Education of children is one of the most important and most difficult duties of parents. Each child is unique, each needed its approach. To bring up one kid is difficult, and when there are more - difficult - it is doubly. It is important to note that not only parents face difficulties, but also their firstborn. The emergence of the second child can be stressful for older children, because for him the birth of a brother or sister is rather a reason for anxiety and jealousy than for joy. The older child literally collapses the picture of the surrounding world. He is accustomed to that all the attention of parents, grandparents, grandfathers and other family members, even guests coming to the house, are aimed primarily on him, and not that a small creature, which is just sleeping and screaming. All this can cause the aggression of the child, its uncontrollable behavior, protest. In order for this stress to somehow minimize, it is necessary to prepare a child in advance to the fact that a brother or sister will appear very soon. From this point on, its attitude towards the future kid is already being formed.
Relations between children can develop in several scenarios. Very much depends on the floor of both and the difference in age. The author of this text is also a mother, and she does not know what conflicts between children are, especially if children are different and the difference between the ages of 5 or more. The older always wants that the younger will obey him and unlocked his instructions. The youngest child, because of his age, all the time expresses discontent, what is trying to prove that he also mean and with his opinion also needs to be considered. And so indefinitely. Of course, in such a situation, it is very important to maintain composure and resolve disputes without screams and reproaches, because it is our parents who learn to communicate, building relationships in the team, they will copy them to the Manera of conflict solutions. So how to be? We will try to give you some practical recommendations to eliminate disagreements between children who hope you will be useful.
Rules for adults
1. First of all, try in any situation. be objective And do not blame in all disputes of one of the children, because your main task in the event of a conflict between children is the ability to help them peacefully agree. Try to become an intermediary in their negotiations, but in no way judge.
2. Try to say Quiet and income With each of the children. Help designate the boundaries of your own and general territory. The same applies to toys. Teach children to ask each other's permission to temporarily take advantage of any toy or thing. Watch from the side of how communication between your children proceeds. At the moments of conflict situations, as far as possible, let them resolve the dispute.
3. Conduct as much time Together with the whole family . Do not find out the relationship before children, it is very important for them to grow and develop in a healthy and harmonious setting. And do not forget to praise children for their successful interaction, for independent resolution of the conflict situation.
It is worth noting that every child has its own preferences and, choosing one or another section for development, try to listen to what is really interested in each of the children. Do not impose the youngest those sections that once visited the elder child. Someone wants to follow the example of an older brother (sisters), and someone is categorically not. Hell listen to a child and respect his choice.
Eva Avdalimova, first-year student Mum