Osati kale kwambiri, ndinamva loto kuchokera kwa mkazi yemwe amakonzekera zaka 60 zakubadwa. Chingwe chilichonse chamibadwo sichiri ndi zaka zapakati, komanso zamaganizidwe. Eric Ericson anagogomezera mavuto a zaka 8, ndipo zovuta za m'badwo wokhwima zidagwera m'gululi. Koma sitipita patsogolo, tulo tokha.
"Mnzanga weniweni anapeza nyumbayo m'nyumba yopanga nyumba zingapo: imodzi, ziwiri, zitatu. Mwambiri, nyumba izi zimagawidwa kukhala zatsopano, zokonzedwa, zamakono ndi zakale, koma zokonda komanso zokhalamo. Palibe amene amakhala watsopano. Ndinayang'ana koyamba m'nyumba zatsopano, kenako ndinapita kukayang'ana nyumba yanga yatsopano m'ndomo. Ndinkayenera kupita pamasitepe achikuda. Ndikosatheka ngakhale kudutsa pamenepo, koma ndinakumana ndi anthu ena m'maloto achikulire kwambiri kuposa ine, ndipo amasuntha pamasitepe awa. Mwa mkazi m'modzi, ndidafunsanso momwe amapita kuno, koma adayankha motsimikiza kuti ndichita bwino, ndikungowopsa. Kenako ndidapeza nyumba yanga ndikuwona malo opanda kanthu. Iyenera kuphatikizidwa ndikukhazikika - koma pakadali pa nyumba yanga yatsopano. Kwa kamphindi, ngakhale manjawo adalipo kutali ndi ntchito yomwe ilipo. Koma nditha kuthana ndi ".
Kugona kumawonekera. Munjira yotheratu ndi nyumba yatsopano, werengani thupi lakale ndi zaka zatsopano, maloto athu sangakhale moyo. Gulu lake lomwe likutenga nawo mbali limakhala kale ndi nyumba yakale, koma nyumbayo. Ndikofunikira kupita ndi njira zopendekera, ngakhale kosatheka, koma anthu ndi okalamba adzalimbana. Mwina maloto athu anali ndi tsankho lokhudza zomwe zinali zokhwima, zokalamba, koma ndizosavuta kwa malingaliro ake okongola za izi. Ndipo pambuyo pake, adafika kunyumba yatsopano yosasaloledwa, ndiye kuti, mwatsopano mwatsopano ndi mkazi wanzeru komanso wokhwima, koma samadziwa kuchokera mkatimo, momwe iye ndi.
Eric Erickson adalemba za m'badwo uno monga cholowa cha Golide. Ngati munthu akhala m'badwo uno, pali kusamvana kodzitengera yekha ndi zoletsa zake zonse, koma nthawi yomweyo ndi luso la moyo wabwino. Nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti uwu ndi zaka zopuma pantchito, chifukwa chake zovuta za moyo. Ambiri akukumana ndi zovuta, ataya thanzi, popeza sanazolowere kudzikhalira okha, komanso gulu lomwe adakhalapo kale, ataya tanthauzo lake. Pakadali m'badwo uno, nthawi yoyamba ndikuwunikanso zomwe amakhulupirira, zinthu, kudalirika kwa ubale wapamtima komanso wochezeka, kumadzisamalira komanso zomwe amakonda. Pakadali m'badwo uno, munthu akhoza kudziona kuti ndi okhwima komanso anzeru kuposa ubwana wake, koma angavomereze kuti mphamvu ndi mphamvu zake ndizochepa kwambiri. Ndipo nthawi yomweyo, zaka sizikulepheretsa kukhazikitsidwa kwa maloto awo, mapulani ndi zolinga zawo. Ambiri amatumizidwa kuti akambirane, ndipo ena amadzipereka pazosangalatsa kapena zomwe amakonda, Wachitatu watsala pang'ono kumphatikiza wa ntchitoyi, koma anafuna kucheza ndi unyamata wake, koma anam'funa. Mphindi ndi okondedwa zimatha kukhala zamtengo wapatali, makamaka popanda zifukwa zambiri, monga anthu okalamba kuzindikira nthawi yawo ngati mphatso, monga mphindi zokoma za moyo. Ndikukhwima, kuwerenganso kwa moyo komwe kumawapatsa mwayi wosangalala ndi nthawi yomwe pano, auzenso nzeru ndi luso lawo.
Koma pali ena omwe savomereza kuletsa kuletsa kwawo komwe, kapena, m'malo mwake, amatulutsa kwambiri. Pa ma pores onse, amathamangira kudutsa nthawi yapadera ya moyo, pomwe thupi lawo limakupatsani mwayi wokhala ndi moyo wokangalika, pomwe kuti musathamangire kwina kulikonse. Ine sindisamala ndipo wopanda kugwiritsa ntchito zipatso za kukhwima kwanu, iwo amawazindikira modzidzimutsa, ndipo amalepheretsa miyoyo yawo kuti athe, kuchita zolakwa zake, zotayika zokha ndi kupambana. Moyo nthawi zambiri ndi zolakwika zingapo. Ukalamba wopanda, woseketsa, wachikondi kwa iye ndi nthawi yamagulu olemera ndi kuvutika.
Maloto athu amayenera kuti azitha kuyenda bwino munthawi yatsopano ya moyo watsopano ndikutsegulira kuti mwina moyo uno ukhale nthawi. Pali mwayi woti mulandire ufulu wanu komanso ufulu wanu, ndi zoletsa, ndipo zokumana nazo mu mitundu yake yonse, ndi maubale mu voliyumu yawo yonse. Nthawi yotereyi yomwe muyenera kubadwira, pangani "nyumba" yanu, ndiye kuti, kuti mukhale m'badwo uno osati mongoyambira nthawi, komanso m'maganizo.
Tikumufunira zabwino zonse, kudekha komanso kusangalala ndi nzeru zomwe mwapeza kale.
Ndikudabwa zomwe mumalota? Zitsanzo za maloto anu kutumiza ndi makalata: [email protected]. Mwa njira, maloto ndiosavuta kufotokoza ngati mu kalata yopita kwa mkonzi womwe mudzalemba nthawi ya moyo, koma koposa zonse - malingaliro ndi malingaliro panthawi ya kudzutsidwa m'maloto.
Maria DonaCkova, zamatsenga, othandizira am'banja komanso akutsogolera paubwenzi wapakati pa Marika Khazin