Any refusal is always an unpleasant experience, especially when it comes to personal relationships. For a woman, the partner can strongly affect self-esteem and adequate perception of themselves as women, and everything is more complicated with men - the hard floor often flows into the most real rage, if intimate plans are disappearing not by his fault. Why is this happening? We decided to figure out.
It is believed that sex is a physiological discharge for a man that has nothing to do with emotions, but not everything is so simple. In fact, the self-assessment of the male partner suffers no less than the female, and this is one of the reasons why a man often reacts too rapidly to the failure of a woman.
You can also often find the opinion that men are accustomed to hearing failures, since most often they act with the initiative, and yet psychologists, and the men themselves, assure that the discrepancies in sex can cause serious psychological trauma and even lead to depression if A man hears refuses more often than he catches interested glances.
The woman may have many reasons for refusal.
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Why are men so hard to perceive the simple "no"
It's all about our differences in the psyche: a woman can refuse the near today, and tomorrow will offer herself, and there is nothing surprising in this, given the dependence of female sexual attraction from the emotional attitude. A man perceives the refusal to a specific day as a complete indifference to him as a man as a whole. It seems to him that his woman in principle no longer wants, and therefore something is wrong with him, hence the complex of inferiority with an addition in the form of aggression to a woman.
Moreover, often aggression is replaced by a complete indifference to the sex or by sex with a particular woman, although she herself can not understand what happened at all that could cause such a reaction from her beloved.
In other words, aggression from the man is nothing more than a protective reaction when a person is difficult to cope with emotions and keep them inside.
What to do?
First, not to respond to aggression on aggression - you will only make a serious conflict, which in special cases can lead to a rupture. Try to calm down yourself and calm the partner. Secondly, sit down and talk: if in your pair misunderstandings in the soil of sex, this situation is important to discuss and find a common language, if before that you or your partner poorly understood the hints of the second half. Be frank and do not leave the discussion of key moments - the further development of your relationship depends on this.