Nkhani yovutayo iyenera kukhala, ngakhale kuchuluka, za maloto, koma mbiri yovuta yaubwenzi ndi mathero omaliza ali kumbuyo kwawo.
"Moni. Ndili ndi vuto lotere. Pafupifupi chaka chimodzi zapitazo mwamuna wanga anamwalira, kapena, adaganiza zosiya moyo uno - kudzipatula. Pansi pa Moyo, munthu sakanapeza malo, monga ntchito yabwino, ndipo mwana ndi wamkulu kale. Zingakhale zofunikira kukhala ndi kusangalala, koma ayi, Iye anali kuyang'ana zonse zomwe zingakhale bwino, koma ndimandikumbukira. Asanamwalire, takhala ndi moyo theka pachaka, nthawi zina zimabwera, panali chilakolako, ndipo timadandaula kuti ndidapita ku linalo. Koma popeza sanakhale ndi moyo ndi mwezi, anayamba kundiimbira foni, ndinapempha kuti ndibwerenso, ndikumukhululuka ndikudzichitira yekha. Anabweranso, zonse zili bwino, koma adawona kuti angamutenge, sanamupatse mtendere. Ndinafunika kupita kwa agogo anga, anali ndi ntchito, sanalole kupita. M'mawa, nditayamba ntchito, ndinandiimbira foni, ndikulankhula, nati ndikupita kunyumba, kumapuma. Ndinasiya agogo anga ndi moyo wabwinja. Koma madzulo, mayi ake adabwera nati, adalankhula naye, adati adatopa kwambiri, adapita kukhitchini yokomera. Ndipo nthawi imeneyo adadzitama moyo. Pambuyo pa imfa yake, ndimakhala moyo uno. Analota za ine, ndinandipempha kuti ndikhale naye, nthawi zonse ndimakhala ndi manja ake, ndikukokera kwinakwake. Wolota, wakhumba, anati ndimamukhululuka iye ali bwino. Ngakhale panali loto akakhala patsogolo pagalasi, imalambira ndikundiwona, akufunsa kuti ajambule mwachangu, ndiye kuti zonse ali tsopano. Kudzuka, poyamba mwa zonse zomwe ndimayang'ana pafoni ndikuwona chithunzithunzi chakuda - sizidziwitsani zomwe zikuwonetsedwa kumeneko. Ndipo tsopano sizili nthawi zambiri, koma ndimalakalaka ndikulankhula naye, amalankhula za iye yekha, ine ndi za ine. Aliyense amati sindimulola kupita, ndipo chifukwa cha izi tili ndi kulumikizana kotere. Nthawi zina ndimachita mantha ndikuchita mantha kuti andichotsa. Kodi Mungakhale Bwanji? "
Kudzipha ... pa nkhani yofananira ndi mutu woletsa. Mutu womwe sungathe kusangalakiridwa. Chilichonse popanda kuchita chilichonse mwakufuna kusiya moyo, chitsime chilichonse chimakhala ndi zovuta panthawiyi, poganiza zodzipha kwambiri. Ndipo nthawi yomweyo zimachitika.
Nkhani zingapo zapitazo, tinaganiza nanu za nambala, momwe imfa ya munthu wina imadutsa. Mfundo imeneyi ikuphwanya kwambiri, yopweteka, yosandulira okondedwa, sikotheka kuti muwapulumuke. Njira yamaganizidwe amasamalira moyo imatha kutenga chaka, ndipo nthawi zina ambiri.
Kukumbukiridwa mwachidule kuti anthu akumva zowawa ndi njira zina: Choyamba chimakana zomwe zidachitika, popeza mkwiyo umawoneka wosavomerezeka, chifukwa cha kukwiya, kwa ena, kuntchito, kugwirira ntchito, zomwe zidapangitsa kuti okonda kapena okhulupirira. Timakwiya ndi zomwe tanyamuka. Ndipo koposa zonse, timakwiya ndi amene adamwalira ndipo motero tidatisiya.
