Zai yi wuya a ƙaddamar da mutum ba tare da nuna wariya: tsarkakakkun sani, kwararar sabbin dabaru - duk wannan yana mafarki ne da ba a san shi ba. A zahiri, shi ne shigarwa "ganima" mu, yana tilasta mu gurbata manufar wasu mutane da abubuwan da suka faru tare da mu. Gano kanka da budurwa a cikin wannan kayan - a raba cikin maganganun abin da ka lura.
"Na yi hassada da Mashha, amma cikin fari ..."
Kwawarta "fararen" da kuma "baki" sunadarai a cikin ilimin halin dan Adam baya wanzu. Hasashen hassada wani abu ne na tunani na al'ada, asali a zamanin da a lokacin gwagwarmayar rayuwa. A zahiri yana son kansa mafi kyau - yana da mahimmanci kada a manta da yin ƙoƙari a gare shi. Sanin motsin rai kamar yadda suke da sanin su - zai zama mai sauƙin canza hassada kan farin ciki mai kyau ga ƙaunataccen.
Nemi sabbin hanyoyi
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"Kawai dole ne in so - da kuma duk duniya a ƙafafuna"
Shigarwa a jere zuwa abun da ya gabata. Gaskiya ne, ba kowa bane ba kowa bane daga kalmomi zuwa ayyuka - galibi don cimma girma da kuma inganta yanayin rayuwa ya ƙare tare da rikodin burin a cikin littafin littafin. Kada kuyi tunanin cewa duniyar ta tayar da ku kawai, kuma makoma kawai yana jira don samun mafaka mai kyau - komai ya fi wahala. Ku yi ƙoƙari ku yi ƙarin magana, to duk burinku na shekara-shekara zai fara raguwa a cikin jeri ɗaya bayan wani. Tallafawa aiki da ƙishirwa don sabon ilimin shine mabuɗin ci gaban mutum da ci gabansa a cikin shirin na Allah da abin duniya.
"Wataƙila ya cancanci ba shi dama ..."
A cikin budurwa da yawa Gerius, sai ya sake tunawa da wannan magana, don tunanin ban tsoro. Wanene ya yi wahayi zuwa gare ku cewa kuna "kyakkyawan jima'i" saboda an haife mace ne kawai? Kasance da farko mutum ne mai kyau - kar a kunna ji da sauran mutane kuma kada ku nemi fa'idodin abokin tarayya. Kada a kunna sadarwa kawai saboda kuna tsoron zama shi kaɗai. Idan baku son wani mutum, gaya masa game da shi kai tsaye da kuma nutsuwa ta karya - ba shi da ma'ana don jan murmushi yayin taro da wani mutum lokacin da, a quari, ba ka damu da shi ba. Ka ba shi damar zama farin ciki kuma ka zama farin ciki da kanka.
Bai kamata mutum bai yi tunanin niyyar ku ba
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Zan sayi jeans don girman girman - kawai rasa nauyi don hutu "
Dakatar da tilasta kanku don rasa nauyi: Ba a buƙatar ku bi ka'idodin kyawawan abubuwa. Abubuwan da suka dace suna zaune a cikin adadi alama ce ta halayyar mutum ga jikinsa. Son shi da inganta naka, ba saboda ra'ayoyin da ba su da yawa a cikin maza da aka sadaukar da kansu ko rashin fahimtar budurwar. Kuma kada ku kula da kwanan wata: hutu ko ba hutu ba mahimmanci. Idan burin ku shine rayuwa mai kyau da farin ciki, to, abinci mai kyau, wasanni da tsabta na tunani ba zai zama gwaji a kan hanya zuwa gare ta ba. Yana zuwa kafin wannan tunanin, don fahimta: Ee, Ni kaina na so in rasa nauyi ba tare da shawara ba.
"Allah ya ba da bunny, bayarwa da ciyawa"
Wannan jumla ta jimla sau da yawa yana fitowa da zama tare da halayyar ɗabi'a ga haihuwa. Kada kuyi tunanin cewa kun sadu da ƙaunataccenku kuma kuyi aure isa ya rayu tare kuma cikin farin ciki. Ku duka ya kamata ku yi ƙoƙarin tara babban birane zuwa ga bayyanar yaro: Aikin ɓoyayyen ɗan adam, da ikon fitar da jariri a da'irori, kuma kowace rana don ɗaukar nanny. A mafi yawan ku bayarwa akan "fara", da sauƙin zai zama don zuwa ga "gama" kanku.