Kodi anzanu ndi otani wachinyamata?
Anzathu wachinyamata ndi kalilole momwe kufanana kwake kumasonyezedwa ndi iwo ndi kusiyana kumene; chizindikiro, pomwe amapotoza mfundo zake; Lachitatu, lomwe limafunikira kwambiri kwa iye, momwe akufuna kuvomerezedwa, komwe amalota kumvedwa komanso kuwopa kukanidwa.
Akatswiri amisala aku America adayesa chidwi. Adaganiza zodzitsimikizira kuti achinyamata amakhala ndi zaka zingati ndi makolo awo. Wophunzira aliyense amapatsidwa ndalama zomwe ofufuza adabwera masana. Pa uthenga uliwonse, achinyamata amayenera kuyankha nthawi yomweyo, ali kuti komanso omwe ali nawo. Zinapezeka kuti gawo lalikulu la nthawi (50%), ana asukulu amachitidwa ndi anzawo komanso anzanu mkalasi komanso 30% yokha ya nthawi yomwe adaperekedwa kwa iwo.
Poyenda Lachitatu, wachinyamata amakopa mphamvu zothana ndi zosintha momwemo, ndipo akufuna mawonekedwe atsopano chifukwa cha zochita zawo. Nthawi zonse amaphimba zochita zake kuti ena akumuyembekezera, kuyesera kuti abweretse malingaliro ake, momwe akumvera, machitidwe omwe ali ndi malingaliro omwe ali ndi anzawo. Kudzera mwa wachinyamata wina, sikuti amangodzidziwira Yekha, amapitilizabe. Kwa iwo okha, kuphunzitsa, ubale ndi aphunzitsi ndi makolo amapita kudera. Chifukwa chake, kukwiya kwamalamulo ndi kutsutsana kwamupangitsa kuti amayi ndi abambo, omwe poyankha anzawo.
Masiku ano, nkovuta masiku ano, ndizovuta kukumbukira zomwe munthu amakhala nawo nthawi ina adali ndi mwayi kwa iwo ndipo tatipatsa maluso ofunika ati. Mwachitsanzo, mu psychology pamakhala lingaliro lotere - "phenomonon yaukadaulo", munthu akazindikira ufulu wa wina pakampani kuti akhazikitse mgwirizano kapena kulephera kwa bizinesi yolumikizana. Kodi mungatani popanda luso ili mu gulu lililonse lachikulire mtsogolo? Mwachitsanzo, ngati gululo silinali lothetsa kwambiri, kulephera kumadziwika ndi winawake yekha, ndipo ngati aliyense ali wolumikizana nawo, ndipo aliyense amatenga nawo gawo pakulephera kapena kuchita bwino.
Mwa chikhalidwe cha ubale ndi anzawo, makolo amatha kumvetsetsa tanthauzo la mwanayo kuti alandire kulankhulana ndipo safunikira thandizo. Chifukwa chiyani komanso za zomwe mwana amafuna kwa omwe angafune kuvomerezedwa ndi akulu? Kodi ndichifukwa chiyani zimakhala zosangalatsa kwa iye ndipo nchiyani chomwe chingabweze chikhumbo chotere?
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Kodi tili bwanji?
Ubwenzi wapakati pa anzanu umapezeka pazifukwa zinayi.
Ngati wachinyamata amayamikira mphamvu, kupirira, wochita malonda, adzayamba kuyanjana ndi anyamata omwe ali ndi mikhalidwe iyi. Ubwenzi wamtunduwu ndi "pansi-mmwamba" - kutengera tanthauzo ndi kugonjera. Wachinyamata amayesetsa kukhala yemweyo monga ena, kuyesera kutsanzira kwambiri - zovala, njira yogwiritsira ntchito, kulankhula. Komanso ubale wotere - Mwanayo adzasintha mogwirizananso monga momwe amakondera.
Njira yachiwiri ya maubale ndi mgwirizano ndi iwo omwe amayamikira mtundu womwe muli nawo. Wachinyamatayo akumva kuti amafunikira, kudziona Yekha kukhala munthu weniweni, chifukwa pagulu limayamikiridwa chifukwa cha chidziwitso ndi maluso (mwachitsanzo, china chopanga, mwanzeru amamvetsetsa zosankha zatsopano za chida. Ubwenzi woterowo umakhala ndi maluso ndi kulamula, komanso amaphunzitsanso kuti azikhala ndi chidaliro. Ubwenzi wamtunduwu ndi "kuwonjezera kuchokera pamwamba mpaka pansi" - umadutsa munthu wina, yemwe amalamulira malamulo pomwe ena angamvere.
