Kunazova Elmira Nurifla - Pulofesa, dokotala wa sayansi ya zamankhwala, katswiri wamkulu wa ana a ukhondo ndi achinyamata a ulaliki wathanzi la Tajikistan. Membala wa Puresidium of the Russian Society School ndi Mankhwala aku University.
Chimodzi mwazomwe Elmura Narislamna ndi msonkhano ndi atsikana - Achinyamata ochokera kwa ana amasiye, omwe angafunse mafunso osiyanasiyana ndi ofunikira kwa dokotala wazachipatala.
- Elmira Nurislamna, ndi mafunso otani omwe amakufunsani atsikana kuzaka zimenezo?
Mafunso ndi osiyana kwambiri, koma amodzi amamveka kuti: "Kodi ukalamba unali ukalamba bwanji?". Zikuwoneka kwa ife funso ili ndi loseketsa, ndipo kwa iwo awa ndi mutu ndiye pachimake kwambiri. Ndinena kwa mtsikana aliyense: "Zomwe mudzala, mudzadzichitira bwino m'moyo, musathamangira. Phunzirani kunena molimba mtima "Ayi". Zomwe zochita zanu zingakhale zopindulitsa, zomwe zingakupatseni mwayi womwe mungakhale wosangalala. Tsopano, mukakhala ang'ono ndipo osapangidwa, inu monga kamtsikana kakang'ono kungangogwiritsa ntchito. Tiyeni tigwirizane nanu, "Ayi", ndiye mtengo wanu. Mukakhala zaka khumi ndi zitatu, mudzaimirira pamapazi anu, mudzaganiza zokhala ndi moyo, ndiye kuti mudzakhala osavuta kusankha. "
Ndiwowopsa kwambiri kuti atsikanawa sanyenga, chifukwa tsopano ali osokonezeka, ndipo nawo mutha kuchita chilichonse. Kenako amasiya kudalira anthu, kukhala ovutitsidwa, amayamba kumva kuti asiyidwa, osafunikira, kuyamba kumwa. Tsopano ndikofunikira kuti mugwiritse ntchito mitu yawo kuti mugwiritse ntchito lingaliro la mtengo wake wapadera kuti asathamangira onse mu mzere adaphunzira kunena kuti "Ayi" ndikuganiza za maubale omwe amasinthidwa kukhala banja.
-Mumaphunzitsa atsikana kunena kuti "Ayi", ndikudikirira kuti "ukwati woyesedwa", ndipo masiku ano pali "banja loyeserera", ndipo akatswiri ambiri amisala amalimbikitsa kukhala ndi moyo, osasunthira kukwatiwa kuti amvetsetse munthu wanu. Mukuganiza kuti ndi chiyani?
- Tsoka ilo, ndi zabodza komanso osati mawonekedwe athu amdziko. M'magawo athu amitundu, ngakhale kuti mitundu ndi miyambo yosiyana, nthawi zonse mibadwo yoganiza pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi, inali chinthu choyamba ku ukwati ndi ukwati. "Nyengo Yodetsedwa" Mukamanena kuti ukwati, umaphunzitsa kuti ndi okwatirana osapirira saziphunzitsa.
Tikulankhula ndi atsikana ngati mudakwatirana kale ndi inu amuna anu ndipo ngati mwapeza munthu yemwe ndidaganiza zopita pamoyo, muyenera kutsatira malamulo omwe alipo kwazaka zambiri. Ndikofunikira kuti mtsikana aliyense ali pa uzimu kudikirira mwambo waukwati.
Ndikhulupirira kuti mwambo waukwati umafunikira kwenikweni, chifukwa ndi udindo, komanso udindo wawo ndipo ngati mukufuna lingaliro kumwamba. Ngati ukwatiwo udalembedwabe, umalola munthu kuti azisamalira banjali, moyo wabanja, mosamala. Ndipo ukwati wa mayesero, ukulankhula, "lero tikambirana pabokosi limodzi, ndipo mawa takhala tikusewera ndi Sandbox ina." Si zolondola.
Monga katswiri, ndikumvetsa kuti anthu sangathe kukhala ogwirizana ndi anthu ambiri pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi - vutoli lingathetsedwe. Ndipo kenako pali mankhwala okwera kwambiri omwe ngakhale mavuto achilengedwe ngati sakugwirizana ndi matenda kapena zizolowezi zomwe zimathetsedwa.
Kutha kwaukwati kumatha kukhala pamlingo wa kusagwirizana kwathunthu, koma yesani kuwerengera kambiri kwa mkazi kuwonongeka, chifukwa psyche yake ikusweka. Zikakhala zomata kwa munthu m'modzi, kwa wina, mpaka wachitatu, kwa wachinayi, zimataya malo oyenera. Mkazi ayenera kukhala wodzipereka kwa mnzanu, amaikidwa mu pulogalamu Yake yachilengedwe.
- Zimapezeka kuti ndi chinyengo chabe cha anthu?
- Zedi. Uku ndi kukwapula kwa anthu ndi kupukusa kwa bizinesi, chifukwa mkazi wogonana amakhala wokondweretsa aliyense, amakhala wogula mahomoni kulera, komanso ntchito zosiyanasiyana zamaluwa. Msungwana wachiyero sangayende kudzera m'magawo osiyanasiyana omwe amapezeka, china chofuna kudziwa, kusintha, kusintha. Ndizosangalatsa, kotero bizinesiyo ikulimbikitsidwa ndi atsikanawo amakhala achangu, ndipo koyambirira, ndibwino. Samalani, tsopano pa TV ndikutsatsa ma tampons a anamwali. Ndikhulupirira kuti izi ndizosasintha, sizikuphimbidwa, bizinesi yopumira. Kodi nchifukwa ninji achinyamata achinyamata? Ndili ndi lingaliro lomveka lokhalo ndi akatswiri - akatswiri azachipatala - matenda a gynecologists, koma sichingachitike mu zachipembedzo - malingaliro abwino. Apanso, zimayambitsa kugonana koyambirira kwa ana.
