Ndi malingaliro amphamvu ndizovuta kupirira. Ngakhale mutamva kupsa mtima kapena zachisoni, maluso owongolera matpundira angathandize kuchepetsa kuchuluka ndi nthawi yovutayi. Nthawi ina mukamadzimva kuti njira zisanu ndi ziwirizi zikuthandizira:
Dziwani momwe mukumvera
Kuphunzitsa dzina lomwe mukumva kudzakuthandizani kuthana ndi malingaliro anu. Kuganiza kena kake konga "ndili ndi nkhawa tsopano" kapena "ndikukhumudwa", mutha kufotokozera zomwe zikuchitika. Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti zilembo zopachikidwa pamatato zimachepetsa lakuthwa. Kutanthauzira kosavuta kwambiri kwa malingaliro anu kungakuthandizeni kuti mumve bwino. Mutha kungolingalira zomwe mukumva ndikuyesera kuzitcha. Kapenanso mutha kulemba za momwe mukumvera mu diary kuti akuthandizeni kudziwa zinthu. Muthanso kupeza kulumikizana ndi munthu wina komanso tanthauzo la malingaliro anu kumakuthandizani kuti mumve bwino.
Dziwani ngati malingaliro anu ndi othandiza kapena osagwira ntchito
Nthawi zina anthu amalankhula zakukhosi kwawo ngati kuti ali abwino kapena oyipa. Koma malingaliro siabwino kapena osalimbikitsa. Mantha onse akhoza kukhala othandiza kapena osagwira ntchito. Mwachitsanzo, lingalirani za nkhawa. Kuda nkhawa kumathandiza mukamachenjeza za ngozi. Ngati mafoni anu ochititsa chidwi amayambitsidwa mukakhala osatetezeka (mwachitsanzo, mwayandikira kwambiri m'mphepete mwa thanthwe), mwina mumayankha mwanjira yoti mudziteteze. Pankhaniyi, nkhawa yanu ndiyothandiza. Komabe, ngati mungapewe kulankhula mawu, chifukwa zolankhula pagulu zimakupangitsani mantha, nkhawa zanu sizingathandize. Mofananamo, mkwiyo ungakhale wothandiza ngati angakupatseni kulimba mtima kuti musinthe. Koma ndizopanda ntchito ngati zimakupangitsani kulankhula kapena kuchita zomwe mumanong'oneza bondo.
Osayesa kuchotsa malingaliro - mumangofunika kupatulira malingaliro othandiza kuchokera pamavuto osafunikira.
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Kuyesa kwabwino kwambiri kuthana ndi mavuto
Maluso abwino okonda tokha angakuthandizeni kupulumuka nkhawa kwambiri, osazikana popanda kupondereza komanso osanyalanyaza. Amatha kukusokonezani kwakanthawi kuti mumve bwino, kapena mungathandizenso thupi lanu kapena kukweza bwino. Njira Zothetsera mavuto omwe amagwira ntchito kwa munthu m'modzi sangagwirire ntchito pa wina, motero ndikofunikira kupeza maluso kuthana ndi mavuto omwe angakwanitse. Zitsanzo za maluso opulumuka atha kukhala olimbitsa thupi, kuwerenga buku, kusamba, kumvetsera nyimbo, zokhala ndi bwenzi.
Tengani zomwe mukumva
Nthawi zina amakhala osasangalatsa - chinthu chabwino kwambiri chomwe mungachite. Izi zitha kutanthauza kuzindikira kuti muli ndi nkhawa, kenako munthawi iliyonse mumachita zomwe mumachita tsikulo. Mutha kuzindikira kuti ndinu achisoni kapena nkhawa, ndipo mudaganiza zopitilizabe kugwira ntchitoyi kapena mutha kusiya kuyang'ana zomwe mukukumana nazo. Kodi malingaliro anu amakhudza bwanji malingaliro anu? Kodi zimakukhudzani bwanji? Mwachitsanzo, mukakwiya, malingaliro anu amatha kuyang'ana pa zoipazo. Ndipo mutha kudziwa zomwe zili mu thupi, mwachitsanzo, kuwonjezeka kwamphamvu. Ingozindikira zinthu izi popanda kuwadzudzula nokha, zimatha kukhala chizolowezi chothandiza. Mukayamba kuganiza zina ngati kuti: "Sindingamve ngati izi," ndikumadzikumbutsa kuti mutha kumva zomwe mukumva komanso zomwe zimamveka ndizosakhalitsa. Mapeto ake, udzapita.
Malingaliro opanda pake
Chenjerani ndi malingaliro osagwiritsa ntchito omwe amapereka malingaliro anu osasangalatsa. Ganizirani zinthu ngati kuti: "Sindidzazichita!" Kapena "ndikudziwa kuti chinthu choyipa chidzachitika" kungowalimbitsa mtima. Ngati mungadzipewe kuganiza kuti mukuganiza kuti ndi zopanda ntchito, pezani mphindi kuti musinthe. Mutha kubwera ndi mawu osavuta kuti mubwereze za izi, mwachitsanzo: "Ndi zovuta, koma ndili bwino." Mutha kufunsanso kuti: "Ndingamuuze chiyani mnzanga amene anali ndi vuto ili?" Mutha kuwona kuti amawathandiza kuti azithandiza komanso achifundo. Yesani kunena mawu ofanana.
Mowa - njira yosayenera yothanirana ndi vuto loyipa, ndibwino kuti musinthe ndikuyenda ndi kusamba kwa thovu
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Khalani ngati mukusangalala
Ngakhale nthawi zina zimakhala zothandiza kwakanthawi kuti musakhale osavomerezeka, inunso musafune kukhalabe nawo. Mkwiyo wambiri kapena mkwiyo ungakupangitseni kuti muchepetse mumdima. Nthawi zina zimakhala zofunikira kusintha momwe mumakhalira pasadakhale. Njira imodzi yabwino yochitira izi ndikusintha momwe mumakhalira. M'malo mwa kukhala pa sofa ndipo musachite chilichonse mukakhala achisoni, mungadzifunse kuti: "Ndingatani pakadali pano ngati mukusangalala?" Mwina mungapite kukayimba kapena kuitana bwenzi. Chitani izi tsopano, ngakhale ngati simukufuna.
Pezani thandizo la akatswiri
Ngati zimakuvutani kuthana ndi malingaliro anu, lankhulani ndi katswiri. Mutha kuyamba kukambirana ndi dokotala. Fotokozani momwe mukumvera, ndipo dokotala angafune kukutsimikizirani kuti palibe chifukwa chankhwala chosadziwika bwino. Muthanso kutanthauza katswiri wazamankhwala wamalamulo. Mavuto okhala ndi nkhawa akhoza kukhala chizindikiro cha vuto lalikulu ndi thanzi la m'maganizo, monga nkhawa kapena kukhumudwa. Kulaza chithandizo, mankhwala kapena kuphatikiza kwawo kungathandize.