Mtundu wachitatu wa ubale wachinyamata ndi wokwanira, zimakhala zothandiza kwazaka zambiri. Mwachitsanzo, gradth senvers 7 yomwe imakondanso masamu ndizotheka, ntchitozo zimathetsedwa bwino ndipo mayeso akuyesera kuti akwaniritse ntchitozo. Nthawi yomweyo akufuna kulumikizana kunja kwa kalasi ndi kunja. Ubwenzi woterowo umatenga mtundu wa machesi kapena ndewu, zomwe zimakhala cholinga chamkati, ngakhale kuti maubale amapangidwira pazogwirizana.
Pali mtundu wachinayi pamene achinyamata amalankhula, kulamulira kapena kugonjera mmodzi, kenako wina. Kukhazikika kwa ana kwamkati kwa ana oterewa kumakhala kosakhazikika komanso ubwenzi wawo. Ubwenzi wamtunduwu umapatsa masikono ndipo amayambitsa mikangano, komanso zomwe zingachitike posachedwapa, mnyamatayo amamvera mphamvu pagululi. Kalanga ine, mtundu woterewu kwambiri ndi zolakwa kwambiri, zimanyamula chindapusa cha Hooliginism, kuchitira nkhanza.
Ngati mwana sapanga ubale ndi anzanu ndipo palibe abwenzi, makamaka ndikofunikira mothandizidwa ndi makolo ndi akatswiri amisala kumvetsetsa mtundu wa vutoli lomwe limalumikizidwa ndi vuto ili la osavomerezeka. Kuphatikiza apo, ngati, kuwonjezera pa sukulu komanso zochitika zapanyumba, mwana sakudziwa komwe angachite, ngati sangavomerezeke kusukulu, amatha kulowa mkangano.
Ndikukumbukira nkhani yomwe idachitika zaka zingapo zapitazo. Nata yabata komanso yofatsa kwa Natay Nawa, yemwe adakula m'mabanja otukuka kwambiri, analibe atsikana onse. Anaphunzira mosiyana, anali ndi chidwi ndi iye. Kuyitanira kwa aphunzitsi kuti ayankhe ku board kudadzetsa mantha ake. Mtsikanayo nthawi zambiri ankamva ndemanga zakuthwa ku adilesi yake kuchokera kwa mphunzitsi wa Chingerezi, motero sanakonde katunduyu, monga ena omwe anali ovuta kuchita. Banja silinade nkhawa kwambiri ndi momwe mwana wamkazi wamkazi ndi misozi yake yosalekeza. Mulimonsemo, makolo amakhalabe opanda chidwi. Nthawi ina, munthu wina wochezeka adayitanira Natasha kudzacheza, komwe achinyamata adasonkhana. Amalankhula za moyo, za chikondi, zokhudzana ndi maubale. Zinali zosangalatsa, ndipo mlendo watsopanoyo adachita chidwi. Komanso, adayitanidwanso kudzakumananso. Natenepa Nenasha adakhala nthawi zambiri. M'miyezi iwiri, zosinthazi zinali zodziwikiratu: bata komanso lolimba, adayamba kuwerenga mabuku a Chingerezi. Adalandira mabuku awa kuchokera kwa omwe adawadziwa zatsopano. Mwa iwo, adakumana ndi munthu wina, chikondi chake. Chilichonse ndichabwino ngati sichinali kuti kampani yatsopanoyi ndi gulu la munitov. Posakhalitsa Natasha adachoka mnyumbamo, atakhazikika m'bungweli, napuma ndi makolo ake omwe adatenga zinthu zamtengo wapatali ndi ndalama. Monga ndondomeko yabwino, idayamba kuitumiza ndi maulaliki a ziphunzitso za mwezi m'maiko osiyanasiyana. Adalengeza ubale wake ndi makolo ake ndikusiya kuwachirikiza.
Ndikofunika kuphunzitsa wachinyamata kuchita nawo ubale ndi anthu mozama, ndikumukumbutsa mwa mwambi wa Russia "kumwalira kasanu ndi kamodzi, ndalama imodzi." Choyamba, talingalirani, taonani kuchokera kumbali zosiyanasiyana, yesetsani, sankhani njirayo ndipo pokhapokha ngati achitepo kanthu. Kudalitsika pazowunika, malingaliro ndi zikhulupiriro zomwe zimakhudzidwa ndi achinyamata omwe ali nawo, nthawi zina zimatsogolera achinyamata kukhala ndi malingaliro okhazikika kuti akhale ndi malingaliro awo, komanso kuti asayankhe zikhulupiriro ndi mfundo zawo.
