"Mnyamata wanga samva zokumana nazo zogonana kuposa ine. Ndikuopa kuti zitha kukhala vuto muubwenzi wathu. Kodi Simuyenera Kupereka Mphamvu Zake Kuti? " Irina, wazaka 26.
Wokondedwa Irina! Choyamba, simuyenera kuyanjana osadziwa zomwe mnzanuyo alibe nzeru. Makamaka ngati simunamupatse pazifukwa izi, kufanizira "zomwe mwakwanitsa" wokondedwa wanu ndi omwe ali m'mbuyomu. Muyenera kukhala owoneka bwino ndi okondedwa anu, muloleni amvetsetse kuti ngakhale sangathe kuchitidwa bwino pankhani imeneyi - izi sizovuta. Banja kuti lipangidwe kuti lipange ndi kukwaniritsa wina ndi mnzake.
Kodi mumadziwa zambiri kuposa iye? Izi zili ndi zabwino zake - muli ndi mwayi wopeza mnzanu wangwiro. Nthawi yomweyo, simuyenera kugwiritsa ntchito kuyesetsa kwanu kuti musamatulutse anthu ambiri. Mutha kuwongolera, phunzitsani kugonana popanda kuwopa kwa iye.
Kuphatikiza apo, kugonana kumatha kukhala osiyanasiyana, mwina, mutha kudana ndi inu. Yesetsani limodzi ndi mnyamata wanu kuti mupeze mbali zatsopano za ubale wapamtima. Mwachitsanzo, mutha kuyendera kuphunzitsidwa paukadaulo wa kugonana kwa chisana kapena maluso atsopano a chikondi cha pakamwa. Chifukwa chake, mudzawonetsa okondedwa anu kuti mulinso ndi kanthu koti muphunzire. Izi zimamulola kuti azimva bwino komanso momasuka.
Ndikofunika kukumbukira kuti mayi wanzeru weniweni sangamulole mwamuna wake kumva kuti akuyesetsa kuti amuphunzitse. Chifukwa chake, ndikofunikira kuyandikira "njira", kuwonetsa chipiriro, kopanda chilungamo ndi kunyada. Kuchita modekha komanso momasuka, 'mumapanga "amuna a wokondedwa wa maloto anu, ndipo mnzanuyo amamva ngati wolanda weniweni.
Ekaterina Lybebuva, Wotsogolera Ku Russia Kugonana