Gawo lotsatira, timalowa muzokambirana ndi mphamvu zapamwamba kwambiri, kuyamba kulota ngati zingatheke kubweza chilichonse, ndiye ... ambiri pagawo ili amapanga ndakatulo, nyimbo, zithunzi za womwalirayo. Mphamvu zonse zikuyesera kukulitsa kukhalapo kwake mdziko lino. Kusintha kwa gawoli kumabwera chisoni chenicheni, kukhumba, chisoni, kutaya mtima, motsutsana ndi maziko omwe timamvetsetsa kuti zonse zili pachabe komanso zopanda pake. Pamenepo tikukumanadi ndi munthu womwalirayo. Ndipo zitatha izi, kukhazikitsidwa, kudzichepetsa ndi kudzazidwa ndi moyo watsopano. Tikupitilizabe kuphonya ndikuyendayenda, komabe, amatha kukhalabe ndi moyo, kukumbukira mbali zosiyanasiyana zaubwenzi. Munjira zambiri, timayamba kukhala ofunika kwambiri, timayamba kutanthauza moyo wanu mwapatunzi, podziwa kuti siopanda malire.
Pazochitika kumene munthu adadzipha, magawo awiri oyamba amanjenjemera kwambiri okondedwa okondedwa. Maloto athu amalemba kuti amakhala ndi moyo ndipo sanakhale nthawi yomweyo. Dziwani kuti mwamunayo adachita yekha kuti akwaniritse izi mwakufuna - nazi kuphwanya. Mwambiri, amayi ake, ndi mkazi wake, ngwazi zathu, mazunzo athu omwe amadziimba mlandu. Monga lamulo, abale a munthu amene anadzipha ndi kumverera kopweteka m'matumba. Akuyesera kuthana naye, zotumizidwa pa TV zimadzipereka ngakhale kuti chowonadi chonse ndi zabodza kuti zitsimikizire kuti sanadzitsimikizira yekha. Poyesera kuthana ndi kudziimba mlandu, makamaka, ndi ukali ndi amene mwawasiya, zongopeka zimatha kutembenukira chilichonse. Maloto athu a ngwazi ndi oyenera komanso kuti mwamuna wake ali ndi moyo, amamuuza, akupitiliza kumuyimbira iye.
Lingaliro lowononga lomwe ladzala ndi malingaliro athuwa litha kuti zichitike, loto, loto silinayenera kuteteza, "sanadzipulumutse. Chifukwa chake, adzalota kuti mwamuna wake "amakokera ndi Iye", ngati kuti angaugwire kuti akhale mdziko lino ndi ntchitoyi, ndipo tsopano akufuna kuti alipo. Achibale ambiri a omwe adadzipha akufa adzakhalepo, koma moyo weniweniwo, wodzazidwa ndi tanthauzo, chikondi, kudzilowetsa, ndikovuta kuyimba. Akuwoneka kuti amwalira limodzi ndi omwe adadzipha. Amakonda kudziyang'ana kudzera mu kupsinjika kwa zomwe angaimbe mlandu ndikuyenera kukhala oyipitsitsa.
Ndinganene kuti ngwazi zathu zinali njira yolimba mtima kulemba kalatayi. Kudzipha ndi mutu woletsa. Kuchokera m'mabanja mazana omwe zidamuchitikira, ochepa okha omwe angayankhule nazo, popanda kupanga zinsinsi podzipha, ena amangotsutsidwa, amadzitsutsa kuti ali ndi mavuto osungulumwa. Kuyembekezera inu, ngati mungaganize, zokumana nazo zovuta kwambiri: mkwiyo, kudziimba mlandu, kukwiyiranso kwa mwamunayo. Zikatero, zimakhala zosavuta kuchita izi ndi chithandizo chokwanira: Psychotherapy ndi imodzi mwazosankha. Mwina pali magulu amisonkhano ya anthu omwe zinamuchitikira, koma pali madera pa intaneti, pomwe anthu omwe adapulumuka zoterezi amagawanika ndi nkhani zawo. Mwina pali magulu okhala ndi matchalitchi kapena akachisi, kumene abale ali ndi thandizo lina. Beakon ya moyo watsopano akhoza kukhala kuti maloto, pomwe mwamunayo "amadzikoka yekha," amatanthauza kuti kumverera kwa zolakwa kumapangitsabe moyo wanu, kumadzikana nokha komanso kudzipereka. Simungathe kuchita chilichonse kapena chizolowezi, kuyambira posankha izi adadzitengera yekha, palibe amene adamupulumutsa, makamaka inu. Muli ndi moyo umodzi wokha womwe muli ndi udindo - ndi. Palibe kudzipatula nthawi, koma mutha kuyamba kudzakwaniritsa moyo wanu ndi lingaliro lina, zindikirani nthawi yothamanga kwenikweni, ndipo maloto asintha.
Ndipo ndi maloto anji a inu? Zitsanzo za maloto anu kutumiza ndi makalata: [email protected].
Maria DonaCkova, zamatsenga, othandizira am'banja komanso akutsogolera paubwenzi wapakati pa Marika Khazin