojekiti "zofunda zobisika ndi Marian Abravitova", nkhani ziwiri zoyambirira zomwe aliyense angayang'ane Youtube? Kodi pali kusiyana kotani pakati pa pulojekiti yanu kumodzi ndi yofanana ndi icho?
Ngati timalankhula za ntchito yanga yatsopano 'zofunda ndi Mariana Abravita ", ndiye kuti mutha kutanthauzira dzinali m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Kwa ambiri, mawu oti "bedi" amapanga kuyanjana mogwirizana, kupumula, chitonthozo, zosangalatsa. Chifukwa chake, njira yofikira pabedi la kuyankhula siyingakhale. Kupatula apo, kama ndi malo aufulu, kuchotsedwa kwa ma shackles akunja ndi amkati, kuchotsedwa kwa malire. Zovala zomwe tili pabedi, pajamas, batarole wapanyumba, etc., amalankhula za chidaliro. Ngati katswiri wazamisala amakumana papulatifomu yokhala ndi ngwazi pabedi ndi pajamas, zomaliza zimakhala ndi mayanjano amenewo. M'malingaliro anga, munthu amamuuza moona mtima kwambiri, ndipo nthawi zonse amasangalala komanso amafuna kudziwa zambiri, chifukwa ndikukupemphani kuti musinthe ndi anthu osangalatsa omwe ali ndi mwayi wogawana ndi omvera komanso ine. Mukunena bwino, tsopano pa TV komanso pa Youtube pali ziwerengero zambiri zamapulogalamu, maziko omwe akufunsa anthu. Koma mwa iwo onse pali njira yovomerezeka komanso yolumikizira yokha, yomwe mu mlandu wanga ndizosatheka. Ndili ndi njira zomasulira munthu ndikumuthandiza kuulula, zimakhala zowona mtima. Kuchokera pamenepa tinapambana zonse - ndipo ine, ngati wowonera, ndipo owonerera anga omwe amawona munthu monga momwe aliri, ndipo izi ndi zinanso zotchuka, ndipo zimakhala ndi mwayi wolankhula.
Ndani adzakhala situdio yanu? Anthu wamba kapena anthu wamba?
Mlendo wa pulogalamu yanga akhoza kukhala aliyense. Ndimakondwera ndi anthu, ntchito zosiyanasiyana komanso mafotokozidwe ochezera. Koma nthawi zonse zimakhala anthu achifundo, akuya kwambiri, owala kwambiri, osangalatsa. Iwo amene anapulumuka, mwapadera, kumvetsera komwe aliyense angaphunzirepo kanthu. Kupatula apo, sizowona kuti mungophunzira zokhazokha, munthu wina, pamlingo wa malingaliro, timazindikiranso kuti ndi inu ngati omwe adachita chidwi. kuchokera ku zimveke.
Kodi ndi mitu iti yomwe idzafotokozedwa pabedi ndi dokotala wamatsenga Mariavitova? Kodi idzakhala magawo azachipatala kapena kuyankhulana wamba ndi kulumikizana?
Njira yofunsa mafunso idzakhala yosiyana. Ndipo ndidzasinthidwa, kuchokera ku umunthu wa ngwazi ndi zokambiranazo. Udindo wanga suyenera kukoka bulangeti nokha pokambirana, koma kupatsa munthu kuti alankhule. Ndingowongolera, kuwulula ndikumva foni. Ngati mlendo wanga akufunika psychotherarapy, koma ndikuganiza kuti wowonera sangazindikire, chifukwa ndili ndi akatswiri, amakhala ndi zinsinsi zake. Kuyankhulana kwachizolowezi sikukhala mwanjira yanga, komabe kulenga, motero ndiyesa kuyankhula ndi mitu yotere yomwe sikosangalatsa. Ndikuganiza kuti kusamutsa kwanga kudzakhala kosiyana ndi dziko lino la dziko lathu.
Kodi muli ndi chinsinsi cha chisangalalo chomwe mungachite nawo limodzi? Kodi mayi wamakono ndi uti amene akufuna kukhala achimwemwe, ayenera kuyimirira pamalo oyamba? Momwe Mungaphunzirire Kudzikonda?
Zachidziwikire, ndili nayo. Ngati mungavomereze nokha ndi malamulo adziko lino lapansi, maziko ake kuti mukhale okondwa kuti muli nawo kale. Mavuto onse amayamba pomwe simukuvomereza imodzi kapena ina kapena nthawi yomweyo. Ngati muli ndi zodandaula zambiri za inu, mumapeza zolakwika zambiri, kunenepa, simungatenge nkhawa, kapena kuti mukwatire, ndiye kuti muli ndi tsoka Osakhala konse. Chisangalalo ndi chofunikira kwambiri chomwe sichidalira china chake. Kupambana kwanu ndi kwanu mkati mwanu, zomwe muli nazo komanso zankhanza zomwe sizidalira zinthu zakunja. Simungapange zomangirira: Ngati ndili nacho, ndidzakhala wokondwa. Osamamatira komanso maudindo okhudzana ndi anthu: Mkazi wokwatiwa yekha ndi amene angakhale achimwemwe, chisangalalo pogonana, masiku ano titha kumvetsetsa chisangalalo momwe tikufunira. Mukumvetsetsa kwanga, chisangalalo chimadzipangitsa kudzipangitsa, mukamasonyeza, ndikusangalala kuwona nokha ndi dziko lapansi, kenako anthu omwe mumayamba kufalikira, osangalatsa omwe amayamba kuwonekera. Ngati mukufuna kukhala ndi moyo, mudzakhala osangalala.
Marianna, posachedwa, buku lanu "Ndine maginito a ndalama" Tuluka - Kodi ndi ndani?
Moyo wathu wapangidwa kuti tizitha kupeza chilichonse, koma zenizeni pokhapokha zomwe timalola kuti zikhale. Chifukwa sitili ngati kuti palibe amene angadzichepetse zokhumba - polankhula motero, ifenso sizimalola kuti china kukhala ndi, kuphatikizapo mu pulaniyo. Zachidziwikire, ichi, choyamba, chimakhudza malingaliro ang'onoang'ono komanso amenewo omwe timakhala ndi ubwana nthawi yomwe mapangidwe amachitika. Buku Langa "Ndine maginito a ndalama" amafotokoza momwe zingasonyezere momwe angasinthire nokha momwe mungachotsere "psychology yopempha". Inasonkhanitsa katswiri wa katswiri wa katswiri, momwe angakondere ndalama ndikuwapangitsa kuti ayankhe inu mobwerezabwereza, momwe mungaphunzirire kuti mulole kukhala omwe mukufuna kukhala. Werengani buku langa momwe zinsinsi zonse za ndalama m'moyo wanu zimawululidwira.