Duk dangantakar ɗan adam tana da hadaddun kuma tana buƙatar aiki. Amma yaushe ne ya cancanci dakatarwa? Lokacin da dangantakar ba ta da ma'ana? Muna ƙoƙarin gano ɗan kwakwalwan kwamfuta, jima'i Larisa Konstantiniti.
Labaran 'yan adam-jima'i-mata, jima'i Laria KonstantinitiDi @lori_Talks:
Dangantaka ta kasance har zuwa wani lokaci, yayin da suke ma'ana, dalili, manufa. A cikin dangantaka, muna gamsar da bukatun wani yanayi daban. Zamu iya zama cikakken cikakken-full-full-full-fullur, amma nemi wata ma'ana a cikin dangantaka - da bukatar soyayya, misali. Kafin wannan bukatar ya gamsu, mutane suna cikin dangantaka. A zahiri, ba zan iya ɗaukar nauyin kowane mutum kuma ya ce kuna buƙatar barin, saboda ra'ayoyin keɓaɓɓen ra'ayoyi game da alaƙar sun bambanta. Shawarwarin zai yiwu idan mutum ya kasance cikin dangantaka yana da haɗari ga wani.
Babban abu a cikin dangantakar shine tunanin mutum da aminci na zahiri
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A lokacin da da kansa ba ya aiki daga dangantakar, wanda yake kawo azaba da rashin jin zafi, ya cancanci tuntuɓar kwararre, kuma tare da ku tare da ku zai riqa wannan hanyar. Babban abu a cikin dangantakar shine tunanin mutum da aminci na zahiri. Zan ba ku shawara ku bar idan akwai sabani masu rikitarwa. Abu ne mai matukar wahala a hango wasu biyu waɗanda ba sa haɗuwa a wani ra'ayi na siyasa ko kalli aure da yara. A mataki, idan yana yiwuwa a yi nazari da fahimtar mutum, ya dace ko a'a, yawanci muna aiwatar da tsammaninmu wanda baya amfani da waɗannan tsammanin. Da farko, muna zuwa ga gilashin ruwan hoda, yi imani da cewa abokin tarayya ya cika tsammaninmu. Lafiya, idan haka ne. Amma, a matsayin mai mulkin, to, a kan cizon da kuka fara fahimtar cewa abokin tarayya ba shine abin da kuke so ku gani kusa da ku ba. Amma tunda psnyche mutum ya hada mu kare mu, adana makamashi, za mu fara baratar da abokin tarayya. Wani lokacin aiwatar da wayar da kan jama'a na iya kasancewa na dogon lokaci, shekaru.
A lokacin da da kansa ba ya fita daga dangantakar, wanda ya kawo azaba da rashin jin daɗi, ya cancanci tuntuɓar kwararre
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Yanke shawarar karya koyaushe yana da matukar wahala, saboda yawancin ƙarfin tunanin ana saka su cikin mutum, kudi. Kowa ya yanke shawara lokacin da ya kamata ya tafi. Wani zai iya kasancewa cikin yanayin takaici, rashin daidaituwa da rashin jin daɗi, kuma wani ba za a iya jurewa ba, lokacin da wani mutum, bisa gaji, ya sanya cokali biyu a ciki, me zan so. A kowane hali, muna neman abokin tarayya ne ga tsinkayen iyayenmu. Mun fada cikin soyayya tare da wani abu wanda aka saba da shi, kusa. Kuma wannan aboki ba koyaushe yake jin daɗi ba. Zai iya zama zalunci da sanyi. Maza masu sanyi galibi suna batun yin ado da kyau, domin mahaifinsa ya yi ko kaɗan. Wani ya fada cikin ƙauna tare da fitarwa, a cikin abubuwan da suka lalace da kuma abubuwan ban sha'awa - duk wannan ta farka.