Kodi tingayerekeze bwanji kuti ubale wa mwanayo uziyerekeza motani? Zimakhala zophweka, zosavuta. Chothandiza kwenikweni kumatha kutchedwa maubwenzi okhawo omwe anyamata amakhala omasuka wina ndi mnzake; Amakhala ndi chidaliro, osawoloka malire a chiopsezo choyenera, amalemekeza malamulo omwe amabwera mgulu, amakhala wolimba mtima komanso kumvetsetsana ndi makolo, osapanga zinsinsi zolakwa kapena zolakwika. Full Killy kuchokera ku chizolowezi ayenera kuyambitsa nkhawa.
Kuzindikira kwaubwenzi wachinyamata kumangosintha maboma. Pokhudzana ndi achinyamata nthawi zonse pamakhala chinsinsi, kukhala chete, kuvomereza, kuleza mtima komanso mtendere, zonse zamatsenga. " Chifukwa chake, makolo nthawi zambiri amamva kuti: "Nditha kukambirana za chilichonse chokhudza chilichonse," nthawi zonse ndimakhulupirira bwenzi. Ndikudziwa zomwe amaganiza, ngakhale atakhala chete. " Ubwenzi wolimba komanso wolimba kwambiri, mitu ingapo yomwe achinyamata amakambirana wina ndi mnzake, alibe chidwi ndi zokumana nazo komanso malingaliro a makolo.
Akatswiri azovuta atsimikiza kuti achinyamata 20% okha a achinyamata amakonda kusungulumwa. Sizachilendo ngati mwanayo ali ndi chidwi ndi ntchitoyi: Zojambula, nyimbo, kulemba, - izi ndi zomwe zimafunikira kukhazikika. Kusungulumwa kumasintha vuto ndipo kumabweretsa zokumana nazo mwamphamvu ngati wachinyamatayo sanavomereze kampani yomwe anasankha (onani mutu wa "Wachinyamata" Wachinyamata "Wachinyamata Wosungulumwa"). Ambiri a achinyamata - 80% - amafuna kupeza munthu wamalingaliro, mabwenzi angapo (dinani) kapena ambiri (kampani). Nthawi zambiri amakopeka ndi omwe ali pafupi nawo chifukwa cha zomwe adachokera, zokonda, zimakhala ndi mbiri yofananayi kapena mawonekedwe. Wachikulireyo amakhala wachinyamata, onse padzakhala gulu la abwenzi ake, ndipo anyamatawa adzaphatikizidwanso pang'ono.
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Kukondana kwina kumawonekera kwa ana nthawi yayitali asanakhale waunyamata. Tikuwona chikhumbo chofuna kusamalira kale chidwi chanu pakati pa ophunzira achichepere; Kusukulu yasekondale, achinyamata ali ndi chidwi ndi amene amakonda komanso chifukwa chake, ndipo kulamulidwa kumayambira. Kupeza kusintha kunayamba m'mbali mwa anthu ena, mtsikanayo akuwalonjeza iwo pawokha. Ubwenzi Pakati pa Achinyamata a kugonana osiyanasiyana amakhala sukulu yeniyeni yophunzirira. Ndipo apa mukunena za kudziwa mtundu wanji komwe mumapeza achinyamata pazaka zambiri: amaphunzira kuphunzira za atsikana kapena atsikana, kuyesera kuti amvetsetse njira zomwe ndi zothandiza, ndipo zimatsogolera kumatuluka pamavuto osafunikira; Kuyesa momwe aliri ("amandiwona mu kampani ndi wophunzira wabwino kapena munthu wofunitsitsa"); Phunzirani kukhala oona mtima ndi owona; Kuyesera kujambula chithunzi cha mwamuna kapena mkazi wamtsogolo. Mwina tsopano ndikofunika kulankhula ndi achinyamata za momwe miyezo ya anyamata ndi atsikana asinthira lero. Ngati atatsala pang'ono kukhazikitsidwa ndi zolengedwa zosinthika, zofewa, zazikazi, tsopano zimayitanidwa kuti zigwire ntchito, kudziyimira pawokha komanso ngakhale kuti anyamatawa amapatsidwa gawo lolemekezeka kwambiri la mapulani achiwiri. Nthawi zambiri panali zochitika masiku ano, pamene chiyambi cha maubwenzi apamtima chimadzetsa atsikana omwe ali ndi vuto lililonse nthawi ziwiri m'mbuyomu kuposa anyamata. Mwa njira, monga kafukufuku wawonetsa, achinyamata anzeru samakonda kulowa maubwenzi oyandikira - osachepera chifukwa pali zotsatila zake.