In recent times, you hear from all sides: "I'm all infuriates", "My husband has trouble - he has a spring exacerbation," he was just a psychic "," we were crumbling yesterday "," at work with a colleague "and so on .
Wherever the soil arose conflict, it's still a nuisance that needs to be solved, and it is better to avoid. Ideal - to come to such a situation and solving the issue so that both parties are satisfied - to find a compromise. Tell you how to do it.
Emotions
Do you like when you scream on you, do not listen, interrupt and bent your line? I think your partner is also delighted with this. Do not think that you are stronger, smarter, right. Disconnect emotions and take a conflict situation soberly, and your vesati is not so stupid.
Cry of the dispute is not solved
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Was there a problem?
If you look at the conflict calmly, it may turn out that the problem is not worth the "left eggs". It happens that the person himself cheapes himself in an even place.
"He is late, he does not love me, he is not important our relationship, oh he, well, I will arrange him." And this all falls out on the head of her husband, stuck in traffic because of the accident.
Herself came up with, herself offended
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He herself had invented, herself created himself a problem, herself was offended, herself arranged a scandal. Agree, in this case, the phrase about the "Spring exacerbation" appears. Think less, more calm and positive.
Time for conversation
I hope you remember that there are "owls" and "larks"? To the first it is better not to climb with serious conversations in the morning - get under the hot hand. As a rule, the "owls" in the first half of the day are swinging for a long time, wake up, so everyone annoys them and they are evil. With the second, it is absolutely useless to talk closer to the night. They have no strength to think and solve something.
Conversation
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The optimal time for conversations is an hour and a half after lunch. The full interlocutor is kind. It is the middle of the working day, when the "owls" are already cheerful, and the "larks" are not yet tired.
Well, if you just see that a person is annoyed with something, then to climb him with negotiations in this case - this is a 100% chance to run into a conflict, and you need it?
What is the reason?
We are used to understanding the finished conflict, but maybe it is necessary to analyze his cause to begin? Having found it, just next time you do not do that, inshet.
The head gave a task, and you think that you should not do this? The next time clearly register your job responsibilities with management and agree in advance: I will print the documents, but there is no essay of your daughter.
Conflict can be warned in advance
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Folk wisdom reads: Before you go to joint swimming, agree on the shore, and then no conflicts.
Leave the past in the past
The old resentment, it happens, remember the inappropriate way, and we present them to the interlocutor. What for? The past is no longer changed. It is necessary to forgive and forget, and not to inflate the flame of a quarrel again. Whether the old mistake will lead to problems in the future - we cannot predict, so there is no point in worrying about this too.
Live here and now
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Start living here and now, learn to enjoy the moment, look at the world positively, and then most conflicts will bypass you.