- Malingaliro amabuka kuti pulogalamu yake ndi yopanga dongosolo?
- Zachidziwikire. Onani zomwe, atero Antakhv, akunena kuti ndikofunikira kuletsa pulogalamuyi yomwe imayambitsa maphunziro oyambirira m'masukulu, ndikuwonetsa chinthu chomwe chinalipo kale: "Makhalidwe ndi Psychology ndi psychology ya moyo wabanja."
Ndipo tsopano mpaka kwambiri m'masukulu m'masukulu amaphunzitsa msungwana momwe angatetezeredwe ku mimba yosasankhidwa. Ku Europe ndi ku America, kwatsimikizira kuti nthawi zambiri timakambirana za maphunziro ogonana, zimapangitsa kuti ana aphunzitse ndi achinyamata.
Ndikhulupirireni, iyi ndi mutu wa mitundu imodzi mukangolembedwa, zigawo zina zimadzuka, ndikofunikira kudzuka pasadakhale. Ndipo ine ndikanakonda kuti iye anamva, kuyitanako sikunabadwidwe sikuchokera ku chikangoko, munthu uyu akudziwa zomwe akunena.
Ngati sitilimbanalira pano, tili ndi vuto la anthu pang'onopang'ono, koma kutsika pang'onopang'ono, ndipo tili ndi zinthu zomvetsa chisoni. Ndimakondanso ngati Amisalav, motsutsana ndi kuphunzitsa maphunziro ogonana m'masukulu. Atsikana ambiri ali ndi zaka 15 - 16 ali odzichepetsa kwambiri. Samaganiza konse za moyo wachikale.
Poyamba, pokambirana pamutuwu, amakhumudwa, koma kenako akuganiza kuti: "Chifukwa chiyani sindine amakono, kubwerera m'mbuyo, mwina china chake chalakwika?". Ndipo pano mutha kusintha mtsikanayo monga momwe mumafunira ndikuyika chilichonse.
- Ndi momwe atsikana amathetsedwera pa mafunso onsewa?
- Ndikagwira ntchito ndi gululi, sindimayesa kukhudza mitu yake, ndimapatsa atsikana omwe ndimacheza kenako titha kukambirana popanda a Mboni, ndipo osachita manyazi. Nthawi zambiri amafunsa thandizo. Ndimapereka malingaliro othandiza, kuyambira ndi phydiology. Ndipo m'makalasi onse, ndimauza mtundu wa mabere amtundu wa m'mawere, kodi ndi njira yamitundu iti yomwe iyenera kukhala. Mwachitsanzo, atsikana pazaka izi sadziwa kuti chifuwa chiyenera kutetezedwa ku zowawa, ndizosatheka kudzudzu tokha. Amalandira zambiri zomwe zimaperekedwa mayi wachilendo. Pankhaniyi, mtundu wodziwika wa Oksoni Fdororov ndiwothandiza kwambiri, pa chitsanzo chake cha mayi wochita bwino komanso mayi wachimwemwe, amakhala wabwino kwenikweni kwa achinyamata ambiri. Atsikana amakomo chifukwa cha zochitika ngati izi zimamvetsetsa kuti kukongola ndi thanzi ndi chinthu chamtengo wapatali kwambiri chomwe pali mkazi.
- Zikuwonetsa kuti mfundo yake ndikuti pamisonkhano mumadzibweretsera nokha atsikana okha omwe amasiya ana amasiye? Ndipo iye amakhala wotsika kwambiri?
- sizotsika kwambiri, sizikuchepetsedwa. Amakhala mwakuthupi komanso adziwa kumbuyo, amawopa kufunsa zinthu zambiri. Nthawi zina zimakhala zofunikira kubwereza kangapo chinthu chomwecho, sindikufuna kunena kuti akukula, koma amafunikira chisamaliro chochulukirapo, ndipo muyenera kuchita nawo mlanduwo, komanso mwadongosolo.
- Atsikana awa adaponya azimayi ali ndi zaka zobadwa, pazifukwa zosiyanasiyana zowasiya kuchipatala. Ndipo atsikana ali ndi bwanji, mwayi wokula, osabwereza tsogolo la amayi anu?
- Mukudziwa, mwatsoka ilo akuti azimayi omwe adadutsa ana omwe sazindikira bwino m'moyo. Ichi si chinsinsi ndipo ndidzakhala kunyamuka, ngati ndinena kuti onse adakhala mtsogolo mwa akazi opambana. Koma tsopano ntchito yathu, pamisonkhano iyi, imawasintha kuti ipambane, apatseni kukhazikitsa koyenera. Kupambana sikuyenera kukhala chitsanzo ndi korona pamutu ndikusilira amuna onse kuzungulira. Chimwemwe cha akazi mwanjira ina mukakhala ndi banja labwinobwino, lokhazikika, mwamuna wabwino, mwana wathanzi.
Ndikofunikira kunena kuti chisangalalo cha mkazi ndi nkhani yopyapyala ndipo ndi osalimba. Ndikofunikira kunena kuti chifukwa cha maloto ake adzafunika kugwira ntchito molimbika, kuyimilira kwatsiku ndi tsiku. Pangani chithunzi cha banja losangalala, chinkawoneka mawu osavuta, ndipo pali ntchito zambiri kumbuyo kwake.